After NoFap, I don't put random hot strangers on a pedestal - don't check out women

That's what a wise man should do.
You are on the right path.

 

I don't have a girlfriend/wife yet, but that's exactly how I wanna be.
At the moment, I just appreciate the kindness the women give, when they talk or have a nice attitude towards me. Because yeah, you have the egoistic over-the-top hot ones on one side and those radical fems on the other.. And both need help.

Your own woman should be more than enough for a time course of, let's say, eternity.

 

I'm a single guy so I don't have to ignore women's beauty. I actually love checking out a women, especially when they look at you and you make a tacot connection with them. It makes me feel good and that's why I do it.

Don't understand why anybody would want to ignore a woman's beauty. I guess when your married maybe its different because you feel guilty or something.

 

I'm with the OP on his main point. We give away our power when we pay more attention than is needed to looks.

Sure it can feel good to flirt but weighed against that are all the times staring is a vacant habit that does men no good and encourages women to judge themselves by their looks.

 

Not 100% on you with the why you do it (maybe 70%?) but I agree on you, nothing possitive comes out of checking women out, I love your attitude!

 

Glance don't stare they my have have nice chest or butt but look into there eyes and see how receptive they are eyes are the window to the soul I agree after NoFap I stare less and pay most women no mind but I still will smile at them and make eye contact but I don't go out of my way anymore really but there's times when I can't help but glance at beautiful women especially when my libido has been rising in the past few months

 

The less you look at women, the more they look at you. That's the irony. If women are 'attention seekers' then how can they seek your attention when you give it to them on a plate? Don't peak and watch them seek (peripheral vision).

 

The truth is that women live seeking the attention of men. Their social life comes down to this.

 

Damm this is excellent quote, absolutely agree.

 

As a mature woman and one whom has been ogled over 20 years I would like state to the woman being “attention seeking” isn’t really true. We women like to feel respected and respond better to feeling respected rather than objectified. So the “don’t speak and watch them seek” says to me that there is confusion on that front. Show real respect for women beyond just their physical and you will have better response. There are a few threads on ogling and objectification in the tebooting in a relationship forum, one in particular Ogling from female perspective.
Yes there are younger girls and some older women that do seek but think about where that comes from, think about the pressure that men, media and even porn puts on women of what they “should be” physically and behaviors. Society has helped to create the idea that women have to have these attributes, certain looks and behaviors to be considered as attractive, to complete with each other more so than the man himself, it’s a false sense of personal validation similarly to how Porn gives false ideas on what sex really is to the men.
Think about all those professional daters telling men how score, essentially that are teaching men how to pretend to be respectful to get laid and move on. That shit is all manipulation towards the other person.
Not to mention articles telling young girls how to keep your man and be good in bed, it’s a superficial same type of thing and truly sad in my opinion.

 

Hey Jennica, I consciously chose the word if and used quotation marks around ‘attention seeking’ as I’m fully aware of this stereotype. From a male perspective and from my experiences, females don’t look at males as obviously as we do. It’s often more subtle. Hence my point, the less we look, the more opportunity you have to glance without feeling objectified or without being misinterpreted. Anyway, it’s great to get your insight. Thank you

 

I see that, and thank you for responding to me. I just wanted to point out there is a lot more to it goes deeper. Most women especially the more insecure they are and younger girls are usually more insecure are more competitive with other women for the superficial validation, it’s not actually about the man. The more secure and mature the women it’s about feeling respected and valued.
I hope this makes sense.

 

Agreed! There sure is a lot more to it.

 

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