After 8 months without porn and masturbation

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  1. llortaton

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    Really?
    What do you do instead of Youtube? :eek:
     
  2. llortaton

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    That's amazing.
    I hope you an your wife live the greatest and most prosperous life anyone has lived.

    I'm 14 right now, and when I was 5, my parents would argue all the time... They divorced when I was 6.
    A lot of my life's struggles comes from my parents hating each other.
    I have a tough life at home, because, although my parents are divorced, they're still living with each other right now...
    Along with my 2 older brothers.
     
  3. SirErnest

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    You're doing rather well mate.
    As for music, don't forget such wonders as North Indian Classical (sitar etc; deep and ancient stuff), but if it has to be Christian then don't forget we can go all the way back to about 1200 for Church music. And Bach! Monteverdi!
     
  4. Barnabas_

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    Big stress, argument with me wife yesterday. Normally in the past I would try to escape this tension with masturbation (or porn with masturbation).

    To me porn and masurbation give FALSE PROMISES:
    1) False promise of ESCAPE after hard day, tough emotional situation (s)/conflict, when feeling overwhelmed
    2) False promise of QUICK REWARD
    3) False promise of REVENGE when my wife rejects me and I can go to "another" women (on the internet).

    Always when I believed these lies in the past I ended up in:
    - fear
    - guilt
    - shame
    - irritation
    - emptiness
    - feeling worthless.

    So praise God, not this time. I learn to process tough emotion and solve problems/conflicts without P and M.
     
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  5. Barnabas_

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    Today 150 day. 5 months of life without porn and masturbation.

    Still struggling from time to with anger - this is my main weekness.

    The last two months showed me that a lot of energy was released to start 2 new challenges (like diet/exercises). Sort if domino efect: first freedom from porn, than freedom from masturbation, afterwards from edging, now more and more inner freedom.

    Apart from problems with anger management, I have more self control/self discipline. No more watching you youtube with contents that is dangerous. No edging.

    A big improvement with relationship with my daughter.

    In general, I am more aware and learning that there are and will be problems in life, but instead of escaping to P or M that was never a solutions, I have more strenghts to deal with problems/tough emotions.

    Life is much better without P and M.

    All the best bros:)
     
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    When you stay away from PMO then your faith in God grows easy because of you don't create a barrier between yourself and God with sins like P and M.
    Also as your faith and relationship with God grows, Holy Spirit works on you, making you calmer and happier and in many other ways better human being.
     
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  8. Jufddee

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    Hey brother seriously it's good to see a man of God..
    Who's really doing some courageous things.
    Can u be my mentor sir..
    I couldn't even cross one day right now
     
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  9. Jufddee

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    Great brother
     
  10. Barnabas_

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    Thanks brother. I give all the glory to Christ. I rely on Him. Mainly through reading the Bible He is giving me strenght to stay clean.

    Relying on my own strenths I would not be able to stay longer than a few days.

    Let's write on a private message, if you want, I will try to be useful.
     
    Last edited: Jun 19, 2019
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  11. Jufddee

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    Thanx bro...
    Yes through him anything is possible
     
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  12. Craig Values

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    Great post brother and thanks for the motivation!
     
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  13. Barnabas_

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    Thanks brother and have a good, PMO free day.

    :)
     
  14. Powerous

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    Congrats my bro!
     
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  15. Barnabas_

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    Finished day 170.

    Today day 171.
     
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    fantastic job, thanks for sharing, I will stop you tube then, you are right, you tube is dangerous with it's content, I will stop you tube, actually Facebook too, I wish you never come back to porn, have a good life :)
     
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  17. Barnabas_

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    Thanks! For you too brother:)

    Thanks to this website started also one month ago semen retention challenge (I am in a marriage): today 35 days. Learning to have sex in a marriage without an orgasm. This video also inspired me:
     
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    Thanks for sharing.
     
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    Day 174. Learning recently to change the way I think and applying these words into practice and daily life. Especially appreciating more what is good in life and other people (wife, kids, mother, brother, boss, etc).

    "Finally, brothers, whatever is TRUE, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is PURE, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any EXCELLENCE, if there is anything WORTHY OF PRAISE, think about these things.

    What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you." Letter to Philippians, chapter 4, verses 8-9

    Also knowing that I cannot change the past, but the way I think today will have influence on current day and the future.

    “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a GIFT of God, which is why we call it the PRESENT.”
     
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  20. Barnabas_

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    Started day 179 (no porn and masturbation). No orgasm/semen retention: day 42 (I am in a marriage).

    In 1-2 days will write an update - more about last 30 days.

    A Word of God that has inspired me today:
    "I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless." (Psalm 101:3a).

    Have a good day brothers and stay free!
     
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