After 270 days of abstain: depressed and started reading sex stories

I agree that you have to do NF for yourself. Doing it to get a gf will only make you depressed when you suffer rejection.

 

Good stuff Thomas. Keep it up buddy

 

I see your point of view man, I am pretty old to still not have experienced sex and relationship. Even seeing from your perspective I am compelled to make that a part of my goals, not a final goal, the final goal is balancing my dopamine/reward center.
Till now I have experienced such sexual pleasures through virtual means at a click of a button, again and again. This is what I have targetted and I want things that are positive and helpful to be my reward and dopamine booster. Good things should make me feel happy not Porn. I know that I will suffer a rejection, Who doesn't?
I have to set this right, form relationships with the opposite sex and divert my pleasure seeking behaviour to constructive things.(This part is already going great).
Please also look at my point of view without bieng too harsh <<----This is not for you but anyone reading this.

 

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TLDR; you are like me. stay away from sex stories. I went down that path and it just leads to weird shit. Those stories are worse than porn in a lot of ways because they are unbound by reality altogether. build up the social life you want and take the next step. buy programs and books on getting women and the people in your life that you want. I can send you some digital ones if you want. have a vision so that this nofap thing actually has purpose and meaning for you beyond the intrinsic benefits of hardmode. Its what I did and it led to results in the past. Dont be lazy like I was many times before and fall back into PMO.

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you are like me man. I had success with nofap and reaped benefits with a couple of 90 day runs and 30-40 day runs, and got gfs, but my relationships were inconsistent, and rejection stung. I just relapsed yesterday. I was the same with youtube even, I had to cut that out of my life. However, I think I will go on another long run again.

We need to just build the bridge and take it to the next step. Because we are doing this with the end goal of getting the social life we want. Personally I do not want to go the REST OF MY LIFE without orgasm. Want to just get rid of M and P. Other people here might and that is ALL GOOD. It all just depends on what you want really.

My personal next step is to my game with women and life and keep a vision of the social life that I desire. If your interactions with women are not working, as they were/are with me, buy books and programs on attracting women and do that shit. That is what I have done and it lead to my previous relationships.

If you want a recommendation of programs and books I can give some to you, and even send some over digitally somehow if you want. I'll save you money brah. I've spent a good amount on these books and programs, and they are GREAT. However, I have not always took action on them and got lazy and fell back into pmo and thats why I am kinda in the position I am in now where I dont have the social life that I exactly want right now. But when I took action on them before I got RESULTS.

WE CANT BE LAZY AND FALL BACK INTO PMO.

If you have a job and have some income, THATS GREAT. You can start doing cool shit. You dont need a shit ton of money to attract women. If you dont, get some income. You dont need any money really if you got good enough game, but if you want to really live the life you want... you should at least be self sustaining with income. Also meetup groups are probably pretty cool. I haven't really gotten into it that much but plan to.

I recommend staying away from dating websites as well. This was a trigger for me.

For me, I understand that if I up my game to a certain level I will be able to get what I want with who I want, and have positive and free interactions with women. The people around me will benefit as well as me. This is my vision.

 

If I may ask, how many we dreams did you have throughout this period of time? Thanks in advance.

 

Keep going man, don’t screw it up for yourself, imagine recovery is at like 2 years, if you relapse now, you have a lot of time to make up to get to that 2 year mark so don’t slip now. It sucks I know but you have a girl, make her make you O or maybe rub one out for yourself once you get to 180 days to get things going again, without P and very minimal fantasizing of course. I kno you should advocate masturbating on these forums but I find it not practical for a man to withhold orgasming for so long.

 

That is your problem, right there.
You felt REJECTION. That's why you started to read those sex stories.

You have to work on your mindset.

1. If a girl "rejects" you, it doesn't mean ANYTHING.
   • She could have had a bad day, her period, had a stinky mouth or whatever. Don't take it personally
2. If you don't approach girls, you won't get laid.
   • Of course you are horny, of course you want to fuck. And of course: You have fear of being rejected. That's why you don't approach women. You know what? In YOUR STATE RIGHT NOW, a woman would be the luckiest woman on earth if you chose her, because you have so much sexual energy built up -> She will feel sexually accepted, secure and loved. BUT: You have to go out. You have to embrace this fear of rejection. Otherwise you keep on reading sex stories.

You can do it!
I recommend you the "Rsd free tour" channel on YouTube. The dude there explains you everything you need to know about women for FREE. He tells you what to do.

Best regads
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