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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Pistolero, Jan 13, 2018.

  1. Pistolero

    Pistolero Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys and girls I just stared nofap this past week hoping and believing to alleviate or cure my premature ejaculation. I've been using porn since about the age of 12 and am now 24. I would masturbate purely with the intention of just having an orgasm. I remember when I was younger the process was so long and would either fast forward or masturbate intensely fast. Fast forward 12 year and I've apparently perfected the fucking process. Now it takes longer to find a video than to actually orgasm. I literally can and do pop within 15 to 20 seconds ,and it was never was a relevant problem until I had my first girlfriend back when I was 21. We dated for a little less than a year. The relationship was good but the sex was horrible. I couldn't satisfy her to any extent and would pop within a minute, if that. Didn't help that she was drop dead gorgeous, but regardless I tried everything and everything failed. I've been looking for similar stories and have had nothing to somewhat relate. I feel different I guess because pre ejaculatory sex is the only thing I know. I also feel like I cant date my only girlfriend left because of the sex and that led to resentment. Id like to think I'm a good looking guy and women flirt and ask me to hang out but idk I guess I don't want to put another person through that because then ill feel like shit for not being able to satisfy a women. Just kind of dreading explaining that to someone because I feel I have to tell them prior to any physical activity.
    But regardless I tread on with hope of rebooting my system and gaining self control throughout. I don't expect a miracle overnight, but if anyone who has been through a situation similar to mine, please chime in I would like to know what I'm looking like.
     
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  2. Hey @Pistolero ,

    First, welcome to NoFap. I'm not anyone special, just an ordinary member. For me, reading journals helped me find my own story. Sometimes in one journal, sometimes it took multiple journals to find pieces of my story in each one. Here are some to start reading. You'll find more as you go along.

    @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/150280/
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    @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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    @Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
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    @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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    @Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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    @BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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    @Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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    @kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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    @tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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    @Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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    @Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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    @zakes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/149243/
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    @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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    @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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    @LilD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147764/
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    @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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    @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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    @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    @Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
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    @PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/

    It's a great place to read other's ESH (experience, strength and hope).

    - L
     
  3. Hey @Pistolero (again),

    Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place. My experience here is that I needed to:

    1. Learn the NoFap program.

    2. Get involved with the community.

    The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    Then, watch this video:



    It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

    The video explains it better than I can.

    Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

    Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    L

    PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
     
  4. Pistolero

    Pistolero Fapstronaut

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    thanks I appreciate the advice hopefully it helps!
     

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