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Addicted to transwoman porn and no prospect of a relationship in near future

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by amin021023, Jan 3, 2018.

  1. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    The time that I'm going through is a little bit stressful because of final exams and the big test that I got. since my country is religious, strict (Iran) and living in a small but even more religious/strict town I won't be able to have a sexual partner until I'm married which can't happen in next couple of years.

    I tried NoFap before but I get so horny, dejected and lonely and insomniac and anxious and specially horny that I relapse and give in to my transwoman porn addiction (also tried to masterbate naturaly but doesn't realy work)

    the porn addiction has really fucked me up, destroyed my self steem and is a source of very negative/bad thoughts that assail me everyday. it's been almost a year since I started fapping to transwoman porn.
    I'm 23 years old and my big test is in 3 month.

    Update: to be honest I thought having a partner to help you through rebooting was essential but having re-read nofaps website content I just learned that it advises abstinence from sex too? I am a bit confused.
     
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  2. David stone

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    U are doomed. What can you do to save ur life?
     
  3. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    All I know is that I'm doomed.

    to be honest I thought having a partner to help you through rebooting was essential but having re-read nofaps website content I just learned that it advises abstinence from sex too? I am a bit confused. I mean what am I supposed to do when I get super horny or anxious?
     
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  4. Wicked Game

    Wicked Game Fapstronaut

    I think that abstinence from sex is only advised to those ones who are having porn addiction inside a relationship or have very heavy sex addiction. Since that's not your case, maybe it's not bad if you find a partner. A good person can help you improve and become free from your addiction.

    If you're not allowed to have sex because of your religion, it doesn't have anything to do with nofap. It's totally a different topic.
     
  5. FeatheredTalo

    FeatheredTalo Fapstronaut

    Keep reading. Explore this site.

    The idea of NoFap is to promote the amount of time, energy, and relationship success for your future. Everyone on here is going through similar situations.

    My advice to you, in just the few days I've dedicated myself I've found a list of triggers that make me want to masturbate. By recording that, writing in a journal, it makes me reach for other things, like video games or watching a movie or reading my book.

    If you find yourself a partner within the time you illustrate your frustrations in communication instead of sex--write poetry, drink tea, suggest going for a walk, etc. Basically do anything to get you out of the flat/apartment/house.

    You got this.
     
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  6. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    Exactly my point ! I'd like to have a partner but I've never had and won't have in near future
     
  7. Having a partner isn't essential at all. In fact being single is a good opportunity to quit the habit and later on start a relationship that isn't "polluted" by P addiction.

    Also, semen retention is good. It can make you feel like a badass.
     
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  8. Hitto

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    I'm sure he is kidding bro I can relate I was getting into transwoman porn and that's when I knew things were turning for the worse but after a 9 month streak I can't even imagine why I was attracted to trans women maybe because I wasn't receiving attraction from women in real life that was kind of an escape but each and every time I fapped to it I had so much shame and after I was like wtf I'm I doing so it will get better just end the cycle of pmo
     
  9. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I guess you're right. but I find it hard to believe that semen retention could make a guy feel badass

    Then I guess we can all agree my "loneliness" is a separate problem then
     
  10. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    yeah this whole thing really sucks, it's all fucked up
     
  11. Try it and see. Maybe you can imagine feeling badass from going a few weeks without looking at P or masturbating? Of course you won't feel like a badass 100 per cent of the time, but then again you can't feel any feeling 100 per cent of the time.

    Loneliness is a normal emotion that everyone goes through, even married people etc. But if you're feeling lonely an awful lot then I hope you start feeling better soon!
     
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  12. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    yeah I can imagine that. can't beat that logic, you're right.

    thanks man, really appreciate it
     
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  13. amin021023

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    So the situation has gotten very unique. technically it's been 5 days without porn/masturbation but I was about to relapse on the second night because of the severity of my situation (call it rationalizing or pretext but I have my final exams next week and you know how final exams are) but when I tried to open a website I found the Internet has been slowed down so bad that you can't watch a video clip online and luckily I never kept any porn offline, the reason that the Internet in my whole country is fu**d up is because of the civil unrest that had been intensified recently over here in Iran and there's no way to know when the government is going to restore the Internet back to normal.

    So, I relapsed or didn't is my question and what should I do ?

    at first I thought Wow I'm so fortunate (when I found that I couldn't relapse) but now I'm really having a bad time so confused and on edge and anxious that I find myself smoking tobbaco and weed more than usual
     
  14. I think you should forgive yourself and try to move on from the incident, with your streak intact!

    But next time try to just notice the urge thought in your head and stop thinking about it. Don't encourage dangerous thoughts. You may need healthy distractions but just don't give in to urges at all!
     
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  15. amin021023

    amin021023 Fapstronaut

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    update: I just fapped but not watching porn, that's still not possible. however I couldn't refrain myself from thinking about transwomen while I did it...does that count as relapse?

    @hermit_ninja
    yeah I do try to be aware of my feelings and urges all the time, I have and do practice mindfulness but what do you mean by dangerous thoughts? like whaat thoughts?
     
  16. B better

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    Sorry dude but I would have to say yes because you did it using artificial stimulus, ie your fantasies. Just get straight back to it though and learn from this
     
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  17. amin021023

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    so it wouldn't be considered relapse if I didn't think about transwomen/fantasies ?
     
  18. B better

    B better Fapstronaut

    Depends on what kind of challenge you've committed to. If you're just doing no porn then you can fap as long as you don't use porn or fantasy
     
  19. I just meant any thought that could lead to a relapse. That includes obvious things like a thought about some P you saw, but even a thought about being with a girl you know could lead to trouble if you encourage the thought. Know what I mean? Having the thoughts is okay, just don't encourage them. Try to move on from them. Since you're into mindfulness you probably know what I mean.
     
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    Try to get urself away from the things that make u horny.Take cold showers, Eat simple food and vegetables.Don't eat spicy foods and avoid much meat food.Spicy food makes one more horny.Use ur energy in exercise it will help u to avoid being horny.
     

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