Addicted to Cuckolding and PIED. HELP ME PLEASE

You can go back to your normal self but its gonna take some time. have you already cut out all porn?

 

If you stay off porn for a few months, you are likely to forget about the stuff that just turned you on a bit when you watched porn about it. You will not stop liking the things you really liked. Eg. I am certain I could stay off porn for years and still be a convinced cuckold.

But sure, knock yourself out and try 3 months without porn. See how you feel then.

 

Yea this is quite alarming. Are you saying you would still be a “convinced cuckold” because you’ve looked at cuckold porn for so many years or because you believe it’s who you truly are? To think there’s no escape from thoughts like that is pretty demoralizing.

 

I am quite convinced that this will be the case, yes.

My reasoning is that firstly you will simply be horny enough for that. Secondly, you may still like cuckold scenarios, but your mind will not be so obsessed about it anymore because you stopped constantly feeding it with this obsession! Thirdly, it is also quite possible that you will have almost forgotten about this idea. Maybe it is just a fad for you.

I noticed that when my wife is cucking me, I am absolutely wild about her and we have sex with each other all the time.

Once she stopped with an affair, this effect slowly goes away. I mean, I am still horny for her, but not as much as when she has an affair or shortly afterwards.

Now that I stopped porn, I am pretty horny to have sex with my wife even though she is not cucking me at the moment. That is simply because I am more horny because i don't wank as much.

So yeah, I think you will be ok whether or not you will choose to be a cuckold. Just stop the porn.

I started watching cuckold porn after my wife had decided to cuck me. It was her idea, not mine. I was already a porn addict, but hadn't watched cuck porn yet.

I clearly intellectually believe that being a cuckold is a good choice for many husbands and their spouses.
At no point did i get into any kink that I have because of porn. My kinks are parts of my personality and i am happy with them. That is why I believe years of porn abstinence will not change my kinks.

I can only believe that some obsessions that some (rather weak minded) person picked up from watching porn will go away after a few months of not watching porn. Those are not true personality traits, they are just temporary interests.

So no reason to be demoralised. Just embrace who you are and reject the things that you don't want to be. Explore your feelings.

 

I think it’s unfair to say they’re weak minded. I truly believe watching enough porn can change what the mind wants. *Sigh* I might as well admit this, this is NoFap after all. I’ve had a major cuckold fetish combined with an interracial fetish since I was roughly 14 and it’s only grown stronger over the years. I even went as far as to pretty much beg my girlfriend to cuck me with a black guy. She entertained the thought but ultimately backed down.

Are you saying this is who I am and I need to just accept that or could years of watching this kind of porn be to blame?

 

I don't think you can put any blame on the porn. That is just a cheap cop-out from responsibility.
You chose to watch this porn, there is a reason why you got into this so much in the first place. Explore your feelings about this, it is up to you whether you want to accept this to be a part of you or if you want to change.

The choice is yours, just as much as it was a choice to bring it on in the first place. Stop blaming video clips, even though you feel that might help your ego.

Even if you really like it, this does not mean that you need to become a cuckold at all. You don't have to act on all of your desires. You may also find out that you don't really desire it, you just like it as a fantasy. I have often fantasised about watching my wife have sex with another man. My wife told me that she fantasised about watching me having sex with a man. We discussed turning all of this into a reality and came to the conclusion that we prefer to keep it a fantasy.

What I find disturbing about your fantasies is that you mention that the guy needs to be black. With this you objectify both the guy and your girlfriend. The healthy approach is to offer your girlfriend to cuck you, but of course she gets to choose the person to have sex with. And whether she wants to do it at all, of course.
I am just adding this to put cuckolding into a more positive light. Cuckolding should not be about pressuring your partner into things she does not want to do.

 

You’re right, I’m objectifying them. I agree with that completely and won’t deny it. The problem is that’s how the fetish works for me. Because of how I’ve conditioned my mind the only way I get turned on by being cucked is if it’s a black guy. I don’t know how this exactly happened but that’s how it happened. So basically I’m a sick pervert that is objectifying people and I need to do everything I can to get this shit out of my head. Of course I can’t objectify my girlfriend anymore, she broke up with me partially because of my porn addiction.

 

I think you need to find the right grip on this. How much would you like to be a cuckold? Do you think everything would have to be on your terms if you were in a cuckold relationship? Do you really think you can deal with the jealousy that comes with being a cuckold? Why do you think do you have this weird idea that the guy needs to be black? Do you think you would still be happy with your partner if she stopped being a hotwife?

I agree that it makes a lot of sense to turn off the porn while you are pondering on these questions. When answering them, you have to imagine, it was all real and you would have to talk to the guy, or you need to wait until your girlfriend comes back from a date. Reality is very much unlike porn.

I hope sobriety will set in over these questions and you will come to terms whether this is just some silly idea for you or whether you really believe you and your partner would be happier in a cuckold relationship.

And no, I don't see you as a sick pervert. You may have annoyed your girlfriend, though.

 

I think I need to stay away from porn and do everything I can to “reboot” my brain. I have completely warped my brain with porn and when it comes to my sexual desires I can’t tell up from down. I just want to return to the way I was when I was 12 going through puberty.

 

I am not so optimistic that this will happen. You are a grown man now and some of the ideas you have is what you really like, others are just silly ideas. Even if you will not live out some of the things you would want to, it does not mean that you will not be able to have sex without it.

I think it helps to reduce the drama around this a bit. The less you make a drama about it, the more likely it is that you will come to a realistic conclusion about how you want to live.

 

Thanks for sharing everyone. Well, I think nobody is right here. There's no absolute answer when it comes to personal issue.
I have had a cuckold fantasy as long as I can remember... probably ever since I got married to my wonderful wife. We had been together for a long long time (10 yrs dating+7 yrs marriage). I am her first and I really didn't have much experience before her either. I really love her, but I can't help myself wanting to see my wife screaming under a young hunk, truly enjoying herself. I mentioned my fantasy to my wife a few times, but she wasn't so happy about it. She would sometimes play along when I tell her during sex, but that's about it. Now that I am trying to cut PM(O) and also realizing that it's not her thing, I wouldn't talk about it anymore, telling myself that I have better things to care about than my sexual fantasy (trying to regard it like PMO).
I realized my cuckold tendency through internet in the first place, seeing many people are enjoying this lifestyle. I sense that they are not necessarily porn-addicts. And many of them are actually successful people who gets their shit done. One cuck told me that you need to be successful first to really enjoy the cuckold lifestyle.
For now, I am not gonna think about anything sexual, but I know, in the future, if my wife ever changes her mind, I will seriously reconsider (unlike porn).

 

this is what I call a healthy attitude.

 

I guess you’re right. I’m just going to abstain from porn and then we’ll see how I feel later on.

 

I couldn't let a woman cuckold me. I cant image that level of disrespect, the abject humiliation, being emasculated involved in cuckoldry. I don't know what's in it for you? I'd rather divorce my wife then allow her to step out with another man. I could comprehend a voyeuristic fantasy of watching my wife with a woman, but cuck stuff, I wish the porn company had the courtesy to block it for me.

 

Good for you. But you should also know there are a lot of people who have cuckold fantasy. I am not gonna justify or explain myself here since it's nofap after all, and honestly, I find your reply unnecessary here and chauvinistic to some extent.