This might be less complicated than you may think / feel. There are several layers to this but you first of all have to be totally honest with yourself and then totally honest with her and then be man enough to let her be totally honest with you. Where it goes from there is about doing the right thing the right thing here is for you to become the right person for a relationship before you commit to one. I have been in several relationships- some good and most a disaster. I am married in a bad marriage and now at the age of 50 I realize how selfish I have been for so many years. If you don’t love this person for who they are let them go so they can find someone who can and will love them for who they are. My goal here is 90 days no PMO and along with that making other real changes in my life. We all have issues to deal with and HONESTY is best way to deal with them even and especially when it’s not easy that’s the part of manhood we all need to grab hold of. I wish you the best. I’m new here and have my own issues to contend with. I’m on day 5 and I’m so glad to have found this forum. Theres a lot of real and raw truth here and I appreciate all the honesty people are sharing.