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Basic Plains · May 5, 2014

over the last few days I feel like I am getting closer and closer to failing on my challenge. I feel like I am getting softer and softer with fighting the urges. this is strange because I want so badly to beat this addiction. I know people say, if you relapse you hadn't really given PMO up. I don't think I need to reset because I haven't PMO'd but I feel really bad for letting my thoughts get the best of me. I'm just really struggling right now and could use advice on how to take the next few days.

Warwick · May 6, 2014

I found that things got very intense for me around the 14 day mark. The thoughts can be disturbing, but they are only thoughts,..they are not you.
Be gentle and forgiving of yourself as you would like to be with others..you are important too.

Basic Plains · May 6, 2014

thanks, its good to know that its not just me, but maybe its just as I get to this point things get harder. I appreciate it warwick.

MLondon · May 6, 2014

Having just finished my 30 days of 'hard mode' I know the exact feeling you are talking about. I often felt out of control but didn't give in.

Accepting that stress and anxiety were responsible for my cravings, helped me move on with my day. If you feel the urge, take 5 minutes out. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths and relax. Then go do something productive.

P isn't worth the fallout!

Basic Plains · May 7, 2014

thanks guys, anon I think your idea of thinking to myself "I don't watch porn" and "I don't masturbate" is amazing. I have been doing something similar where I tell myself I will not give in, but I like the idea of saying I don't give in instead. its a small difference but I think it will make a big difference in my confidence.

NotAfraid · May 7, 2014

Anon Hymous said: ↑

Hi yellowtimo,

I know exactly what you're feeling because that's also what I'm experiencing sometimes. The thing is that because you've already made a good streak, you tend to "let go" a bit. Your brain might try to trick you into believing that you somehow deserve to PMO because you've been abstaining for a long time.

However I found something that works exceptionally well for me in these situations. It comes from NLP. What I do is that I simply think to myself: "I don't watch porn" and "I don't masturbate". And to add a layer, I can add something like: "I'm an awesome guy and a great human being".

It's just impossible to relapse when you empower yourself like this. Resisting urges becomes easier this way, and it reinforces or even renews your committment.

Hope that helps.

Anon
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Yes, the affirmations are a good tool. I've used them a lot in my life.

Homever, saying "I don't" has a negative influence. Instead saying it like this: "I let go of the need to masturbate" and "I let go of the need to watch porn" is more beneficial.

Peace.

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