A New Beginning

Discussion in 'Women in Reboot' started by Newgirl, Aug 27, 2018.

  1. Newgirl

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    Wow! Hadn't noticed he had deleted his account until you pointed it out hope he's ok :)
     
  2. R.o.B

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    Yeah, hope he is fine. :)
     
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  3. GSW9

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    Now that I'm here, you can continue to update your journal if you want to Ms @Newgirl !! ;)
     
  4. R.o.B

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    You seem really positive and inspiring. You are spreading positiveness and balance mindedness in the nofappers by being strong and dedicated and positive. And only struggle makes us stronger... And you must be fighting your own. But you are inspiring. I adore you for what you are :) Keep moving! Keep healing! You need to keep fighting the fight! That's the only way out :) all the best!
    Hope you keep doing wonderful sis, and become your best self, day by day, till you achieve whatever you want! :)
     
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  5. Newgirl

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    Thank you soooo much for your kind words! I was feeling a little down but you have definitely cheered me up :)
    We are all here to get and give support, we are fighting against the same monster and we need to stick together. We are all very valuable people and we deserve a good life free of unnecessary baggage so we can travel light to enjoy the beautiful scenery life has to offer :)
     
  6. R.o.B

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    You say so sweet, it's like so beautiful if we loose all this baggage and travel light! :)
    You're very much welcome! :) Keep healing to become your best self :)
     
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    The Journey Continues
    Hello again from Reboot City!
    I've read many postings where members say that we shouldn't focus much on the numbers as we should focus on the changes and progress we're making. I do like seeing the numbers pile up but it also stresses me a little to keep count so I'm mostly focusing on my thoughts. And let me tell you it's hard keeping my thoughts under control but I know I'll soon get it right cus some days I feel so defeated it's so easy to start thinking the wrong thing in order to escape reality and that spells "Trouble" for me. Here is my list of observations I've made to stay motivated:
    • Don't interact with tempting thoughts once I start reasoning with them it's almost impossible to say no cos they have a way of persuading me into relapse
    • Masturbation is like an itch the more you scratch the more it itches to the point of desperation and nothing fulfilling comes out of it
    • I never watched porn but MO got me pretty close to it. I did read many so called educational articles on MO's benefits and facts and that was my stimulating source like a pre-porn material. It made me crave more detailed articles and intense reading material (this I find hard to confess but it was just a matter of time for PMO to find its way into my life)
    • I'm trying to understand why I fell into this addiction and for me I guess it was a coping mechanism, curiosity for lack of sex-ed at home, lack of parental touch growing up bc they were always busy working, a false sense of control that I got out of it, looking for immediate stress relief due to emotional and psychological abuse and some other reasons I'm still trying to figure out
    • I don't want to make myself look like a victim nobody forced me into this wrong thinking pattern it was all based on my bad choices
    • But I know that this can all be undone I can have a fresh new start to my life
    • It's good to look back to see where the problem began so you can take corrective measures
    Don't be too hard on yourself or you will lose the motivation to fully come out of it. It's time to begin celebrating our recovery our awakening from this nightmare. Cheers! :)
     
  8. 19conquer

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    Wow congrats on the streak!!!
     
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  9. Newgirl

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    Thanks! :)
     
  10. DAIKICHI

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    You are respectable person for me. Since I started my journal, I relapsed twice before now. When I relapsed, I felt weakness of me. But I began to think that don’t blame myself is important to keep motivation and to grow up through NoFap, thanks to this thread.:) I sometimes see that you cheer for new woman Fapstronauts. Your kindness help this community and me. I want to be more kind person like you.
     
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  11. Nice post, its good to see you figuring yourslelf out, i think youll go a lkng way before your through. By the way, i didnt know you never made it to porn, that puts you a step ahead right out of the gate and you should be proud you never went down that road. I sure wish i didnt. :)
     
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  12. Newgirl

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    Thank you for your kind words!
    You're also a motivational force because you're not giving up :)
     
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  13. Newgirl

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    Thanks Batman! Your feedback and your encouragement means a lot to me. I see something special in you, you will come out of this addiction with a vengeance never to go back :)
     
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  14. Solomon435

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    Wow, what a nice post! I like the list too.

    Bleh, sorry, I'm feeling a bit under the weather recently.
     
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  15. Newgirl

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    Thanks my friend! Sorry to hear that, take it easy and rest. Stay positive :)
     
  16. Thanks, i really appreciate that :)
     
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    Hello from Reboot City!
    Day 46
    28-11-18 :)

    I haven't been posting due to school work, coming tired from work and chores at home have also kept me busy and away from journaling. I do believe that it's good to stay busy to avoid a relapse but I also think it's not good to overdo it cos too much work can also trigger a relapse. Finding balance is key to success. I have to admit that my reboot journey has not been easy but it's getting better the longer I stay commited to saying "NO" to this addiction. Earlier today I did feel very tempted to Google naughty MO articles not really because my body had an urge but I feel like it was my brain trying to get the high I had gotten used to. So how did I handle it? Well I decided not to entertain the thought and came here to read my journal for motivation. It worked cos it reminded me of my past relapses and how bad they made me feel also it reminded me of my reasons for quitting. The motivating replies I've gotten also helped me a lot. So I would like to encourage my fellow NoFappers to keep a journal so you can see your progress and for motivation. Cheers! :)
     
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  18. Hey, long time no read. Well done fighting the urge today, im glad to see you mean business. Keep up the great work and keep inspiring, good luck :)
     
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  19. Newgirl

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    Thanks for your encouragement, Batman :)
     
  20. GSW9

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    Well that was a very good decision on your part to come here, reflect on your journey & find some motivation to not give into cheap thrills..

    Congrats on 46 days, cheers & keep going :)
     

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