A mild case (or so I think)

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  1. Milkjug2345

    Milkjug2345 Fapstronaut

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    Hi, I have read through many posts in this Forum and it seems that my case is pretty mild in comparision to a lot of you guys here but I need help nonetheless.

    A little background:
    I am 29 years old. I have a pretty good career path as a lawyer and decent social skills and other stuffs 'normal' people have. I have relationships like normal without any issues with several girlfriends in the past. I'm engaged now and we will soon move in together this summer.

    However, I have this old habit of masturbating frequently and I think I have a porn addiction. Aside from the Chaser Effect, I usually have the urge to masturbate out of nowhere: at work, at home, in bed, during bath time, etc. And, to my shame, I have even masturbated in the restroom at work. I have also have the urge to check on some of the few porn sites that I frequent 'just to see if there's anything new', which would normally end up in me masturbating, and regretting right after (which I think is normal for people with any kind of addiction).

    I'm afraid that I might have PIED so I have to stop this madness. I have realized this several years back and my longest streak ever was like 2 months. Then I kept on trying and kept on relapsing everytime without fail. Now that I'm at this point in my introduction, I realize that my case may not be as mild as I think but this is a serious problem.

    I want to get rid of this habit once and for all. For now, I have blocked all those porn sites with my firewall, have a habit tracker but I feel like sharing my experience may be a better bet. After reading some posts here, I think this is a very supportive community that can help me.

    I hope I can do this. I need to do this.

    Thank you for reading.
     
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    220woof671 Fapstronaut

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    2 Months of No PMO is Very Good ……. :)

    You can do it !!!!!!!!!!!!! Check out the list below for tips you like -- and make your own list for Success. Or leave it here and refer to it whenever you like.

    Benefits of No PMO:

    1. No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easier to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-2 seconds.
    2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
    3. No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
    4. Increased motivation
    5. More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
    6. No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
    7. More Free time for Good things -- (not going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.)
    8. Women are becoming less of a priority or need.
    9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
    10. More Respectable -- (online comment) "if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
    10. Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness

    *Not all days are wonderful. Somedays are so-so ...… many are common... some are difficult due to "flat line"... But who wants to go backwards -- to weakness, shame and disrespecting yourself, etc.?
    Y-o-u can change! Y-o-u are 100% in control. Y-o-u call the shots!


    Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations:

    #1 Secret = Get Off Your Butt and Go Outside [temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with hygienic women (or men for females) 6- Go to store and buy yourself a treat (reward) 7- Do your favorite hobby 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9- Go walk a wonderful dog "Woof!" 10 - Have a "WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Meditate to help relax yourself; or take a break; or take a nap (remind yourself that you are 100% in control and 100% responsible for your behavior-actions) 13- "All Things Are Possible" 14 - One day at a time 15 - Positive Personal Hygiene (brush teeth; shower) to keep your self-esteem high

    A great way to have SUCCESS over urges or temptations is to make a quick LIST OF GOALS and OPTIONS. (Just make a quick list -- you can add to it later.) Then read the GOALS and OPTIONS when you are tempted. (I made a simple list the first week -- now it's a habit -- like a memory.) In a sense, you want to 'hold a knife' to the throat [carotid artery -- side of neck] of your 'feelings.' You are the boss -- you tell them what to do. If your 'feelings' disagree with your goals (No PMO, self respect, power) -- tell your 'feelings' where to go. You can call your list: STUD LIST, SPECIAL FORCES LIST, LIST OF OPTIONS, etc. (whatever works for you.) Make a list to help prepare yourself for Success. It only takes a few minutes. Being human, you will run into occasional urges or temptations. You'll need a list of activities/options that is quickly available to help you succeed at your goals:)

    APPLICATION = SUCCESS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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