A few things that must be said...

Since I also decided to adhere to this way of life (not due to this movement, it was my own decision), I felt the need to say a few things about it. I am a guy, 32, heterossexual, have fapped for 19 years.

I stopped since 2016 started (445 days ago). I am not going to write a lengthy explanation as to why women were always disappointing for me (and I mean ALL of them), and how I just got fed up (with them and society) over the years, because that's not the point. And we can always read these justifications elsewhere, so to write them here it will seem like indoctrination...

Suffice to say I don't want anything with women, even friendship. Not even escorts. In fact I prefer to live on my own, not that I am an introvert, it's just that doing things with other people bores me to death.

What I can tell is that if someone went back 6, 7 years ago it would have found a totally different person. Sometimes I used to fap 3, 4 times a day. I watched lots of porn. I thought about sex/women very often.

Over time I got so fed up that all those things were greatly impacted, as in "there has been a huge decrease of satisfaction" from them.

So I stopped gradually to fap. I reached a moment in my life when I stopped completely.

But my interest in women and sex was never actually fully controlled.

I decided to quit using the internet as I always did (only this year), and from watching porn even if it's once a week or month. My idea was to do this to focuse only on a few things I am studying.

It was only very recent that I realized that it's 1000 times harder to stop the urges to consume porn (and the internet) than it is to stop fapping.

I know that I have a level of detachment that allows me to continue without fapping forever. What my brain isn't coping is with the idea of an ascetic life.

When I see women out there they still keep me interested.

There was even the addiction of reading messages about sex experiences with escorts from my area, and the urge to visit another one, one more time. I've only been with escorts (four) all my life, and the last time was in the end of 2015. None of those experiences were enjoyable.

Then after finding this site I decided to think about why I can easily stop fapping, yet I can't control myself when it comes to porn and have sexual desires. It always takes a while, however they return. Even though I see porn now as it should be, something utterly artificial, contrived, unreal.

The answer must be that you don't quit any addiction or anything harmful because you have the will to do it.

You are only able to achieve this if your mind is busy with anything except the very things that trigger a relapse.

Meaning that you need to constantly remind yourself why this isn't good for you and how it has lost its appeal. This is the only way.

Blocking your own access to such sites (for example) won't help AT ALL, since it's in the end valuing something that needs to be treated with indifference.

If you have to concern yourself with your addiction, then you are giving it too much importance.

Even by counting the days like I did is counterproductive. You need to have goals. Clear objectives. When someone's efforts are totally devoted to anything that makes the person forget about the vices, they are no longer able to exert any influence.

Sure, it's easier said than done.

The way I see is this: like only eating food that tastes good. If it's junk then it's always bad for you. It doesn't matter if we always like when we eat it.

Healthy food isn't that nice, yet it should be chosen instead. How do you always counteract the appeal of the bad food? Use your mind to deconstruct them.

You need to remind yourself 24/7 of your goals or at least try to do any productive activity as much as you can with things that don't involve the bad stuff.

All I am saying in this thread must feel like a cheap advice, yet it isn't by any means, I learned that the hard way.

As for porn, for me to strip its importance didn't even require me to withdraw from relationships with women.

I only had to look at it with a more critical view, as in watching documentaries, behind the scenes, reading interviews or seeing how the women who once looked good are now totally different.

How actors didn't enjoy or regretted, etc. etc. Even the small things such as the stages set in multi million dollar homes instead of moody, dark lighting of the past, were decisive for me to not think about this as good as I once thought.

Or the fact that all people involved are always the same (physically), and always acting the same way. For someone that likes to escape from a boring routine, this isn't fun.

In the old days I only had to look at a woman in a magazine, or watch any video to feel aroused. Now when I see it, it looks more like animals copulating for me. Back then I wasn't thinking about what was happening in my screen AT ALL.