A Bright New Day! Let's All Commit Together

I've heard countless times to do something else when cravings happen but I've never actually MADE a list. That sounds like something that would really help cuz in the middle of a craving it's hard to think about doing anything else... Just look at your list and pick something! I'll try that thanks

 

@Dawkin - Awesome I'm glad you're going strong same here. Again I'm just focusing on where I'm going and what I'm doing. I very consciously avoid situations where I'll be alone even for a couple of minutes it just doesn't work with me.


Here's an overkill list that you can personalize to make your own. I find it beneficial to have a schedule, like, Monday and Thursdays I play Baseball with my friends and hit the shower right after; cold of course. Wednesdays is design & code day where I spend the evening talking about design and code with a bunch of friends in one of their houses. Stuff like that helps. I'm married so it helps to come home to a wife and not be alone most of the time.


Visit the zoo.
Find out about your area's community center and/or park activities.
Wash the dog. (A neighbor's dog if you don't have one!)
Have a family slumber party.
Build a fort or tree house
Fly kites.
Get out the the family photo album.
Research your family history.
Visit the Genealogical library.
Play stickball.
Play hopscotch.
Clean the house together. (Have a pick-up party.)
Make up a play. Take it to a nursing home.
Go on a family trip/historical excursion.
Did it snow? Go sledding and make a snowman.
Make a collage
Set up a lemonade stand on a warm day.
Shoot hoops together. Play H.O.R.S.E.
Play foursquare
Draw pictures
Make a family calendar.
Tell stories around a campfire. (Or at the barbecue?)
Organize a game of capture the flag.
Make miniature boats and float them in some water.
Write letters to grandparents or a missionary.
Play freeze-tag.
Tell scary stories (With lights out.)
Play broom ball.
Go for a hike.
Go for a bike ride together.
Learn to play the guitar together.
Listen to classical music
Organize a community clean-up.
Visit the library.
Go ice skating or roller skating/blading.
Paint a picture, a mural, or a room.
Learn how to use a compass.
Organize 72 hour kits.
Plant a tree or some flowers.
Garden
Learn the metric system.
Learn sign language.
Learn Morse code.
Go swimming.
Go bird watching.
Walk the dog. (A neighbor's dog if you don't have one!)
Visit the countryside.
Pick berries/fruit together.
Bake cookies or bread.
Make homemade jam.
Take treats to neighbors or friends.
Join a family choir.
Start a family journal.
Go to a museum.
Take a nature hike trail.
Start a family exercise group.
Sing in the car.
Make crafts together. Give them away.
Make Christmas ornaments together.
Write a story together.
Put a sleeping bag out in the back yard and watch the night sky through binoculars.
Go fishing.
Play touch football.
Have a culture night. Make a meal and learn about another culture.
Take photographs.
Invite friends over. Cook foreign food, such as Chinese.
Do yard work
Play Frisbee or Ultimate Frisbee.
Make your own family cards for the holidays or birthdays.
Play chess, bridge, or checkers.
Go camping.
Go for a long walk.
Play charades.
Go around the table after dinner and have everyone say what they love best about each other.
Climb a tree.
Watch the sunset. Watch the sunrise. Figure out when the sun will rise and set in your location.
Have a big party and celebrate a TV free week.
Have a picnic. (If it's raining, have a picnic in the family room on a blanket.)
Invite a non-member family over for a barbecue.
Memorize Bible verses.
Learn how to fold the American Flag (or your country's flag). Have a patriotic night. Have a flag ceremony.
Visit an elderly person or someone shut in.
Have a first-aid night. Invite other families to come. Call the fire department for a class.
Have a budgeting class. Save for a family trip.
Learn how to build a fire and cook hot dogs.
Have an etiquette night. Practice your skills over a formal dinner.
Talk about drugs. Do role-playing.
Have a friend come and discuss good nutrition and health practices. (Kids don't listen to mom.)
Learn home repairs for an activity. Make sure the girls learn too.
Prepare a family group sheet/four generation pedigree chart. Interview an older family member.
Start a family collection. (Coins, rocks, stories, dress-up, clothes, treasures.)
Have a family testimony meeting.
Have a baking contest.
Have a family fireside.
Watch an old movie (maybe a western) together.
Make a family goal chart.
Learn to play golf
Go miniature golfing.
Make a family cook book.
Have a family treasure hunt.
Solve a puzzle together (crossword, word search, or jigsaw).

 

Another successful day yesterday! This morning was rough, I had an early start and was alone so I jumped at the opportunity to drink my poison booted up the laptop started to browse for about 3-4 minutes when, by God's Grace, I stepped back shutdown the laptop and hit the showers.

I don't want anyone to assume that this came out of nowhere, it never does. I was at a bible study the day before, went running, played basketball, helped a friend with a project, have been working in public, keeping a strict eye on where I go physically and digitally and posting here regularly to stay present. All of that helped me get past my 1 week mark which is really hard.

The next great battle will happen, well, who knows when! The only thing I can do is continue on with my road work, because as soon as I hit the ring the match will have been decided and the weight of all the training will be behind me supporting me!

 

A rough afternoon, I got caught up in staring at this drunk girl in the street. I think she wasn't the real problem, the real problem was I acted really mean to this worker at a store and he was offended and got frustrated with me because it wasn't his fault and I apologized and told him it wasn't directed towards him but his associate who didn't communicate properly. I also called my friend for 25 minutes without him picking up and I needed him to pick up so I could get directions. I also was angry about a project I was working on because at the same time all this was happening I got a call regarding a budget cut for the program even though it was previously approved. WOOOW. That felt great.

I had no idea all that crap was going on and why all of a sudden I just started spazzing out and staring at this girl wanting to edge there all day, it's because I felt like crap! My brain was just trying to find some rest is all.

Well, I tell you what I'm a lot more compassionate with others now because I see how easily you can fall into that pit and how hard it is to climb out.

Thanks everyone for being here to listen to me. I really would have wasted a whole week PMOing because once it starts, i've learned, it usually keeps going until the weekend hits and I'm too busy and happy to continue PMOing.

 

Doing well now. Got a lot done and am picking up a new skill/hobby, writing. I realized I need to learn to write better.

One day at a time, right?

 

Me too Dawkin, I had to really study my life to see what was the issue. I've built a newer, better system. I start my day with Prayer and end my day with Prayer. This is working extremely well! I also think these thoughts anytime my mind starts wondering to bad places, "Those things are only admired by dogs, you are a prince. Think of the heavenly things.". It's working surprisingly well, I just remind myself that I don't want to be that person who fantasizes about things, I want to be the person who actual attains those things, I mean, the good and Holy things. That and I've come to understand that I admire the things I admire because of what I was taught to admire, junk. I will teach myself now to admire the good and Holy things and if I day dream I'll day dream about those things.

Godspeed to you all.

 

Today went well, yesterday was excellent too until one incident caused me to go nuts for about an hour. I can't believe how much a single incident can completely hurl a person in the right or wrong direction. One argument, one disappointment, one thought, one word, one instance, one hour can change a whole life.

Anyways, I'm still on track and moving forward, keeping Prayer and a solid schedule of diligence and productivity as a way of life.

God help me, God help us all.

 

Sorry to read you've both reset. You've both got the motivation and commitment to do this.

The low points are hard to get past for sure. I'm on here now because I've had massive urges this morning to throw in the towel, not just fall into it but actually deciding to. I quit my construction job yesterday and after a string of similar jobs getting me nowhere have decided to move on from the industry and get into something else. I guess this feeling of starting from zero and having to go to the job center is making me feel low and that I've got nothing to loose by resetting.

Also I did something pretty low at the weekend...this girl I saw a few times a few months ago got back in touch with me even though i had told her not to before. I dont find her attractive but she's easy. She lives in a town an hour away so i told her to get the train down and i'd take her out for a walk and camp out near to me. I picked her up at the station took her for this walk out in the country being all nice to her, ,fucked her in a field then immedietly after had such a low feeling for doing it and went right off her and on the walk back to the camping spot was being really honest and not very nice to her. Then i told her the camping was off and took her back to the train station and was out of there. I used her, she was pretty upset. But i just thought she was nieve cus i'd done that same sort of thing to her before.

Sorry i've gone way off topic there, just wanted to tell that to someone. But some good did come out of this. I realised after the deed was done that i had just given away 2 weeks of sexual energy to someone i didnt care about. And i realised from that, that i dont need to objectify women because it is not worth giving away your sexual energy to someone that you dont really care about and want to share more than just that with. This happening has helped me see clearly how i used to objectify women, and also how great it is to keep this sexual energy within until you naturally meet someone you care about.

 

....my run has also ended. Have been sat about the house all day on the computer considering giving in and starting again. Left several times but in the end went through with it, twice in fact. I was feeling like I've cheated my goal with what happened at the weekend (read above)so on this occasion I'm getting it out of my system and starting again. I know this is making excuses but it was a decent run and I want to start with a fresh mindset.

 

I'm sorry to hear you had a reset wonder, I'm sure you'll be back up in no time.You did a great thing by stating the job issue since that's a real war. The battle is mostly about finding something to do and somewhere to be 9-5 until you find a job. It's not to be underestimated. Thoughts like "I'm not successful" & "How long will it take me to change careers" are really frightening. The unknown in general is frightening.

Take it one day at a time and take it one step at a time. Here's your chance to build a stronger foundation.

Ask yourself deep questions like:

- What's the purpose of life; of your life even?
- Why did you start this challenge?
- What's bothering you?

 

Lets do this! (Kid President Style)

 

Hey Klahhh thanks for your thoughts man, and I enjoy your posts.
Yeah no doubt full time employment fulfills time and mind, no matter how much you may hate it at the time. This for my is a career change, to go along with all the other changes, and so is a good thing. You're right though, these thoughts of self doubt in these times can be huge and PMO is a comfort or pain reward that you've become used to over the years. It's an engrained degenerative habit that has to be replaced. In these times it can be it's most destructive, and like many others on here I've fallen to it over and over for years.

Went to a huge rock festival here in the UK over the weekend, let off a lot of steam anger and frustration as well as having a lot of thinking time suprisingly. My mind actually a lot of the time was taken up with thinking of the material in my last relapse. I again realised how damaging viewing this rubbish can be. It stays in your mind, haunts you and doesn't allow you to think clearly.


In answer to your questions;
- To live as full a life as possible
- To live as full a life as possible

- At this time you don't feel like you're doing a good job of this