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A Bright New Day! Let's All Commit Together

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Dawkin, May 23, 2014.

  1. Dawkin

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    Harrison, you are encouraging all of us in here. Don't give in, because when you post, it is keeping us going full strength as well. Knowing how angry you are after we fail will slowly make you hate it!! Look at today and say, i won't let myself down. I want to post in this thread this evening to let everyone know I succeeded again.
     
  2. Dawkin

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    Stay away from triggers. Unfortunately, the internet and television are full of them. We are at our weakest when things aren't going well, such as feeling lonely, physically sick, getting into a fight with your spouse or they irritate you etc. Don't let any of those things convince you to have heightened curiosity and search for something that you know will only end up back at disaster. We only lie to ourselves when we say "hey, i will just search this one think but i won't cave in". We know the truth now, we see the light, so let's act based on our knowledge!!
     
  3. Dawkin

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    Getting through a week strong. 1 day at a time, 1 week at a time.
     
  4. Harrison

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    Did my 8th day today. Had strong craving last night but didn't give in.
    Let's hit for another day.
     
  5. Dawkin

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    Great job! I'm up to the challenge. Today is good for me.

    Focus on the battle and not the war. Each day is a battle. Win each battle and you will eventually win the war.
     
  6. GoRob32

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    Way to go man, on 8 days! Be patient with the cravings and negative feelings.

    Allow yourself to observe without judgement the physical changes happening to your body when you experience cravings. Is your heartbeating fast? How is your breathing? How do the soles of your feet feel? What are your hands touching? etc. This will aid you in making peace with them.
     
    Last edited: May 29, 2014
  7. Harrison

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    I had an interesting experience today.
    While doing my morning run I saw a nice looking young woman that was dressed very attractive (cute face, short skirt paired with long legs and you could see the muscles - I really get turned on by that).
    I passed her running home but still have her picture in my head.

    I try not to think of her, but every time I do (not fantasize, just her picture popping up in my memory) I get a strange "feeling" in my dick.

    Seriously, I even get an erection when writing these words.

    What is wrong here? Is this a normal male reaction of a male body seeing a sexy dressed, attractive woman?

    Or is this considered as pornography as well:confused:

    I don't want it to lead me to PMOing again.

    Had someone similar experience?

    Anyway, I think I am getting now into the 'harder' levels of this game.

    Wish me luck, see you tomorrow.

    @Dawkin: Do not give up, do not give in. It's good to know somebody is walking the same path with me. Shared power is double power.
     
  8. Dawkin

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    Quickly change your thought pattern to something else and stop picturing the woman.It will only lead to the pathway of failure! Control your thoughts. I am finishing out this week and weekend strong and won't let anything stop my progress.Is some mental picture of a random woman in your head you don't even know worth the heartache you will bring upon yourself by resetting? While you will be feeling shamed, disappointed and depressed, that woman will go on living her life. Think of her as your sister or aunt and perhaps that will change your thinking :)
     
  9. Harrison

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    Another successful day. Let's commit for another one.
     
  10. Dawkin

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    Another one for me!! Failure is not an option. Lets go strong for the weekend! We have strength in numbers.
     
  11. Harrison

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    I have to start over :(
    @Dawkin, you're the leader now.
     
  12. Dawkin

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    Sorry man :( Pick yourself up, you are not a failure. I feel your pain, but I have confidence that you will rise. Keep up with the fight. Honesty with yourself is a good sign!
     
  13. ponderingwonder

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    Wise words mr Dawkin. Women are the rulers of this game. They don't loose any sleep over all of this, and they are very economical in their time spent in choosing a partner. When they decide they want one they act on it quickly. The rest of the time they can be completey focused on the rest of their lives and shut off from men.
    This is why we must take power back and become in control of ourselves. There is so much out there in life to focus on and achieve, and you know what when you have done it and you are happy that is when a partner is likely to arrive, when you least expect it. Don't live your life ruled by women, be a shepperd and not a sheep!
     
  14. Harrison

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    I don't know if I can agree with you. There are also enough women out there that are addicted to the same s*** as we men are.
    And they definitely don't rule their game.

    If you are addicted it's your responsibility to overcome. Not the other's.
     
    Last edited: Jun 1, 2014
  15. Harrison

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    First successful day after relapse. No urges, only partial strong depression. Feeling better now. Commiting for another day.
     
  16. Dawkin

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    Let's start a new week! Pick your heads up high because there's no room for shame. Look ahead and not behind. Monday will be a great day.
     
  17. ponderingwonder

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    Fair enough point. I do tend to go a bit far with my general views.

    There is of course a whole spectrum of people out there. It's just when I walk down a busy street in town that's the kind of thing I'm thinking a lot. Women just seem so cold and shut off from interaction most of the time. I guess I just need to get used to living in a big city again from having a country life for a few years where people are a lot more open. I much preferred life like that.

    I will admit that my general opinion of women has been tarnished quite a bit in recent years. Maybe some of that's down to pornography addiction, maybe some just down to personal interactions.
     
  18. klahhh

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    Harrison, Dawkin, Ponderingwonder, i'll be joining you!


    First day with you all, fourth day since last fap.

    My mind has been clouded with a possible job interview. I like my job it's just I applied for a better job and now I'm playing the waiting game and that's messing up my daily routine which I can attest to is the real battlefield.

    Every time I cave it's not because I did something, like accidentally look at a girl but because I DIDN'T do something like Praying, eating healthy, being in public/family/friends, exercising, playing, etc.

    That's why I got beat this demon because it's trying to keep me locked up in this little bubble and deny true living.
     
    Last edited: Jun 2, 2014
  19. ponderingwonder

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    Welcome Klahhh.

    You sound like you've already got a foothold or a grip on things. You know why you want to quit, and why sometimes it has gone wrong. So just apply it and keep improving. I'm also spending a lot of my spare time applying for jobs, although I hate my current one!

    What's the longest you've gone so far?

    Good luck man
     
  20. klahhh

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    Thanks for the welcome wonder, I don't remember the exact number because I don't use the counter but I think my last run was 20-25 days. It was great, but honestly those 25 days were just the result of rearranging my life 2 months prior.

    I put together a list of things to do that were categorized into, spiritual, physical, mental, emotional and just plain out fun. Praying, Soccer, learning programming and design and taking walks with family. I also defamed fap related things in my mind, it works surprisingly well although it still isn't as effective as doing something because when you're defaming it you're still thinking about it ^_^ tricky beast. The best way to beat it is to simply walk away and start living.


    Thanks again for the encouragement. How about you, any advice?
     
    Last edited: Jun 2, 2014

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