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A bra too far....

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Soul Cage, Apr 10, 2014.

  1. Apr 10, 2014 #1
    Soul Cage

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    My phone went off..... it was a text from my wife with an image attached, I opened it and it was a picture of a very attractive new bra she had bought out shopping that afternoon..... that's all it took, I thought of it, then I edged. That's what led to it, 2 nights in a row I edged and on the second I broke, I just did it, I thought well if I'm going to do it might as well go out with a bang, got the oil out and all... then followed it up immediately with another.

    So I relapsed today, I was mere hours away from being back up at my personal best again, 16 days without MO, that is the longest I have gone in 15 years without MO..... it's sad when you put it like that, why does it have such a hold?

    However I remain strong on the no porn resolution and am determined not to break that, I'm well and truly done with it, that counter still ticks! Masturbation is a tougher vice to shatter though but I'm still hopeful, I know we learn from our relapses, I have learnt that edging, any edging at all, is just too much for me.

    New rule for a new streak: Edging is an instant fail, don't start if you can't go all the way. Be fair to yourself.
     
    Soul Cage, Apr 10, 2014
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  2. Apr 10, 2014 #2
    MelancholyWeightlifter

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    You said it man. M is waaaaay harder to quit then P. It's even more convenient and easily accessible then P, if that even seems possible.
     
    MelancholyWeightlifter, Apr 10, 2014
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  3. Apr 11, 2014 #3
    JohnnyTheFox

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    I agree with both of you. Edging and Masturbation is much more difficult to overcome than porn. It might seem counter intuitive to many. As you say, convenience and accessibility are part of the reason. We are on a bumpy road guys. Occasional slips with edging/masturbating are more than likely. But we will, in time, surely win this war of attrition.
     
    JohnnyTheFox, Apr 11, 2014
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  4. Apr 11, 2014 #4
    Soul Cage

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    Thanks for the solidarity guys, appreciated.
    It's like trying to quit crack while the pipe is still attached to your body!
     
    Soul Cage, Apr 11, 2014
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  5. Apr 11, 2014 #5
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    I have taken a different approach this time. My logic is this - why restrict P to only viewing it online or offline in books or mobiles? Edging as an act in itself implies that there were sexual fantasies going on in the mind, which lead to it.

    So any form of sexual imagination, fantasies etc. should also be considered a part of P and stopped right when they are triggered. The M & O will stop by themselves as a result.

    That's the theory I am testing with myself these days btw, and it is working out well so far.
     
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  6. Apr 11, 2014 #6
    Madrileño

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    Agree with that. Fantasy is the first step that gets that dopamine going then that is what contributes to cravings and with that M then if M why not enjoy it and PMO? It's a vicious circle which for me starts with playing some of my library of mental movies. It's like trying to stay off chocolate and hanging around the factory when they're cooking. Man that smells good. I could just smell it and think about it but not eat any. Are you kidding?

    Anyway, that's how it is for me.
     
    Madrileño, Apr 11, 2014
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