90 Day Success - New Job, New Car, New Girlfriend!

You probably don't belive this, but your mindset is the biggest factor when it comes to what results you get in life.

 

Getting the knowledge about how it affects my body is really the reason I decided to quit permanently, all the negative effects of it that I wasn't totally aware of before I came to this website makes porn very unattractive.

I simply decided I am finished because I now know how tremendously it has ruined parts of my life and taken away so much time I'm never going to get back.

Basicly same answer as to the first question, the knowledge about how to deal with this addiction. how it affects my body in a negative way. I'm done wasting away my life for feeling good for a few seconds out of several hours online. sometimes it doesn't even feel good.

I've been trying to quit for 11 years, but without the knowledge I found through this website I never really saw how bad it is.

Just quit, you are in control of your own body. feeling the urge? just go away from your computer and leave your mobile.

Integrate new habits in your life so you don't have time for PMO, something that has always helped me is being around girls, getting that femenine energy and connection removed my need for PMO.

I belive in all of you, I know it's not my thread, but I answer anyway ^_^

Congratulations on quitting PM

 

I did not understand if with this girl you met in the office you managed to "do something about it" or not, you managed to talk to him or did you combine something more? I ask because I read "new girlfriend" but you have not been very clear, or it's just my poor english! Second thing congratulations, your testimony pushes me to act! Third thing and this thing is very important so do not throw it in the trash as if nothing had happened (and this also applies to other people reading this comment), Do not use the word "become a man" because if you use these words to your brain imply what time you are not! it's like saying "I want to be skinny", if I want to be skinny, it's because now I'm not, do not you think, the brain believes everything you say to it! so instead of saying "I want to become a man" you use words like "I want to become even more man!" or "I want to become a man even better than I am now!"

 

Romans61, you're lucky. I'm on day 64 and don't see such a increasement in my life. I maybe see very small changes, but it's still not soooo much!

 

Wait why are you answering questions directed at the OP lol

 

Great, great, great! Keep going.

 

If you read it again you can see that it's directed to people that have succeeded, plural, at least two of them.

and we are in this community to help each other aren't we? I know I am. so why wouldn't I answer those questions?

 

Awesome awesome! Keep going man!

 

For me it's the fact that a) using images of women to get off on because you don't know how to cope encourages you to look at women in a very needy creepy unattractive way the rest of the time too b) I know that, when I have PMO to 'rely on' in difficult situations, I have a constant way out, making it less likely that I will bother to learn how to overcome the difficulty myself, so the difficulty remains in my life & c) most importantly, I want a better life for myself than that, I am a good person deep down, I need to remind myself of that until I feel it more in my heart. When I look at women, I want to know it's because I have something good in me to offer them, rather than because I am desperately trying to take something from them, hoping that I will feel good, if only for a few moments. PMO addiction is a big problem, so you have to think big and dig deep if you seriously want to stand a chance at real growth and self respect in your life. Good luck

 

Good Job....... Inspirational........

Great point !!!!!!!

That's such a great and concise [short] message I wrote it on a piece of paper and put it on my bathroom mirror.

I could see how he could get a new Audi........ either savings account........ or cash......... or lease (then write off as a business expense) -- many roads to Rome.



Hey....... how about "The Cars of NoFap" (NoFappers Goals)?

 

Great quote! I think this also applies to a lot of things in life. Recently, I have been trying to become more comfortable with myself. For a very long time I have gotten very upset about myself when I see attractive girls. But, why should I put so much importance into being sad about myself for a person I see for a short period of time, whereas for the majority of the day I am by myself?

 

Great quote! It implies to me a lot. It something I need to learn how to do.

 

My friend, your a inspirational guy, great story... Rob

 

Cheers bro. The psychology of it has been huge for me, I find myself coming back to this question of, but what's the point of overcoming difficulties if I can just do what feels natural/easy? Well, it's not always possible to think this way but the thing I keep refocusing on is the point that the choice NOT to fap matters because I matter, my life matters.. and if how I behave affects the quality of my life then that matters too. This may sound obvious but it's funny how what we think and how we feel is often different. For instance, I may think I am a good person, but I don't often feel like one. I may say my life matters but do I really feel that? Same goes for NoFap, if you do not feel that the quality of your life matters deep down, where is your inspiration to change when those urges arise going to come from?

 

Yeah, may aim is always to that 90 and beyond. I’ll let you know, thanks!

 

So just to reinforce what is already being said, as I approach the 90 day mark, NoFap is small but significant part of a HOLISTIC SET OF LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES that TOGETHER facilitate change - e.g. career path / physical & mental health / success with women. My interactions with the opposite sex, approaching day 90 of my reboot, are pretty much non existent. Is this because NoFap 'doesn't work'? no, not at all. It's because I am still overwhelmed by difficulty in most other significant areas of my life for now. NoFap is important to me NOT because I expect it to be the magic bullet in my life now, but because the commitment and habits it encourage remind me of what I am aiming for moving forward. To anyone just hoping for this one piece of dark wizardry to hack life with I do not recommend NoFap at all. To anyone open to the idea of long term life quality with a willingness to look deeply at all areas of their life, go for it! I have only seen positive results from my NoFap experience. It seems relevant to bring up the quote that 'people tend to overestimate what they can achieve in a year, and underestimate what they could achieve in 10'...