60 Days

Reached 60 days of noFap.

I can scarce believe it, but I did it.

How did I do it?
Habits.
Hobbies.
Hats.

Habits - Good habits replaced the bad ones. I don't allow myself to be up after 21:30. I quit gaming. I'm reading a whole lot more, various books at that.

Hobbies - I started a cooking course, attempt at making guitar compositions and read as much as I can - especially after reading this:

"After school, the only knowledge you truly gain are from the books you read and the people you meet"

Hats - Hats has nothing to do with it. Just wanted to throw in another "H" word.

Will it work for me?
Habits build routine. Routine builds discipline. Discipline = Self-Control. Self-Control = Successful NoFap Reboot.

BUT... Discipline is boring. Boredom is cured by mainly two things: Learning new stuff (reading/online courses/Ted Talks) and hobbies (both social hobbies and one-man hobbies)

Essentially you need DISCIPLINE and a cure for BOREDOM.

It worked for me, so it might or might not work for you.

What did I learn?
Fapping is a habit. Especially for those who seek help, advice and want to change - thereby coming to the NoFap forums.

If fapping is a habit... then it is NOT a decision. It's automatic. There's a cue that starts the behaviour... and a reward for the behaviour. The reward further reinforces the behaviour. - The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

I've learned that changing the cue (or 'trigger') which starts the behaviour in the place, would be the best way to kill the habit.

And I did kill the habit.

PMO is a habit.

Kill the triggers.

Kill it with FIRE!

 

It's definitely possible, but it is difficult.

I would recommend reading: The Power of Habit - Charles Duhigg. The book explains the scientific mechanics of a habit, how they start and how to break them. The author also explains how a series of good habits forms a good routine, and how routines enabled Michael Phelps to win all his Olympic gold medals.

It's a brilliant book.

I believe above all, that it's our habits - the things we do on a daily basis, that determines our direction in life. If we don't like the direction we're heading... we don't need new goals. We need to change our habits.