60 Days - How I got here and the improvements so far! ED progress!!

Hey really cool post, inspiring too. I do have one question though, and its about masturbating without porn. Its something i really sturggle with. Many times i reached 3 weeks or more, and a lot of those times i said to myself "well i feel better, i should start masturbating without pòrn, its healthy right?" and so i did, but after a day or two tops i would relapse to porn again. I really feel like masturbating gives me real bad urges to watch porn. How did u deal with that?

 

Hmm, I did something similar. When I felt my willpower levels were depleted in the evening, I knew I'd be vulnerable to a relapse. But I also had other craving, to eat a bag of chips. First, I refused to eat that bag of chips. No way I'm putting junk food in me. But then I realized that it's either the chips or a relapse. I knew I won't resist to both. So I chosed the dopamine release that the chips gave me and did not relapse that night.

Not sure about this, all emotional / mental patterns have physical manifestation of some sorts, that's what I've read.

 

Good advice, watching how i feel. Self awareness is powerful.
Well i masturbated a couple of nights ago, without any porn whatsoever, and it was okay. I felt kinda tired the next day but it was also couse im having trouble sleeping lately. That next day i felt the urge to masturbate too, but i decided not to since i could tell it was a compulsive urge, rather than a genuine desire. I mean, as long as i am able to keep telling between those two, i should be okay.
Thanks man!

 

Exercise helps u out. ....than anything during reboot. ....

 

Don't see it that way at all. The counters are set by us, and the goals are set by us. In the intoduction, NoFap specifically states that it is not an anti-masturbation site.
This guy told us that he morphed from masturbation using porn (even though it was "only" in his head) to envisioning healthy relationships.
Now personally, that is not for me. But he is clearly walking a very positive and healthy path. And isn't that what we are here for? I am not here to have a great number on my counter. I am here to learn how to live a healthy and fulfilling life. I expect you are too.

 

This has been a great thread for me. Thanks to everyone for contributing.

 

So im a new guy on this site but an old addict that is trying to get over his unhealty desires.I've been reading a lot of post arround and i have some questions.
1. How do you now if you need 30 or 60 or 90 days before rebooting is over ?
2. What are the changes i should be aware in this time ?
3. It's not the first time i tryied giving up on PMO ,but after just a few days my urges are gone,my libido is -100 and Jr. feels really limp ,like he is not there,thing that scares me .I love looking at girls but i dont feel that urge anymore.The question is,is that a normal thing in this process?
4. Can you date in this period of time ? And if yes ,can you have sex without beeing afraid you re gonna have another embarassing episode ?
5. What happens after you reach the goal you proposed ?
6. How do your body reacts to sexual intercourse after lets say,90 day without ejaculation.i mean,i dont think im gonna last more than 10 seconds.How do you manage that without getting things more awkward than they already are ?

Thanks everyone for beeing so suportive and keep up the good work guys .

 

Excellent post. I already felt confident and hopeful before reading your stuff, but you increased it nontheless. That is because I can relate to almost everything you wrote (also HOCD, but not the gay porn) and feel like you have a similar approach as mine. Only I just started and you've gone a long way already.

 

Well, I dedicated quite some words to it in my first journal post (see link in my signature), so you can check it there. I bet you'll recognize yourself in some of my wordings.