4 months of monk mode - my observations

Write your goals down TODAY. Write them long term and break them down into smaller, more manageable chunks. Then, every morning after waking up, immediately write down 3 objectives for that day that will bring you closer to those goals

 

Don't feel bad for yourself either. Do what you can. When athletes are rehabbing from injury, they still hit cardio. They still work their uninjured muscles, and they work their injured muscle with as much load and intensity as it can handle. No excuses.

 

Do it anyway. Even if you do it with 0 motivation, and 0 pleasure, you're conditioning yourself to act a certain way. Eventually you will derive pleasure because your life will reflect your efforts

 

I recognize what you are going through.

Keep. Going. Forward.

Put your alarm clock at the same time each morning around 7-8 AM.
Don't relapse.
Don't eat crap food.

Plow through.

We'll get there

 

I often like to think of life like a stock chart. It has its up's and its downs. Major rises and major falls, you just gotta take your mood as it comes and take small steps to try and improve your mindset day by day

 

Hmm, I started to feel like absolute shit as well. No motivation, I feel dirty, ugly, fat, im disgusted with myself atm.

 

You can't blame everything on porn bro. Porn is A problem, but it isn't THE problem. Most of us turn to porn because we're treating an underlying issue. My guess is that your lack of motivation is being caused by that same underlying issue.
Go on YouTube and type in "Jordan Peterson Clean your room" for some motivation

 

I understand where you're coming from. But never underestimate someone's symptoms.

There is no way you could image, I mean..

One year ago I was having the most horrific terror sensations. Nobody believed nor understood me. Turned out I had a pyridoxine intoxication...

Besides that. Porn CAN and sometimes does invoke these kind of horrific symptoms. There is just too much people experiencing these same things over and over again during their withdrawal.

That being said, I like Jordan Peterson and watching his vids certainly can help in molding ones character.

 

@Fenix Rising

Whatever you do or don't do, do NOT relapse. That's mission number ONE. Rest is secundary

 

I'm not discounting the legitimacy of withdrawal symptoms. I am critiquing the disregard for personal responsibility. Ots easy to place something outside of your locus of control, but that makes you powerless. Even if its unrealistic, you have to lie to yourself and say "I am stronger than this thing that has control over my life". Fake it till you make it. It's the reason that affirmations work for so many people

 

True! Even better is taking action..

@Fenix Rising try to really set your alarm clock at 7:30 each morning and get out of bed and stay out of bed the whole day untill 9.30 PM.
That's the way I started to take control of my sleep pattern. It seems unrealistic until you actually get out of bed each morning without snoozing. Hell, the first two nights I didn't get anymore than 2 hours sleep bro.
And quit caffeïne after 4 PM

Do this plus total abstinence and within a few days you will find yourself making healthy meals while dancing in the kitchen.
The sleep you get between 11PM and 3AM is powerful man....