35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. 2pres90

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    Two weeks of work away from home made it an easy 14 and I appreciated rising in the ranks, but exhaustion + complacency = slip and reset. I had a pretty productive day yesterday despite the PMO and this morning seems solid. Heading out to the gym in a few hours. Journaled this morning about the relapse (if I relapse, I have to journal, I have to figure it out) and then dove back into the work I needed to get done.
     
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  2. 2pres90

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    Update: quick PMO again after a good morning. I can tell I was trying to stay at home after a long couple of weeks, but I'm forcing myself out of the apartment and to the gym.
     
  3. fpybird1234

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    i'm checking in, trying to stop the thoughts at the thought level this time. Often thoughts lead to action, so trying to do it different from last time.
     
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  4. Freeman82

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    Check in. No to PMO.
     
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  5. fpybird1234

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    checking in for the night
     
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  7. artifact

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    Hello, PolarOtter. You have been added to the waiting list. I will tag you when we have an opening (watch your alerts). You are correct, nofap is probably a lot easier (the initial reboot anyway) when you abstain from all sexual activity, so that is something you need to work out with your partner. That being said, the ultimate goal of nofap is not to repress all sexual desires for the rest of your life, but to hopefully develop a healthy sexuality with a real person instead of a computer screen. I haven't been in a relationship in years and don't have any plans to get into one until I make satisfactory progress in my nofap journey. This is tricky territory for all of us and something each one of us has to work out according to our needs.
     
  8. artifact

    artifact Fapstronaut

    @PolarOtter - I went ahead and added you to the member ranking because a another member (Peterliberation) has unexpectedly deleted his account. Welcome to the group!
     
  9. control your life

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  10. Freeman82

    Freeman82 Fapstronaut

    Relapsed last night. Woke up in the middle of the night. One particular woman who is a trigger for me came to mind.
     
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  11. fpybird1234

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    checking in in the morning, no PMO :)
     
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  13. PolarOtter

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    Thank you Artifact. I am very glad to be part of this community and hope to become more and more involved. My days continue and I am still PMO-free and except for morning wood, haven't really even gotten erections (not sure why, but I DO get them in my morning cold showers... always thought these were to diminish them?). That being said, today was particularly difficult for me because mid-afternoon... I developed an erection while sitting in my cube at work (I haven't had this experience since junior high school). I have really been looking forward to seeing my partner and having sex with him while he is home this weekend and in full disclosure, I was thinking about him when my 'situation' arose. I am now really torn... not sure if I need to abstain from sex with him, have sex, but not allow myself to orgasm or just go for it. I will discuss this with him too and see what he says, because I was not able to manage things in the past, which is why I want my penis to be in his control. If we talk and he/we decide to have sex and I do have an orgasm, how would I document that in my day counter? I would still be P and M free, but O would be back to zero, or because I had an O with him and not by myself, would it all just continue?
     
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  14. PolarOtter

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    Oh, very cool... thank you!!!
     
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  15. emanuel_free

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    Checking in 15 ! Happy as I can be!
     
  16. stands to reason

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    I'm using NoFap's new PMO Tracker! Set up your own here.
     
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  18. Freeman82

    Freeman82 Fapstronaut

    Check in. No to PMO.
     
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  19. control your life

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