30 days no porn and masturbation challenge

Discussion in 'Women in Reboot' started by noteveragain, Jul 19, 2014.

  1. noteveragain

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    Yesterday I've started with my personal challenge of 30 days no porn and masturbation challenge. My addiction has a big influence on my life and my relationship.
    I really hate porn at the moment and I hate that my boyfriend is watching it!

    I am going to post every day or every 2 days. Updates and my frustrations about not watching it and my goal to stop watching.

    It's going to be hard, but i want this so bad!
     
  2. timbomac

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    Good for you! I also just started a 30 days no porn challenge and I am in my fourth day. The first day or so was rough but I am trying to keep real busy. So far my lack of idleness is really helping.
     
  3. noteveragain

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    Thank you. And good for you that you quit too!
    Four days is really good. This is my second day. I really want to stop. It affects my relationship with my boyfriend. And it makes me really sad that i kind of need it. Now i only want my boyfriend and not porn.
     
  4. noteveragain

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    Today i did great! This is my third day quitting! Everything goes fine. No masturbation, no porn. Miss it a bit, but i do well :)
     
  5. Arden

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    Don't give up! You and your boyfriend will gain so much after this.
     
  6. Geyser

    Geyser Fapstronaut

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    Keep up the good work Noteveragain. There will be some tough days to fight through. Just remind yourself the life you want is just the other side of this struggle. You'll do great. I have faith in you.

    Stay the fight,

    Geyser
     
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  8. Arden

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    Hey there!

    How is it going? Hope you are doing well. Just giving you some encouragement. Believe in yourself, and do this one day at a time.
     
  9. noteveragain

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    Almost 8 DAYS without doing myself!! YES! I have to say that is pretty difficult not to touch myself, but I want this so bad. I think the next days are going to be more difficult, because my boyfriend isnt here for a week.

    I dont feel good in general, but it is probably because i went cold turkey. I actually feel a bit ill. Dont know if it has anything to do with it. I feel more tired and fragile in a way.

    Quitting porn is not a problem, because I hate porn. Ruined my relationship, so that it not so difficult. I dream about it a bit, but I know that porn is no good!

    I hope i will continue on this way :)
     
  10. Arden

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    Wow, 8 days!

    You can be proud of yourself. It is alright that you find if difficult not to touch yourself. You have done it for so long, and it became a part of your life. You probably have to face the fact that your body wants you to do yourself, but probably your brain wants it even more.

    It's an habit. A reflex. You quitted porn? So did I. It's not that hard sometimes. But you still feel the urge to masturbate, even if there is no source or no trigger. Your head is probably filled with fantaisies and images anyway?

    That's just how we are, and will be for a while. Changing our brain takes a while. But we can help it by replacing those urges.

    Some do exercises, meditation, a new hobby. Up to you.

    Keep up the good streak. You can be proud of you. Just think about a failsafe, something you can jump to when the urge to do yourself becomes too hard to overcome. At least for the next few weeks I think.
     
  11. thejoyprovider

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    After quitting porn I start to really apreciate women. I found my self talking to them more open. They are such a wonder of nature and they can really really help a man enjoy life if that man is not into porn for years.

    Porn blocked me from seeing such beautiful things around me.

    I dont know the effects of porn on women but I wish you a good recovery.

    Let's get our lifes back
     
  12. noteveragain

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    I have to say today is a rough one! I feel urges all afternoon long and see that my mind is making things up to do it with myself. But i am NOT going to do it!

    @thejoyprovider: I agree with you that porn blocks you for seeing beautiful things around you.
    You are also at your 9th day! Me too, we can do this!

    My reasons to stop porn and masturbation:
    - the porn industry that is criminal
    - no more cheating on my boyfriend by watching other men on the screen
    - more energy
    - more conrol of my urges
    - more satisfied sex with my boyfriend
     
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  13. Arden

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    Hang in there!

    Your reason to stop are all good and you are doing the good thing by listing them, over and over again...

    As for the urges, it's normal. We all feel them. They were quite intense when I had my best streak of no PMO. And when I thought i was done with porn, my mind took the relay, and started to make all kind of scenarios.

    I hope I learned from my mistake. Now I try to keep my mind occupied, whenever I can. Movie, music, sports.

    And when that is not possible, i turn to meditation. Even at work (you just to close your eyes and breathing slowly does the trick...). It's hard, but emptying your mind can do wonders.

    Arden
     
  14. nofaponemoretime

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    I used to PMO, but now its mostly an MO problem. The porn industry is criminal. Probably the biggest reason I stopped watching P was realizing how miserable those women must be, and how shitty their lives must be to get to that point. If you want to know more about that, check out thepinkcross.org. You can ignore the faith-related content if that's not your bag--former porn actors tell their stories of abuse and neglect and reclaiming their lives from the sex industry. Thinking of them as individuals made it harder for me to suspend disbelief while watching P.

     
  15. Adjoint

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    What a beautiful comment. Good luck on your journeys, people. Stay strong and clean! Pain is temporary.
    Regards
     
  16. noteveragain

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    TEN DAYS!! O my :D I already feel a bit better. Feel more energy. AND SUPER PROUD OF MYSELF!

    @Nofaponemoretime: you are so right. I think of the women a lot and their horrible job :( I have heard of the pink cross foundation.
    We are so selfish, that we M ourselves on an industry that is full of horrible stories. Sorry, this must be said. I am very ashamed that I ever watched!

    Stay Clean boys and girls. I think it is worth it :)
    And believe me: i believe that it is hard to quit P en M. Quitting P is already very difficult. But we want this, we want a better life, without addiction. We want a real relationship with someone and not cheat on your lover with looking to other naked bodies.
     
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  17. noteveragain

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    WHAT, 12 DAYS ALREADY? :D Things are going well. Thinking about sex is there, but no touching until now :D YES!
    Forever free from PMO!
     
  18. PaulBaron

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    Well done! :)

    But be careful! People relapse sometimes after long periods. I stayed free of porn for 37 days, and was triggered by sadness of losing a relationship - and relapsed using porn to compensate myself. I couldn't achieve since then not even 10 straight days in a row.
    NOw I'm trying harder modes. NoFap at all, not just to porn. And since my wife "ain't available" for a few days it's tenfolds harder. But knowing that it's just a temporary challenge makes it easy so far.
     
  19. BetterPerson

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    You're halfway there congertulations to you,
    It is like 14 days left for you to reach your goal,so stay strong and keep it up.
     
    Last edited: Jul 30, 2014
  20. noteveragain

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    Today I had the weirdest thing ever. [NSFW]I am a girl, but I kind of had this wet dream. I dreamt that I was lying in my bed doing myself. And I almost came. In the meanwhile i thought about how i should tell on the forum that I masturbated. So there was something in me that said: dont do it. When I was close to my orgasm I woke up and was so happy to see that my hands were under my pillow. So I did nothing wrong, it was just a dream! Happy! How my brains want me to just go masturbate![/NSFW]

    @PaulBaron: you are totally right. I have to be careful. I can easily fall back into it, but that is not the plan.

    Thanks everybody for reading and reacting :)
     
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