Today I woke up and thought to check how many days I've been PMO free (I don't maintain a counter- tried to get it through Google, didn't like the sign up, so decided to do without it) and to my delight I have completed 30 days of my 90 day challenge! What helped and what didn't! : 0. This community (which I now see as this diverse manifestation of the one Consciousness or God if you are ok with my saying that although this is a secular site- forgive me if I offend anyone). Seriously, reading the posts and the tremendously supportive people here including my AP- big thank you xeno-R3deemed, you have been so supportive since day 1 and put your problems in the background to help me- humble namaste to you! Thanks to Buzz Lightyear for welcoming me to the community early. You are a Renaissance man, poet-philosopher and it was a riot to read your posts... Thanks trevor.james for your welcome also. And to Rav70 for your support and feedback on my journal - did wonders to know that it resonated with women too To IGY for keeping my ego in check To SolidStance, WOTL and fercho29 for some very inspiring posts To cud, JackStrident, JohnDoe2016, Cleaning Colin, silverlukas, deadrole7- learned so much from you guys. 1. I realize that I'd actually tapered off my PMO quite a bit even before coming to NoFap, so my starting point was pretty good. I'd already destroyed any P collection several years ago, and wasn't storing any material, but I was visiting P sites and the trickle had started to become a bit too regular, which is what motivated me to start a reboot on Jan 9th. I went 10 days no PMO, hit the flatline, got worried if my seriously shrunken penis would work ever again (lol now ), and tested with PMO on Jan 18th. Of course it worked, so I felt foolish to have reset. So first lesson learned: DO NOT TEST, it is pointless. 2. From then till today it has been a bumpy ride, but there are pretty long patches of good clarity and not much urge. I would say the urge to P has almost completely gone. I don't want to see that stuff. I actually don't have any blocker on my laptop and didn't find it hard to resist. Twice I caught myself drifting. Once on the phone reading the NY Times there was a photo of celebrities and I caught myself looking at it for too long. Another time I followed a link from the same NY times feed to another news article on a singer that had somewhat provocative pictures (no nudity whatsoever, but could have triggered- and I could resist). Since these were on regular news articles I didn't really reset (besides I didn't include P Subs in my goal) and I wouldn't really classify these as P subs (that's a personal take). I feel that these kinds of images will always be encountered in today's world and I have to be strong enough to take them and not get all tied up about it. The good thing was it didn't lead to real P or MO. I could resist. In time I believe the thoughts will pull away faster, but I don't want to beat up on myself for this. Retraining the mind is going to take time. I know for instance that I can have bottles of wine at my home and I don't drink any more (haven't for 9 or so years). So the time will come when I can see these images and not linger over them for more than a second. 3. Diet: I don't eat garlic or onions if I can avoid it. In Ayurveda and Indian thought these excite the passions and I can vouch for that from personal experience. Other than that I am vegetarian and a non-drinker, so I feel these helped me on this reboot. 4. Yoga and meditation which have been a major part of my life for the last 6 years have always helped. In fact, even before quitting PMO people used to remark how bright my face looks, my aura etc. But I knew I was slowly leaking this every time I PMO-ed, so stopping has done even more for me. I practice yoga postures both in the morning and evening, and meditate for 50 mins both morning at sunrise and evening around sunset. 5. Prayer. I got into the habit of chanting prayers both in the morning and evening at sunset. It may sound stupid (and I know this is a secular site), but the simple repetitive act of repeating something that is uplifting, that connects to our true Self as the one Consciousness has helped me deal with the disappointment, sadness, frustration from unmet expectations and occasional anger of being rejected by my latest love interest. 6. Exercise: major major help. Started a gym membership and the daily workout really takes the edge off. I don't do much, treadmill for 10 mins or so till I break a sweat, some light upper body work on the machines, but it feels great and ensures I get to bed early. 7. Volunteering: I started teaching a free yoga class in my community and that service made me get out of the house and helping people and seeing their gratitude was a big boost.' 8. Reconnecting with people: I already had two yoga study groups meeting at my place twice a week and these continued to be a big support. 9. Journaling, posting writing: for me this was actually the biggest help. Just rewiring my thinking about women, letting go of the anger of rejection of being dumped, reframing the entire view of the interaction, opening the heart, understanding personality theory and the limitations our personality imposes on all our interactions. The benefits: HUGE. Feel alive, really pumped up in a good way (not the caffeinated feeling), sexual drive is pointed in the right direction - towards real women, clarity and decisiveness are up, I feel women can feel the energy radiating from this self-control, calmer, singing voice is better, guitar playing has improved, wake up earlier, I feel more potent- that's the word! The not so good: There is still brain fog hang over from the PMO. This stuff is deadly and I didn't know it. Reading and watching videos from YBOP is such a revelation. These biochemicals and the thought control that is needed to reset them is quite a challenge. Frustration with sex drive on but no partner at the moment takes some dealing with, but it is not insurmountable. Waaay better than being on P, that's for sure... Strangely enough, today was tough with some urges- working from home, but I decided to write this post and feel confident I can see this through. NoFap PANIC button is a god send. Hope this is helpful to some of you on this quest. More power to all on the challenge and I am planning to make the 90 day without a reset. I hope I pass that milestone without anticipation and no thought given to it, so that this becomes the new normal. No more looking at counters. Just got to get out more and interact with eligible women while at the same time practicing non-attachment at every instant!