30 days and counting

During my 2 years of trying to get rid of PMO, I have made it several times beyond the 30 days mark so this is no new territory to me. But the difference is the changes I made myself during this last streak. That is why this is the first time, for me posting in the Success stories thread.

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My background is simple:addicted 29 years old. My habits costed me lots of opportunities with women, jobs, money, friends...all you can count.

When I last relapse 30+ days ago, I was devastated. I was having difficulities after I quit my job, wasn't in the mood to have any sex with my wife. If I wanted to get it up, I had to watch porn at the same time, so I could perform. Suffering sever anxieties/depression. I wanted to do nothing in my life except stare the computer, watch some anime/movies and hopefully the days passed fast enough for me to feel better about myself because I was feeling horrible...headaches, feeling of vomiting, weak in my body...any withdrawal thing possible. So I did nothing for a whole week, I just stayed home and was just feeling miserable about myself. I was scared to go even out.

After a week, my confidence started exploding which was what everybody experiences. It's the boost of testosterone to blame for that I think.
So as I was feeling this boost of energy and was bored, decided to make a bold move.
I took a new job, a very stressful job which about 3 months ago, I turned down before because I though that is something that would kill me with anxieties. Most of the time I had problems to even speak, I was merely whispering and couldn't watch people on the eye let alone be in the midst for long time. Plus I hated driving because it gave me a lot of anxieties. I started working as a taxi driver.
I wasn't wrong, being a taxi driver, is a hectic, difficult and very stressful job. Not to mention the long hours, difficult customers and the mad dispatch center which gives you bullshit all the time. The hours are arduous and many times I thought of just quitting and going home.
But I didn't, I took the shit, I swallowed all the pain and the anxiety and went through it. Is the things better? No, it is not. Actually, the people can get difficult all the time, the hours are the same and people will give you shit all the time.

But one thing changed during these last three works: Me.
Changes are difficult, always. But as Napoleon Hill wrote ..."Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new".

And things have changed drastically, comparing to 30 days ago. I am much more confident, more energized...just feeling better about myself and people notice this thing.Shit, women are going nuts. I am so much productive it's ridiculous. I look better, I feel optimistic. I can have sex all the time, no erect problems.

It's not really the days that count, guys. It's what you do with them.
By no means, am I trying to rush things for you. There are days, when I myself I would rather just do nothing but you aren't getting better that way. This process of quitting PMO is hard and I know that, I have relapse billion times but still getting up, still fighting and going there in the front lines.

But this fight is not only against PMO, its about changing yourself so much that PMO will have no place in your anymore. That means going all out, no shortcuts.
If you really are serious of doing Nofap, be serious about your strategies and these are my tips to get there:

Get rid/limit all electronics.
That means installing a parental software in all your devices and give somebody your pass. I took a drastic move and have an old switch phone and don't use Android anymore and even there I have installed K9 and Qustodio.

Put your habits in check.
Start doing all healthy things you can get in your reportaire.
I like doing workouts and cold showers. Other than that, eat right and sleep right.

Start new hobbies.
That means doing new things to fill that gap of procrastination and that means anything from walking, sports or new job.
Maybe socialize, talk to someone.

Go all in.
Don't wait to get X days. There is no idealistic day to start doing this or that.
Go for it, go now. Go talk to that girl, go get a job.
No pain, no gain. ....Yes it is hard but you are harder so do this, don't overthink.

I hope this helps somebody and I'm going for infinite days ...NO PMO.
BTW, I highly recommend no O even If you are in a relationship.
Good luck everybody.

 

Thank you very much for sharing. It was really inspiring. Like you I made it to 30 days.