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30 day streak, thinking about how to proceed with sex

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by stanislovsky, May 16, 2019.

  1. stanislovsky

    stanislovsky Fapstronaut

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    So i've made it once more to 30 days. Much easier ride this time and frankly its just getting easier and easier. I found Nofap about 2 years ago, but i think i now have the understanding necessary to go on much longer if not indefinitely. As i said, its been pretty easy getting to this 30 day streak, and for months before this i was getting 2 week streaks with no porn since last year. It now feels like i'm really coming out of the woods in a way that i havent these past two years.

    As for some benefits, remember that i've been at this for two years so my 30 days might be different than someone elses.

    - completely calm with women, very little anxiety compared to earlier times, almost none.
    - happier and more contented with myself. I've been working hard in the gym and in school all this time but it hadnt hit me that i'd actually done a good job until recently.
    - more masculine
    - more psychologically mature
    - much easier time speaking my true feelings
    - either less fear or more courage

    There is this deep benefit to nofap imo that relates to the power dynamic between men and women. A lot of women like to use sexual appeal and access as a power lever over men, and for the most part they're pretty good at it, though it doesnt help that a lot of men are helplessly addicted to porn and sex. Something that happens when you make it out to longer and longer streaks is that you realize there is absolutely no need, biological, psychological, or otherwise, for you to ejaculate. You dont need to nut to be happy and to express yourself and have healthy relationships. At all. You need to nut in order to produce a child. But all the things that lead to you finding the right woman for the job, can be done without ever ejaculating.

    As such, there is no need to participate in recreational sex if the act or process will in and of itself be demoralizing to your nature or long term pursuits. This has always been a power card of women, but i think it can absolutely be a power card of men too. Porn has targeted men, as they are easier targets, but it doesnt mean men are helpless to sexual compulsion if they reclaim their minds and establish a healthy sense of sexuality. Its as simple, and as hard, as that, but its worth it.
     
  2. LasPhoenix

    LasPhoenix New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for sharing your experience! Its always helpful for others. I personally like your thoughts on the recreational sex since it suits my situation well, and the way you deliver ur thoughts. Stay strong brother, long but beautiful journey ahead.
     
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  3. MonkMode [1Cor7:31]

    MonkMode [1Cor7:31] Fapstronaut

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    "Something that happens when you make it out to longer and longer streaks is that you realize there is absolutely no need, biological, psychological, or otherwise, for you to ejaculate. You dont need to nut to be happy and to express yourself and have healthy relationships. At all. You need to nut in order to produce a child. But all the things that lead to you finding the right woman for the job, can be done without ever ejaculating."

    Beautifully put. I'm gonna print this out and put it on my vision board.

     
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