2 years of no PM

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  1. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    I finally hit my 2 years of no PM :)

    Everything is on auto pilot. As soon as my girlfriend touch's me, 97 percent of the time, I'm hard.

    Not everything is perfect because I have some psychological issues. 3 percent of the time I will not erect. If I feel no love from her, or she doesn't want to, or I have an argument before sex, my penis will not erect. I will write about that psychological issues because I feel its important for people on the nofap forum. The book's I recommend is from Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now and the new Earth. It relax's me and help me focus on the now. This helps with erections

    I think the key's to my success:


    1. Staying on the nofap forum and reading and posting as much as I can. Spend as much time in the beginning, just absorbing information. After 2 months, you will become an expert

    2. Keeping a journal, sometimes I log in to read my journal if I feel the porn urges. Every time my girl goes on holiday, I re read my journal and by the end, I know how to handle my urges.

    2B. What ever you learn about yourself, write, every detail down in your journal. Your urge's when they begin and even you're dream. Be as detailed as possible.

    2C: do not stop journaling until you learnt everything you feel, you can learn.

    3. As soon as you have learnt everything you can and your good at not relapsing, LEAVE. Now I know it sounds bad but there comes a point when you know you don't need nofap anymore. It's time to start enjoying life. There comes a point where you become a master and no longer need nofap. You just want to come back and read the journal if you feel any urges.

    4. Once you hit mastery, know there is nothing wrong with you. I no longer think about nofap forum. I only think about it once in a while. It was part of my journey (an important part) now its time to move on. Rules do not apply if you keep relapsing.

    Conclusion: it wasn't easy, you just have to have faith and allow yourself time. Your brain will eventually re wire itself. Having a loving relationship helps a lot, I been with my GF for over 9 month. Good luck people, you can do this ;)
     
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  2. C.HNF

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    Glad you made it, keep up reaping the benefits, bro. What were your withdrawal symptoms in details?
     
  3. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    Take a look at my journal ;)

    Dead lifeless dick and uncontrollable porn urges. Throughout the first 6 months, I had a lot of doubt I will ever fully recover. Knowing the and believing is different. It does your head in waiting for the 1 or 2 year mark. You have to keep yourself busy and think of other things

    A year later and I was 65 percent healed.
     
  4. RightEffort

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    Yes I love those books too bro - also I the psychological issues you talk about belongs to the condition of being a human, only total Self-realization (I understand) can really make us naturally happy/normal joyful human Being. until then we are like a branch disconnected from our essence as we are so lost in our monkey minds!


    Thanks for sharing your journey
     
  5. TantusJulius

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    Congratulation!
    We need stories like yours to motivate long term rebooters, thank you. Although I believe very few lucky people can recover in 3-4 months, but most people need more time to recover.

    Just an advice, I would be careful with books like Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now and the new Earth, they usually sell Buddhism/Hinduism etc. in remixed edition.
    http://christiananswersforthenewage.org/Articles_NewEarth.html
     
  6. Manchild

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    Well done man, very inspiring, I wish you all the best
     
  7. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    Agree!!! After reading Eckhart Tolle, I have strong hard erections lol

    You have to practice presence in everyday life before you go into the bedroom hehe

    As you get older you get obsessed about thinking, and too much thinking makes you unhappy and dis connect from your body and penis.
     
  8. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the post

    My dick has been almost lifeless for over a year. I had almost no erections in the first 6 months. My improvements where very, very slow. At the end of the year it was 65 percent healed, so one third of the time it was dead.

    Thanks for letting me know about Eckhart but the two books I read where really good for me. They helped with my penis and emotional as well. I never read the remix edition so can not comment
     
    Last edited: Feb 14, 2019
  9. Senecathestoic

    Senecathestoic Fapstronaut

    Inspiring stuff man. Thanks for sharing.
     
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  10. Z89

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    Thats what i was looking for,,, M here now and looking upto the future,,, good job man 2 years!! Like a dream for me,,,
     
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  11. Barlumedisperanza

    Barlumedisperanza Fapstronaut

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    Since you wrote without “PM” I guess you masturbated without porn, is that right? Didn’t it feel like some kind of relapse? I totally want to get rid of porn but I think that masturbation itself is not unhealthy if it is not compulsive
     
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  12. China-zeroxl

    China-zeroxl Fapstronaut

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    谢谢你的文章!It's very encouraging!
     
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  13. Rewiring

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    Thanks and congratulation for mastering your urges.

    Your girlfriend is truly the prize for your struggle, keep her so you can develop healthy sex life rather than fapping on millions of pixels combined :D
     
  14. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    No PM means no porn and masturbating

    I do Orgasm, when have sex with my girlfriend.

    Yes, do not masturbate.
     
  15. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    LOL yep, absolutely :)

    Thanks everyone!!!

    I believe we can all do this :)
     
  16. control your life

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    congrats on 2 years ,keep going pal! you are awesome!
     
  17. AncestralWarrior

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    Incredibly inspiring! I'm so happy for you. We'll all get there. :D
     
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  18. Happy Man

    Happy Man Fapstronaut

    Yep journey is forever!!

    We can all get there :)
     
  19. D23

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    Congrats on your success! You are Blessed to have a gf and your story is inspiring.

    Question.
    How did you treat morning erections ?
     
  20. Pucchi

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    Congrats on your success!
     
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