2 days in and im getting female attention. I'm on hard mode. HELP ME

okay so this is my first thread if i post trigger words im very sorry but here is as much as i can tell you about my situation.

I'm a 24 year old man living in the UK. I've PMO'd daily since i was around 13-14 including if I've been with a partner on that day. when i was around 19-20 i realised the strength of my member was dwindling. i was in a serious relationship at the time and we, being young and lacking worldly experience, assumed this was normal as i could still maintain myself for the full course. This relationship ended horribly and i turned to PMO as a primary partner so to speak. The few times I've gotten with women over the past 3 years has been a flop (forgive the pun) which as i'm sure you'll all understand is a massive knock to the confidence.

Present day: i am talking to a girl who i am 99% sure is in to me and i am 100% sure i like back. she wants to keep things casual and has mentioned the dreaded Netflix and chill. this to most men would be a godsend. to a man whose confidence has been shattered and has just vowed to go on HARD MODE for 90 days, this is a horrible position to be in. weve had drinks together and spent at least 5 days with each other on our own and now our conversation is getting to the point where i feel like a home visit is going to be mentioned.

do i tell her what im going through and risk the embarassment of mutual friends finding out. i dont think she would say but we arent exactly exclusive to each other. do i attempt to slow things down and if i do take this approach how on earth do i still come accross as a man she wants to be with. do i just cut my member off and then i have a valid reason for it not to work.

im confused, mentally drained and struggling only 2 day in, but i know for my own sanity and livelihood that i cant relapse back into PMO's. please help

1 more thing, i work with her but we are very rarely on shift together so that awkwardness wont be there

 

UPDATE: SHE KNOWS - DISCLAIMER THIS MAY CONTAIN TRIGGERS

the way i told her was on facebook messenger. here is the way i told her and she seemed very understanding and has even offered to act as a distraction from my cravings in a non sexual way. even seems happy to help me go on hard mode. there was a little confession in there as i had previously told her i was prosecuted for beating the man who i caught in bed with my ex.

***** so when i walked in on my ex in bed with my boss, it was a woman not a man and the person i got prosecuted for beating was her dad, not the cheat. her dad came to me with a lump of wood in his hand telling me i had no right to kick his daughter out and such. he took a swing and things escalated. i moved in with my mum 25/07/2013 2 days before my birthday and obviously had very low self esteem and a massive distrust in women. in my head i was such a bad partner that i "turned her". this led to me becoming more introvert and putting it nicely got into a relationship with the web. from then to the present day ive been with 3 people. one was an early rebound and things "worked" (youll get this reference soon) the other 2 were this year. around feb and i lost my erection midway through. the last was in september and the same thing. well ive done some extensive research and i basically became addicted to internet porn as a "rebound/replacement" for the inital relationship that ended. PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) is a common thing aparantly but requires a reboot to fix where there is no porn masturbation or orgasm of any kind....

She at this point asked "why dont you just reboot then"...

i started this "reboot" 01/01/2017 and have only made it as far as 2 days before a relapse. this addiction has been compared to heroin except it cant kill you to quit cold turkey. it sends your hormones flying and you become irrationally emotional pretty much all the time. apparantly it should take a good 30 days of abstaining from anything to see results/change. sorry to put that all on you. but i think that explains a little more why i seem to apologise all the time and have gotten very attached to you. i do know you're a beautiful girl and i know i like you but the killer is that i cant just be the real me around you yet. *****

so thats how it went down, shes a very understanding girl and the fact i have told a physical human being about my condition seems to already be helping me. i feel accountable to her now and dont want to let her down. i know im in an awkward position where she could just stop talking to me or our relationship could go wrong and lead to relapse but right now i feel stronger having her onside. this is in no way advice to others to follow this approach if they are casual dating during a reboot but all we can do is offer our personal experiences to each other and hope we can gain a greater group strength.

to my fellow fapstronauts all i can say is stay strong. youll get there. you just need to want it and then make it yours. peace and love brothers