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Hey. Keep strong. It gets easier. And life feels better without porn. Ask yourself what else could you be doing.

 

Hi @Geniebear !

Stress is often a reason cited for PMO and also a major reason cited as contributing to a relapse. PMO is certainly NOT a good, healthy, way of dealing with stress. There are lots of better ways. Exercise, meditation, going out for a walk, reading good books (biographies, histories, novels (noP), travel) practicing music, taking classes, doing artwork. All can help relieve stress. What are you going to do ?

Its also very common for relapses to happen when alone. If you really feel urges and temptations, try to not be alone. Go out for a walk, go shopping (even just looking at the stores is OK too ...), anything to be in the company of others. And then start thinking about how you can routinely be with others. Join a sports group, take a class, join a book club ... Interactions with others are a good way to avoid solitary time that often can be a time when relapses occur.

You've made a good decision to be here. Go make some more good decisions.

If you haven't already done so, please read the "getting started guide" that is available on this site's (noFAP) home page. It has a lot of useful and helpful information as you begin your journey of healing.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Hi @Geniebear

Unlimited internet access when alone can often be a problem. Have you considered installing blockers, filters, or restrictions on what you can access ? These all seem to work best when someone else installs them ... that way its really difficult to bypass !

Also, if you find social media sites to be a problem, consider closing out your access / account at least for some time.

Having a social group with which to spend time and hang out is a good thing. Find one that works for you.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.