120 Days of NoFap, an Honest Report (update)

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  1. Cimmeri

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    (First two reports of 60 and 30 days bellow)

    Hello fellow Fapstronauts,

    120 days of NoFap achieved, I'll be as concise as possible with my report. For the ones that want to know my background and past reports feel free to scroll down this same post.

    I'll divide this report in two parts:

    1. 90 days of Hard Mode:

    So I completed my 90 days of Hard Mode reboot and finally started to feel better from day 80 approx. Withdrawal symptoms were almost gone (finally) and I got a sudden rush of general wellness and mind clarity, I even got a job (seemed impossible while on PMO). One day after I completed my hard mode reboot I had intercourse with my gf, and it was unbelievable:

    -Strong erection the whole session until I came, felt like a teenager
    -Didn't have any kind of porn thoughts while at it
    -Improved sensibility and stronger orgasms
    -I was really present and mindfulness


    2. 120 days No PM:

    I didn't want to quit this new lifestyle so I decided to continue in Normal Mode. First two weeks after my girl left were hard, lots of urges but mainly about masturbation alone (no porn urges). In general I feel pretty good and having sex didn't make me loose any benefit. The only downside was that sometimes I'm having these flashbacks about intense sexual encounters with ex gfs.
    Other benefits: I've been receiving even more female attention and noticed that girls I meet are constantly trying to be close to me and touch me (I know it sounds crazy but I'm being honest, maybe we are having collective illusions here in NoFap forum lol). However the occurrence of this effect is kind of random.

    That's pretty much everything for now, feel free to ask any question.

    Stay strong Fapstronauts!



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    60 Days of NoFap/hardmode Update


    Hello everyone,

    60 days already, I would like to say they were easier than the first 30 but is not the case. I'll be concise so If anyone wants to know my background you can read my first post (30 days) bellow.

    Things I added to my set of rules:
    -No alcohol
    -Meditation

    So after 60 days I can say I feel pretty much the same as I started, not good at all. I guess that adding the no alcohol rule was a bit harsh. Over these last new 30 days I've been shifting between flatline periods and severe urges (3-5 days each). So summing up things for these 60 days of NoFap:

    Negative: Low energy, lack of motivation, no emotions, lots of sleeping hours (10+ hours)

    Positive: I can focus for longer periods, my mind is sharper, memory improved.

    The fact that I tried to tackle another addiction (alcohol) added a whole new level of difficulty. Going back to what I told you guys in my previous post, I've come to the realization that some of our members are making the same mistake (as I when I started): Abstinence is not Recovery.

    The very moment you focus on counting your days that you are abstaining is the moment you have failed. Simple as that. PMO is not the cause of your grieving, it's only the symptom. The focus should always be recovery and self healing, although it's easier said than done, it's possible and the only way to go.

    Routines and approaches I've been practicing and that I'm willing to strengthen towards my next report:

    -Focus every morning in your life vision. If you don't have one grab a piece of paper and a pen and think of what do you want for yourself in the coming months/years.

    -Build a foundation of self-belief/self-confidence, change your thought patterns, what you say to yourself everyday creates your reality.

    -Deal with your emotions and problems. If something unpleasant happens, deal with it, accept it and find a workaround. If you avoid inner conflicts, they will start accumulating and they'll sabotage your life subconsciously.

    -Stay present, quit fantasizing (not only in a sexual aspect). Day dreaming and desiring create heavy resistance, psychological resistance overcomplicates things and demotivates you from working towards your goals.

    Hope this helps.

    Stay strong Fapstronauts!


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    30 Days of NoFap/hardmode

    Hello everyone,

    So I just completed my 30 days challenge of NoFap-NoPMO on hard mode and I would like to share with you my experience so far.

    -A bit of my background:
    I've been masturbating and watching porn since 12 (1-3 times per day), yeah, that's more than half of my life. Also, I was a hard gamer through most of high school and college, averaging 4 to 6 hours a day. Most would think I had no social life at all but surprisingly I did kind of ok, I managed to get in a great social circle, made amazing friends and had several girlfriends through my life. So why would I even complain?

    To sum things up, I've lived most of my life under depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, alcohol addiction, drugs, you name it.
    Long story short, after trying different medications and alternative medicines I ended up finding this forum. To be honest, I've tried NoFap challenge many times in the past years but this is the first time I've completed 30 days following these rules:

    -Hard Mode
    -Zero gaming
    -Minimize social media
    -Cold showers everyday
    -Healthier food and habits

    -My experience so far:
    I can say that since day 5 I feel like sht every single day, the little motivation I had is completely gone. Waking up at the morning is the hardest thing and even worse are the 10 seconds before getting into the cold shower. I'd say I entered the flat line right away. I'm unemployed, running out of savings and yet to finish my master's degree, I really want to quit everything, every second.
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to dissuade you from NoFap, just being straight honest with my report. You also need to consider that you might not be in such a sht hole like me right now.

    Anyway, not everything's horrible. I can mention a couple of positive things I've experienced:
    -People I know have been making random comments about how fit I look (I haven't work out lately tbh) and that I'm looking really good.
    -Girls... yeah, I was sceptical about this but it really happens. Girls are noticing me more, a lot more, even though I feel awful. I get more attention in pubs/clubs, girls I've been with before are randomly appearing into my life again and last night a female friend of mine confessed me that she wanted to have sex with me, out of no where.

    To conclude, as I said before, my purpose is not to discourage you but to let you know that this challenge can be devastating at the beginning. My advice is that you better not focus on the superpowers that people claim to be true in this forum (some may be some not), instead focus on your on healing process and self knowledge. I've noticed that many people tend to blame everything to PMO like a cause while it's only a symptom, the real challenge should be inner work and getting your life together. I still have a long way to go so I hope that you'll see a lot more positive in my future updates.


    Stay strong Fapstronauts!
     
    Last edited: Oct 21, 2018
  2. VeganRights

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    Thank you for sharing !

    I hope you can progress with your career and life goals dude, all the best
     
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  3. Good Job! Wish you the best!
     
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  4. Randox

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    Congratulations, keep rebooting and never let your guard down. Life will be awesome I promise .
     
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  5. Carrotman

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    That's some good honest real talk man. I'm actually happy that you mentioned not to focus on the benefits but on self healing. Keep up the good work bro.
     
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  6. FLX200

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    Keep going, it worths it.
    I wish the best for you!
     
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  7. O V E R C O M E R

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    Regardless of the state of your life right now, you're an inspiration to many on this forum. Your resistance and strong will power to get to where you are is no joke. Things have to get worse before they get better. Stay strong brother you're not alone and your story is an inspiration in itself. Keep going. Never give up. God Bless!
     
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  8. Hizzo

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    i will never believe the girl part. it just seems so weird.
     
  9. topjobm8two

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    This is great , really happy for you. Keep going. My best is 30 days.
     
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  10. Cimmeri

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    Thank you for your kind words brother.
    I'm prepared for the worse, I've made the most important commitment of my life and I'm not backing down ever. God Bless!
     
  11. Cimmeri

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    I couldn't believe it either, but to be honest it was never my goal. I'm focused on my healing process and be the man I was always meant to be.
     
  12. Cimmeri

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  13. Inspiring post man!

    I appreciate you talking about the harsh aspects of quitting too. A lot of nasty stuff tends to surface and all of that just needs to be handled properly. Also it's good that you mention the self healing too. I think it helps more at the process than the "I'm going to get superpowers to lay with every woman" or something along those lines.

    May prosperity follow your actions!
     
  14. emeka71

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    Lovely post. But can't one catch cold taking cold shower in cold season?????
     
  15. ApprenticeInWar

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    Thanks for sharing your journey with us, Cimmeri!
    It's very insightful. Also, I sort of related to what you wrote. I've never thought about PMO being a sympton, instead of a cause. The 100-day streak is getting closer, but I feel I haven't changed much since the first day...like you said, abstinence is not recovery.
    By the way, I'm still waiting for the girls to show up haha
     
  16. Uncomfortably Numb

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    Thanks for sharing this... very inciteful.
    As for the girl/woman thing I too am unsure if it's real or coincidence.
    I am trying to make eye contact with women at my gym or even as I walk past them on the street... some return the gaze but is this just a normal reaction?
    One random thing that did puzzle me occurred on Friday evening... I was home alone watching TV when I received unsolicited texts from 3 of my female 'friends' within 30 minutes of each other. This is something I cannot ever happening before???
     
  17. GettingAGrip

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    Thanks for your post!

    I myself am on day 60 and I totally agree.
    It's not about waiting for a specific number of days without PMO to recover, or focusing on not doing it for 90 days.
    It's about changing your lifestyle and habits, adding beneficial activities and routines, and focusing on bettering yourself in all aspects (as much as you can). Don't be lazy guys, get up and make changes! :D
     
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  18. Moonborn

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    Thank you for posting this. I am going to start working on these things right away, starting with my life vision.
     
  19. Cimmeri

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    The thing is that every single one has his own healing rhythm, that's why is never good to focus on abstinence time and superpowers. Things do look a bit nasty now tbh, but I'm confident that this is part of the process and things will get better eventually.
    Stay strong!
     
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  20. Cimmeri

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    During summer is kind of easy tbh. I guess that when winter comes I won't put full cold water and try to get the water to >=15°C (60 °F) to avoid catching colds.
     

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