11 Month update (things are still getting better by the day)

I have gained so many insights, new mindsets and ideas during the past year that I don't even know where to begin. First of all, all the small things in life has become so enjoyable that I can be completely present in the moment enjoying it to the full. It doesn't matter if I am having a coffee with a friend, sibling or colleague, or go out in nature for a walk, these things simply feel great these days and they used to feel so dull and boring during my former PMO-days.
I have also gotten plenty of good ideas about starting my own business and some really mindblowing insights about my conscious and subconscious minds that I literally see almost anything as possible these days. This is a level of optimism I was never even close to back during my PMO-days where my mindset was making me stuck in a negative spiral.

As my professional life goes, I have improved greatly at work during the past year and I have also come to the insight that it is not what I want to do for a living. I felt like I was dealt pretty much the same unchallenging tasks after four years of service (to a bad pay as well), having mostly dull colleagues as well, that I decided a few months ago that I was going to resign this winter. I am about to do this in a month from now and in May, I will leave my current workplace for good.
Life is simply too short to do the same mundane things and I look forward to start something on my own this upcoming summer. I am ready to take that big leap out of the comfort zone for the sake of living and do something for others, not just existing day to day at a job that does nothing for me except for paying the bills.

 

As my everyday relationships goes, they have all become significantly better over the past year. These days, I am feeling more sociable, having improved my social skills a lot and can start up a conversation at most places and with most peoples without a problem. I am feeling very confident most of the time and it is almost like people are sensing a special power or vibe as I am entering a room. There have been many times I walked by and people just turned their heads after me.
Overall, I fear talking to very few people today and those who belong to this group are essentially of the toxic kind whose negative energy is like a poisonous gas that I don't want to come near.
One good thing/skill that the NoFap-journey has taught me is to ditch (or at least heavily limit your time around them if they are at your workplace) all toxic people in your life, even if they are your colleagues, "friends" or own family members.

Regarding my career, I have found my job during the past year (which I have held for over four years at this point) to be quite dull, unchallenging, unrewarding, poorly paid and at a workplace with too many toxic people around that doesn't value their employees. Plus, I am about 250 km away from my siblings and mother (living on my own in a small town) so I have absolutely no reason to remain at my current job. That's why I am about to resign on the last day of February and then leave the place for good in mid-May . After that, I am about to start a business on my own which will require some work but be so much more rewarding in the long run, not only spiritually and physiologically but financially as well.
With that said, I am not the least bitter but rather incredibly grateful and humble for having the opportunity to move, leave this toxic workplace and town and move on to something much better!!
I am really feeling for those colleagues of mine who commute a long way each day just to work at this crappy workplace for a job that does little good for them except for paying their bills.

 

Thanks a lot mate! Although one year might seem like an almost impossible task for many fapstronauts, you got to take every prolonged streak as a little step closer to achieving the bigger and harder goals, even if you just beat the previous one by a single day. There are so many good and great things that comes with it, especially if you have good habits in place.

 

Of course I have had the will to do so during this time-period but I much rather be in a stable relationship with her (where there is a strong bond and connection) than just having a pointless ONS without any connection. No, I have never had beautiful sex before because my mind was utterly destroyed and captured by sexual- and lustful thoughts for almost fifteen years before I finally started to reboot last year.
But of course I would like to have so in the future and I know I will get it because I am patient and work with my mind (especially the subconscious mind) and body on a daily basis in order to improve my odds of finding a great woman. I have told my subconscious mind that these great things will come my way so I am not the least worried about it. I am also feeling more confident as I grow older too because the SMV for us men climbs steadily after the day you hit age 30 and will do so for at least another decade.

One of the main reasons for me beginning NoFap in the first place was just to build a stronger mind, psyche and body in which I have complete control over myself, my body, soul and thoughts. So, having sex is definitely not one of my priorities and if you want to achieve some great things in life, it cannot be one of your highest priorities.
Simply because it will take precious time and focus from building those things that will eventually give you the most joy, prosperity and happiness in life. A mindset that craves sex, alcohol, tobacco, junk-food or other destructive habits and pastimes in front of more productive ones will not lead you to any greatness whatsoever.
That's why becoming your best version should be your first and foremost priority in life!

 

You have a valid point! Just like alcohol and drugs, your urges for sex and lust can overtake your brain in an instant and before you know, you start escalating and lose control and all of a sudden, you are back at square one.
In fact, your sexual thoughts and desires are much harder to control than other addictions as we are hard-wired wanting to reproduce plus pornography are only a few clicks away whereas alcohol and tobacco (for example) requires you getting outside and to a store during the opening hours.