11 Month update (things are still getting better by the day)

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  1. Angus McGyver

    Angus McGyver Fapstronaut

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    The reason for me writing this post are many but the primary purpose is to show other men who are struggling with their lives that it is possible to do a 180 degree turn in relatively short time. Being on NoFap hard-mode has helped me greatly in this demanding challenge. So these are some of my own thoiughts reflections for this time-period.

    First of all, I recently passed the 11 month mark without realizing how fast time had past so it gave me a moment to reflect on how great this past year has been. In fact, it has been the greatest and most rewarding year of my life so far, despite some terrible things happening within my closest family. It was actually this event that sparked my energy and willingness to continue on the NoFap-path instead of relapsing to PMO and pitying myself.

    Secondly, I have started to take the well-needed actions that are necessary for my personal development so I could start throwing my past demons out of the mind. This has required me stepping out of the comfort-zone many times which has been scary but so rewarding at the same time. I might not be where I want to yet, but I am several steps closer than I was only a year ago. The leaps I have taken in this time-period have been huge and I celebrate every single step that moves me forward in the right direction.

    Thirdly, I have had a renewed faith and spiritual awakening during this time period that have gone beyond imagination. I have gone from a former material, nihilistic non-believer to a strong believer in only a 9-11 month period. Through mediation, Tai-Chi, and daily prayers of gratitude and repetition of mantras, I do now have a spiritual connection with God, nature, other people and animals that I never felt before. Previously, I used to be so disconnected from reality and my own mind that I almost looked forward to the day I was going to pass away because I thought life had nothing more to offer.
    Today, I am very grateful for everyday I wake up and remain healthy!!

    Lastly, I would like to say to all men out there who are struggling with themselves and their lives at this current moment: Change is definitely possible and the vast majority of you can achieve great success in your lives (beyond your wildest imagination) as soon as you start to gain some good self-control and there is no better way of self-control than abstaining from meaningless sex (without any spiritual connection), masturbation and pornography for an extended period of time. I thought this was impossible one year ago but here I am today, not even remembering how to fap and feeling better than ever.

    I could go on and on to write how much my life has changed over the past year (thanks to NoFap and semen-retention) but I will give a more serious update in one month when I have made it to one year.
    Persevere and never give up because every single step in the right direction is a step closer to success and great rewards further down the road!
     
  2. Mattew

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    Sorry, i ask this to everyone, did you see any woman attraction? Did your relationship with woman get better? Did you get more sex or attention by the ladies?
     
  3. TantusJulius

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    Congratulation!

    Be careful.

    "No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon."
     
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  4. Angus McGyver

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    Yes, my relationship with women got a lot better of the past year. It cannot even be compared to my life before NoFap. I have received much more attention, looks, and better vibes than ever before but since I have committed to at least one year of hard-mode, I have accordingly not received any sex, although I definitely could have at a few occasions.
    It is at these moments your self-control is tested for real and abstaining from all of these activities (including touching yourself) for a longer period of time will do you good. Just doing NoFap for the sake of getting laid will ruin the progress you have made to that point as it will likely bring you back to a relapse (through the chaser effect).
    I rather focus on self-improvement at the moment so I can find true fulfillment in life and later on a good girlfriend. It is the better option for me rather than going out each weekend looking for the drunk club-smuts who won't bring you any fulfillment or value whatsoever.
     
  5. Mattew

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    Thank you, that's interesting, i stopped hard mode at day 160, maybe i made a mistake there.
     
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  6. Optimistic100

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    Hi there ! Congratulation first of all .I am on Day 62 of Nofap. After a year of overmasturbation I had severe memory loss like alzmeir disease.I remember I had a sharp memory before PMO.No mental benefits like I wanted a memory till now On Day 62.Will I be able to recover ? When did your memory recovered ? I am a student so I need a good memory that is why I am asking.Thank you
     
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  7. control your life

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    congrats on 11 months , way to go !
     
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  8. Angus McGyver

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    You will most likely recover (unless you have something else that's affecting your brain) but it will take some time and honestly, I can't say how long it will take as the effects of a reboot varies greatly between individuals.
    The only thing I can say for sure is that you will feel the effects sooner and stronger if you surround yourself with good habits, such as: a healthy diet, exercise, meditation, reading, good social circle, practicing social skills, etc.
    As the memory loss goes, I actually don't remember when my memory and cognitive functions started to improve but it was only a matter of months in my case and I had almost all of the good habits in place when beginning the NoFap-journey. So, it might take some time.
     
  9. Optimistic100

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    Overmasturbation is cause of it .(I think I was 14 when I first masturbated)Beacuse after a year of over masturbation I felt loss.I used to masturbate daily,sometimes even twice and very very very rarely thrice.So Now it's three years (I am 17 )And have quitted PMO for 62 days.
     
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  10. TantusJulius

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    Congratulation for 62 days!
    Do not expect miracles before 6 months, if you were into fetishes may take even longer. If you relapse you in danger to develop more severe withdrawal symptoms, and prolong your recovery, alot.

    For memory problems: -strong real coffee if you not too much anxious -reading aloud every day, doing mental calculations aloud("Secrets of Mental math: The Mathemagician's guide to lightning calculation and amazing math tricks" good book) -check Dominic O'Brien's books about memory training -20-25 minutes easy cardio every day, if you can do it before breakfast
     
  11. Optimistic100

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    Thank you but what exactly Is fetishes ?
     
  12. TantusJulius

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    Weird sh!t P.
     
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  13. Want to stop 656

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    Wow it is really really inspiring for new comers like me. Hope everything great comes your way .don't know why I have rejuvenated. Was finding it difficult to control urge. Your message made my day. Thank you. Congrats
     
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  14. Optimistic100

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    Well I used to watch Japaneese porn.Of Old man and young girl is that fetish ?
     
  15. Optimistic100

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    I have experience only physical features like
    Shiny hair
    Better skin
    Although overall confidence is still low but better than before.
    No mental improvement
    Still on a flatline symptom is now only low libido.Energy level is good now.
     
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  16. TantusJulius

    TantusJulius Fapstronaut

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    Exactly.
     
  17. luke132

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    Do you plan on ever having sex again? E.g. no porn or masterbation but sex?

    If not why not?
     
  18. Angus McGyver

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    At some point in the future yes, but I am in no rush to get it at the moment as it will just throw me off from my future plans that I am working on currently. When those things start to settle a bit in 4-5 months, I will be more open for it again but when that day comes, I will rather look for quality than quantity (i.e. a stable relationship over several ONSs) as the latter will only bring me closer to a relapse plus add lots of destructive and unfulfilling habits and mindsets into my life again.
     
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  19. MikeyGrabBag

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    Did you gain any insight or have any breakthroughs with your professional life? I feel so lost in terms of my career and I'm hoping a nice long streak of NoFap will help put things in perspective for me
     
  20. Optimistic100

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    Well despite having fetish I expect recovery in a year.Is that possible ?
     

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