sex frequency question

Hey guys I think I explained myself wrong, we usually stop after I have an O. We continue a few min. later.
When I say 1-3 per session I ment the day we have sex is usually 1-3 orgasms for me. I can't have several orgasms in a row non-stop, only she can. Let me know what to edit in the last post, english is my second language.

 

Married at 20 here. Don't regret it, even with the heartache of PMO. I'm glad we started out early.

 

I'm single and thought it would be much harder, but surprisingly it's easier now. Maybe I didn't feel too good in that relationship while now I'm a lot happier and relaxed, even though it gets lonely sometimes. I'm really happy for how it turned out for the time being, and that I'm finally serious about nofap.


Kattskägg

 

Same, when I was 18.

 

I can maintain an erection after orgasm for some time, continuing to have sex, especially if the situation is stimulating. Like if we're in a different place than the old bedroom or if my wife's being particularly responsive or doing something she knows I like. It's funny the things that'll really turn me on after 18 years with my wife - like daytime sex in a situation where I can see her really well in natural light. Doesn't happen too often in the ten years since we had kids.

Getting that second orgasm would require more work than it's worth, though. And my wife is done after 15 minutes. She's impressed by my lingering erection and desire to keep going, but not interested. My wife is a very fortunate woman, she has orgasm after orgasm. I'd like to take credit and claim that I'm a fantastic lover but it isn't even challenging. She just wants to hop on, have her orgasms, know I came, then be done.

We tried karezza for a bit and I liked it, but she hated it.

 

Well said sir. I think there is a flip side to the family/career thing though. I did the opposite in some ways- married at 25 but met my wife when I was 19. Then made decisions about our careers with the limitations of staying together in mind (where we would live, needing money for the wedding, things like that). As a result I got a graduate degree and have a moderately successful career on track though I'm not super ambitious. But looking back now, I think I wasn't mature enough in my early 20s to commit to marriage. Either I settled, or simply lacked the self confidence to think I could meet the woman of my dreams. So just stayed in the relationship and got married. Nothing wrong with that but sometimes I'd love to have the freedom to date now and meet the right girl. My point is there is an absence of passion that led to negative reinforcement of bad habits -- drinking, emotional withdrawal, feeling sorry for myself, nostalgia over an ex girlfriend, and porn to escape from those feelings. In my 30s with a little more maturity finally I realize it's Counterproductive to be like that and need to break the habits! Life is short. There are only so many diems so let's carpe the fuck out of them!

 

Almost no one marries the man or woman of their dreams. For most of my relationship with my wife I was convinced I had made a huge mistake. For some time it made me really sad and I felt like I had blown my whole life.

But then I realized the problem was with myself. I had this mind state that somehow the right woman loving me would validate my existence. For various reasons my wife loving me didn't do anything for my ego. She had also said things that hurt me, so I didn't feel safe loving her and making myself vulnerable. For much of our relationship these issues caused me to withdraw - not fully - but just a little. I kept my innermost heart away from her. I too drank too much and looked at porn.

A few years ago I changed radically and in that process I set my mind to love her selflessly for who she was and forgive her any wrongs (real or perceived) and not require her to provide my value for me. That's how marriage is supposed to be, right? Since then things have been great. The greatest tragedy in my life became my greatest joy.

Personally, I'm glad I committed to my wife young (19 years old). I think it takes a long, long time to work out the kinks in a relationship, once the initial thrill wears off. I'm glad that now, at 37, I really feel like we can move forward together. If I met someone right now - I wouldn't want to have to wait till we were 50 to figure things out. I'm sure that's not always the case... but then again, with all the baggage people have as they get older, maybe it takes even longer then.

 

Thanks for sharing and glad you were able to turn things around! I'm in the same place you describe being in a few years ago and hoping/trying to turn things around. Unfortunately I've spent too much time being bitter about losing the girl I thought I was in love with at 17/18, and being bitter about disagreements, incompatibilities, feeling disrespected early in the relationship with my wife. I'm hoping to be able to forgive,break the bad habits, and end up closer in the long run.

 

I dunno...at the end of my life it is going to be my kids and my grandkids that are sitting at my feet making memories, not my career. Family and people are what matter to me. A career is just a job that provides food and a roof for me to come home and enjoy with my family. In the end that job means nothing. I can always get a different job. It's the relationships I build and create that mean the most to me.