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Im only doing this for one reason, is that wrong?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by LemonSquared, Aug 2, 2014.

  1. LemonSquared

    LemonSquared Fapstronaut

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    I only began NoFap to fix my ED, thats it. I mean I really like the fact that it'll boost my confidence as well among other things, but I never really considered emotional connection or anything like that. i see many of the people here, do it so they can finally feel the connection they've been missing, and to stop objectifying women. Is it wrong of me to do this for the sole purpose of fixing my ED and nothing more?
     
  2. waltz#1

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    I wouldn't say it's wrong necessarily. You have the right to do it for whatever reason you want. The real question is, will it stick? If you don't care about "having a real connection" or any of the other things a lot of people do it for, then what's to stop you from going back when you don't think there's anything else really wrong with it?

    Maybe you should be asking yourself the question, is having a PMO addiction wrong? Now, my answer would be yes. But let's keep the morals out of it and look at this purely scientifically. If a PMO addiction is natural or there isn't anything inherently wrong with it, why does your body respond with ED? Obviously there is some sort of imbalance that is causing your body to malfunction.

    So, to answer your question, no. I don't personally believe there is anything wrong with your reason/motivation. In fact, I'm of the mind that any reason to fight an addiction is good as long as it isn't also self destructing. The question is, is your fear of ED strong enough to keep you from going back? If it is, then great, that's all you need. If not, you might want to do some soul searching and find some other reasons.

    Just my two scents. Good luck!
     
    Last edited: Aug 2, 2014
  3. Hotshot

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    No it's not wrong. I did it because I felt like garbage. I can tell you this, though. There is something to be said about not being bound to an addiction. I feel empowered and in control. That's priceless to me. After watching porn since I was 6, and started PMO at age 9, I am now 23, I have no life "before" PMO to compare/contrast.

    I can't tell you the differences entirely because they are so unknown to me. I can tell you I have more patience with my GF. I can tell you I feel more loved from the people around me. I have talked to people. I definitely have more confidence, which is crazy because I am overconfident. I don't "know" what other changes there are to be had. I've recently become more efficient in things I've been doing. Being more ambitious in my goals for my life. I have more sensation during sex. [All be it small, but increased and it's getting better by the day.] My head doesn't feel "cloudy". I feel like the longer I keep going, the more I can "see" around me. It's crazy what the actual difference is to me. If you aren't truly committed to quiting, you might miss these things. You may not experience them at all, that's fine. I did, though.
     
  4. albatross15

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    Nice reply Hotshot. I'm 21 and started P when I was also 6 and MO when I was 10 so you and me probably have a lot in common.

    To the OP, IMHO, I think whatever reason that brings you to wanting to end an addiction is a good reason. I also believe that if you keep your mind open during this journey, you may just start noticing some other benefits in your life and you may end up doing this for many reasons.

    I'm at 12 days today, my personal best, but I also have 1 fap in the last 23 days. My life is changing so much for the better, and I feel like I'm really starting to learn who I really am. that alone is reason enough to keep me going .

    good luck brother!
     
  5. LemonSquared

    LemonSquared Fapstronaut

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    Thanks guys. I appreciate you all responding to me. I agree, any reason to end an addiction is a good reason, ive also started to do some soul searching. Ive seemed to have fixed my ED, but ejaculation while great, is no where what I imagined it to be. I realize this is because its not with a woman i adore, so thats what im going to do. Im actually going after a girl right now, one that i know ive had feelings for, for quite some time, and i realize no matter how much time away from this girl ill continue to fall for her all over again. So this is what im going to go for, and ive noticed ive become far more ambitious courageous and other things. Im definitely gonna keep it up, i plan to never go back to PMO. Albatross15, good work bud, Keep it up. i usually turn to pmo out of boredem, so make sure to keep yourself entertained!
     

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