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Your goals - from a 146 day-er

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by c-l-a-s-h, Jun 29, 2014.

  1. c-l-a-s-h

    c-l-a-s-h Fapstronaut

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    Don't let the struggle become the ultimate goal. Yeah, PMO and fighting against it give you a sense of purpose and of getting better with a measurable progress bar, however it shouldn't be the ultimate goal. I see a lot of people on here that have been getting to the same numbers and then resetting every time. Push yourself the extra mile. Make it resolute in your head. Not pumped up motivation, but calm dedication to not jerking off.

    In the end, the way I've stayed clean so long are a few things. The first was I have this distinct image in my head of one relapse where PMO-ed five times in two hours and I still wasn't satisfied. Then and there I realized that I've tried the PMO route and it doesn't work. Time to try something new. Everytime I wanted to relapse, I thought about that and realized that I've been there for too long, I know what PMO-ing does and ultimately it's not what I want. Get fucking resolute.

    Second, go to Nofap Academy on Youtube with Mark Queppet. Fucking helps big time.

    Third, come here until you trust yourself. Post every day. EVERY GODDAMN DAY. Keep a journal. It's helpful to know you're not alone.

    Fourth, Your Brain On Porn if you like the whole structured thing. There's a section on Rebooting that definitely helps with great resources.

    Fifth, bookmark motivation quotes and stuff when you feel down. Motivating texts, pictures, quotes, whatever for when you feel like relapsing hard core.

    Sixth, get some role models. I like James Bond. When I try to picture him jerking off, I can't. Why? Because he's fucking badass and he doesn't have to. Aspire to a role model even if they're fictional.

    Seventh, find stuff to do with your time other than not jerking off. If you spend most of your time focusing on not jerking off you have a bigger problem than PMO-ing. This should help with that: http://www.kratosguide.com/16-habits...-do-every-day/

    Eighth, two of the most important things I think that helped during this journey was cold showers and meditation. The reason being is they deal with discomfort and getting to know yourself. Do them. Religiously.

    And ninth, the final. Ultimately, it comes down to you, the X Factor. You have all the tools. There is no reason you shouldn't be able to quit. But whatever you do, commit. Either, jerk off to porn to your heart's content or don't jerk off at all. There is no half-ass. There is no trying for two years and staying in the same place.

    "Be not afraid of going slowly, be only afraid of staying still."

    After two years, you should be more than capable of going ninety days or even not PMO-ing if that's what you desire. But there is no staying still.

    For me, the choice is easy. Although my life isn't perfect, I think it's a hell of a lot better without a mental, physical, and time drain like jerking off. It provides no purpose. So make the choice.

    But whatever you choose, I hope to god you commit. Because you can respect someone for their choices, right or wrong, but not neglecting to make a choice.

    Watch this video. I'm serious, watch it.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuPLxQD4akQ
     
  2. 215

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    Damn fine read, with awesome resources put in, i've read the 16 habits article aswell. I'm thankful!
     
  3. Hostage

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    This is some really good sh*t. Last time I looked, there were only a handful of Mark Queppet videos. Now there's loads of them! Great news. Plenty to keep myself motivated with.
     
  4. Great post, man! Thanks for the inspiration!
     
  5. StarKing

    StarKing Guest

    this is a great post, thank you. I am going for HM and am going to start taking cold showers and meditating again. thanks clash
     
  6. innercall

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    Tooo good bro..!!!
    Keep up the good work.!
     
  7. kingp1n

    kingp1n Fapstronaut

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    I've favourited that youtube video at the end of the post. Great post.
     
  8. c-l-a-s-h

    c-l-a-s-h Fapstronaut

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    Thanks boys! Appreciate the replies! :)
     
  9. Emerge

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    Great post! The 16 Habits was a great read. As for "getting the right amount of sleep", I downloaded an App on my iphone that works perfectly. It wakes you up during the lightest phase in you REM cycle. This allows you to hop out of bed. The app is called "Sleep Cycle", I highly recommend it.
     
  10. gregorys

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    You're the fucking man. Thanks for this. Yesterday was rough, and this gives me the resolve to continue on to week three.
     
  11. Empty Handed

    Empty Handed New Fapstronaut

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    It's good to be able to get some useful insight from someone at 146 days. Thanks. Any chance of a nudge in the right direction for someone starting Meditation? There are too many different guides online I don't know where to start.
     
  12. greyballon

    greyballon Fapstronaut

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    Great post thank you for sharing.
    Unfortunately the link to thr 16-habits article isn't working anymore.
     
  13. not2late

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    This post and the video finally broke me down. I finally cried for the wrongs I have done, literally crying out 'what have I done'. I needed that.
    Thank you.
     
  14. sean_combs6

    sean_combs6 Fapstronaut

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    Wow. so true. your point about the struggle not being the priority is what i think keeps holding me back. and no, i can't see Bond jerking off either. how pitiful would that be? srs, thanks for the practical tips.
     
  15. Amr Sayed

    Amr Sayed Fapstronaut

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  16. Avalion

    Avalion Fapstronaut

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    Things like that give me ultimate motivation for chasing my goals. I'm sending my respect and appreciation for your advices.
     

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