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PMO HardMode and GF is angry because i can't do anything to her

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by vrpro, Jul 2, 2017.

  1. Jul 2, 2017 #1
    vrpro

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    I'm still confused if I got PMO Hardmode then How can I make my GF happy from sexual point of view if I'm still in hardmode? Is there anyone who get the same problem and had the solution of this problem?

    My GF used to ask for kissing, rubbing her vagina, sucking her nipple, then when I got my hardmode, my GF still asking for the same activities.

    I have already told her that I got nofap challenge yet she still want to ask the same things.

    My last strike was 21 days PMO HardMode before my GF ask me to kiss her and she gave me a hand job whatsoever at same point that I could not resist it then I'm relapsed.

    I still confuse how to please my GF when I'm doing my PMO Hardmode

    Thank you for nofap and the forum.
     
    vrpro, Jul 2, 2017
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  2. Jul 2, 2017 #2
    Freitas.P

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    Man, I think the NoFap it's about pornography plus masturbation and orgasm exactly in this order - you can't M and O without any porn related thing. Cumming it's a response to the estimulation that you received and if it's was not caused by yourself it's ok, imo.

    Porn is the threat, not sexual life.
     
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  3. Jul 3, 2017 #3
    green lion eating the sun

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    I agree with @Freitas.P 100%

    it is correct abstaining from porn but have sex with your gf. sex is normal part of any relationship
     
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  4. Jul 3, 2017 #4
    JamesWarrior

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    This depends on your needs. Do you want to abstain from sex for a period of time, or do you just want to give up porn and masturbation addiction? You can choose the latter and still have sex with your girlfriend, that would be fine. But, if you feel you also need to abstain from sex as well for a more thorough reboot, then talk to your girlfriend and ask her to understand, you could even set a period of days such as 90 days no sex and spend that time talking and connecting on a deeper level. All the best.
     
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  5. Jul 4, 2017 #5
    The Wrestler

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    Hardmode at the cost of your relationship seems like a poor trade.
    What activities would you feel comfortable doing with your girlfriend? Which do you want to avoid?
    What are your goals for doing the reboot? How do those compare to what your girlfriend needs? What is the middle ground between your recovery and your relationship?
    What does your girlfriend think about this process you are going through? What does she make of why you are doing it?
     
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  6. Jul 4, 2017 #6
    The Wrestler

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    Also, just to clarify something that might need clarifying, what do you mean by "hardmode"?
     
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  7. Jul 5, 2017 #7
    Papasmurf22

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    I've been having sex with my gf on a consistent basis and I've been doing a decent job abstaining from p&m I'm not counting anymore but I'm past a month.. but I'm still depressed and feel like I'm in a flatline most of the time.. does it get better or do I have to take out sex all together too?
     
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  8. Jul 5, 2017 #8
    faplordxd

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    its nofap not no sex
     
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  9. Jul 5, 2017 #9
    sknnyjns

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    Around 30 days it is normal to be in a flatline even if you dont have sex. So i would give it some weeks, after that if you still feel that the sex is holding you back you can try to do without it for a period. Just do it on your own pace and do what works for you. As long as you don't relapse it's all good and all progress. Good luck!
     
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  10. Jul 7, 2017 #10
    WankMaster

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    If you want to do hard mode mode, do hard mode, if not m, just do no PM.

    If she doesn't support you either way fuck her off because she isn't worth it
     
    WankMaster, Jul 7, 2017
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  11. Jul 7, 2017 #11
    Papasmurf22

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    Thanks man appreciate it.. I'll try that
     
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  12. Jul 9, 2017 #12
    vrpro

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    First of all, I just want to say thank you to all of nofap's members who answering and giving your personal opinion

    But I can still O with my GF beside me and it's breaking my PMO strike, yeah I'm not doing it by myself, just GF handjobing and kissing me for pleasure

    Thank you so much for your opinion, I'll change it to PM normal mode for 90 days,

    My goal are I want to be free from P and from M, so that I can do normal live without those 2 things. I'm still want to have sex with my GF and do the sexual things with her because it feels good, but I do not know if this is "true rebooting" or not. I'm afraid if after my PM 90 Days is completed (while I'm still having sexual activites with my GF), then I'll be back to P and M somedays.

    my GF is horny one, she will do sexual things to me eventhought I'm not asking for it. That are make my GF feel better. I want to avoid P and M for the rest of my life so that I can do normal live without those 2 things.

    I'm afraid if I've completed my PM for 90 days then I will still have this flatline like you,bro.

    yeah thanks for your opinion.

    thank you bro for your answer.

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    For information, when my last strike of 21 days nofap no PMO, I did not meet my GF in that period. When I met, then my GF give me pleasure at some point that I'm relapsed. My recent strike was 5 days before met my GF again and she gave me pleasure.

    I thought thas from my experience, it was so hard for me to stabilize and be in PMO if I had a GF, So that according to all of advices, Now, I'm reducing my target from PMO to PM Normal Mode only, target for 90 days, additional mode: not watching woman sexy pictures and only getting O with my GF or real woman at real world.

    Also, I just want to say thank you to all of nofap's members who answering and giving your opinion. There are so helpful.
     
    vrpro, Jul 9, 2017
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