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I saw av trigger and went back to it

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by joarev85, Jul 2, 2017.

  1. Jul 2, 2017 #1
    joarev85

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    Okay so I was at Fb and then i saw a
    picture of av bikini girl unfortunately. I moved away but then i scrolled back to Who this person was that hadde poste this. And then i saw the picture one more... I moved away again but was annoyed at myself because i thought i had relapsed Did i? I am really inn doubt... I usually scroll away but this time i went back and i was in doubt. I suddenly felt stressed in my body right after. I am in doubt... Dont like it... Hjelp med out on this one. Please.
     
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  2. Jul 2, 2017 #2
    I will win

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    Yes, unfortunately, you relapsed, but not totally. You can reset the porn counter and continue the MO counter.
     
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  3. Jul 2, 2017 #3
    joarev85

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    Yeah i chose to reset the counter. Feels like I made a Big mistake because it will be easier for me to seek p for real....Since i am only at Day 0. I admit that that i seek the trigger But mostly to know the name of the person who uploaded it, Since i know she loves to post pictures like that. I then scrolled down to much and was to the girls in bikini. I quickly decided to stop and it was over for maybe 2 seconds. Didn't get any Dopamine hit. Just was a little annoyed at myself and a little stressed for maybe 10 minutts. And i know her a little...annoying an i must admit that i am feeling a little depressed right now. 85 days clean....
     
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  4. Jul 2, 2017 #4
    I will win

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    You chose the good choice.
     
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  5. Jul 2, 2017 #5
    Freitas.P

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    Relapse? Really? I don't think so.

    If you're a straight guy it's normal to feel attracted to girls, in swimsuit or whatever the clothes and want to see it. BUT the point is what you do with the situation. I mean, you can't scape this, it's everywhere, but you have to learn to deal with this kind of thing.

    I'm not telling you "Yeah, go back there and take a look again", like you said it's a trigger if you're alone in your room for example. But since you don't MO to it, I don't think it's a relapse even with almost 90 days.

    I'm struggling this FB thing too, wanted to quit it but I can't quit real world. The problem it's me, my behavior in front of it.
     
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  6. Jul 2, 2017 #6
    YngwieWanksteen

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    Hmm, that could be a relapse.

    That would not be a relapse for me. I know we talk about what constitutes porn and some say anything that arouses you. But for me there's levels of reasons. I expect someday to be able to look at a picture of a woman in a bikini and take reasonable pleasure in it. When I have a partner, if we go to the beach, I expect to be able to look around and see women in bikinis, be able to think "wow, she's hot" and still take my lady home without relapsing.

    Maybe you shouldn't start with this kind of behaviour if you think it's necessary or whatever your situation calls for.
     
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  7. Jul 3, 2017 #7
    Freitas.P

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    Exactly!
     
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  8. Jul 3, 2017 #8
    joarev85

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    Yeah but seeking women at the beach would not be a relapse because ITS a real person. But in this case it was a photo. And because the person is real , the phot is not of course. So... maybe it was a relapse. Wonder how many in here working with false counters then because almost everyone used Facebook and there are triggers at Facebook too. And i agree , according to Yourbrainonporn.com everything that stimulates the sexual centres in our brain in an negative way could be a relapse. What about fantasiens then. I admit that i have had alot of them lately. And they are very pornish i would say. I know that fantasy is not the same as to surf the web for porn, but it could easily lead to it...or???
     
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  9. Jul 3, 2017 #9
    YngwieWanksteen

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    I think you're taking the best course of direction because you're erring on the side of caution. And I don't think it's just that you could be right about your situation, if that's how you understand it then you are doing what's right.
     
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