Depression

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There ain't no answers. That's the thing.

 

Make a youtube channel where you review games or something.

Join a local group of gamers if there are any and play games with them.

Or join an extremist political cult to purge the world of the unbelievers.

 

It's probably for the best that you don't accept it. You wouldn't want to become me.

 

GO SEE A THERAPIST ASAP

 

I know that a lot of these solutions sound oversimplified, I know that a lot of affirmation people are trying to provide sounds like cliches, and when I say that you should you should seek help from a mental health professional, I'm guessing you think that won't be effective either.

I know what it's like to be in a dark place and feel like there's no escaping. I know what it feels like to think your life isn't worth living. I've been in a place where the only reason I didn't commit suicide was a fear of inconveniencing others. I was virtually blinded to the fact that there were people who cared. It took a long time and a lot of work to get through it, but I did. There was a lot worth living for that I'm thankful every day I didn't miss out on. It wasn't easy, it wasn't quick, but it did get better.

That said, talk to someone who can get you started working with a mental health professional. Yes, people on here offer advice and want to help, but they don't have the specific skillset and knowledge to help people who are suffering what you are going through. (Even if they did, it would be ineffective and unethical to try to counsel someone in this online setting.) However, mental health professionals are people who are educated, trained, and making their livelihood in helping people who go through what you are describing.

I know that's not an easy step, and it's not like they will be able to hand you a solution that makes you feel better immediately. However, the right professional will help you utilize your own strengths to change your thinking and behavior that's making you unhappy. It's hard, but with the right help, you can see a positive change in your life.

 

Depression is terrible. It took me 2 to 3 years to get better. Your friends will advise what they are saying cause that's what they are capable of. They don't know any better. Just as they wouldn't know what medicine to prescribe if you went to them with a broken leg.

I'm not insisting you visit a therapist but some form of counseling, or even chatting with a friend helps at time. It made me realize I'm not alone.

I'm not the only one who envies others pics when I see them on fb, I'm not the only one who is not happy with their life/career, I'm not the only one who has issues with their parents, I'm not the only one who has a hard time to make friends, I'm not the only one who has life regrets, I'm not the only one with life problems.

I was obsessed to find a solution to life. Like some answer. And now I've realized there isn't a single answer. We live, we die. One life is all we have. Make the most of it. Live carefully.

I know mostly this won't solve anything. It didn't solve for me when I was told the above words. Healing is a process and will take its own time.

Take care.

 

Well, you have a fairly pessimistic way of thinking but still a way of thinking. The words you wrote really touch me deeply.
I hope you will find your answer .
Personnaly i found mine, god.

 

Just to be sure, else i'll be thinking all day who is 'you' above. me or op. i dont mind having pessimistic way of thinking. but else i'd be thinking all day was it me or the op
so who's 'you' in the above quote.

 

It's like seeing myself in the mirror somewhere when I was 17-20 years old.
I wish I could give you a straight answer and a solution but unfortunately there aren't universal and probably wouldn't fit your profile anyway.

But talking subjectively, If I went back in time and go talk to myself I would say me this: Stop jerking off, that is my demise. Everything can be changed around but stop doing what I'm doing and just go outside in the sun and stay there for as long as I can. If not sun, rain, snow whatever....And you will see things will start to clear up.

You are probably not gonna listen but things sometimes are straight forward even If we don't see them that way.
Obviously, you are playing too much games. Games are not healthy, they will bring to be depressed + some PMO and you are down the rabbit hole.
Shit. For all I care don't listen to what I said.

But try going just outside from time to time...These technology is killing us. You need to give your brain some time off, man.

 

Definately true.
This what I do when I feel lonely.
Going outside, walking near riverbank & sit in peace with nature & feel the wind, sound of birds, etc.

 

Works for me bud.
May be you need to be open more.

 

"Feeling Good" by David Burns helped me a lot when I had my depressive phase (8 months)

 

The reason you haven't found the answers to this is because your looking to other people to help ultimately you can only help yourself get better no one can do it for you, yes a therapist will help but it's ultimately you that does it! Yes you have social issues and depression but does that mean you can't live your life? Yes your going to find it a lot harder than most people but you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone, small steps is the way forward, you can either sit there continue to play games eat and sleep and of course school or you can take small steps now push yourself both out your comfort zone and actually do something with your life, surely you have some kind of dream career or hobby? Focus on that just challenge yourself! You have an advantage cause at school every day you could speak to anyone even if it's about the work it's still social exposure.