Is this really the right way?

I got rid of my addiction. I have rebooted. It's not that hard if you know what to do.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I am getting the feeling that you either don't have the commitment, or you haven't decided that this isn't what you want to do.

When I decided to quit, I told myself, "You need to stop wasting time muddling around. You need to put your foot down to this addiction and move on with your life." You can't say, "This is really the last time." and not mean it. MEAN IT WHEN YOU SAY IT

I am the type of person with a lot of commitment. If I couldn't sleep, I would tell myself, I am not going to lay in bed. It is too tempting for me to PMO right now. There were nights where I gave up sleep to not give in to PMO. If you want to be successful, you sometimes have to sacrifice sleep.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I could have lapsed today, very easily. Its getting harder to keep my mindset strong.

My experience has been a lot about how my perspective keeps shifting, at the points I could lapse, i've just about convinced myself that not to PMO would be a ridiculous choice. My perspective becomes so distorted that I lose focus on why i'm doing this, or even focus on whether I want to do it, it would be so much more comfortable to return to the old ways.

I think this is where the real challenge lies, because you will shift and change, your mind will shift and change, and your subconscious will lure you into a place where it can get what it wants. I'm spending so much time on this forum its almost like a new addiction, but it anchors my choice, my resolve to see it through. Without this forum I'm almost certain I would have already broken my streak.

If you must lapse, do one thing, write down your reasons for doing so (before you act!), then afterwards read those justifications and gain some insight, and hopefully some control. Learn about yourself and grow rather than berate yourself for being human.

 

It's all about the commitment, guys! More commitment you choose to have, the more spiritual help you get, the better you'll do,

~Squeaky Soul

 

BreakingFap... you are just really really really addicted. Your mind is making all kinds of justifications. You sound like a heroine addict! lol but seriously man. You know what brought you here. There is nothing cool or anything with self-respect that has to do with masturbating. It is staring at a computer screen with your tool in your hand watching other people screw just so you can feel good for a few seconds. The whole shpeal about its just human nature and your not a computer blah blah blah are justifications and excuses. My biggest fault and criticism with this site is the lack of serious time on here, but the site is young and so are the fapstronaughts. I can promise you that if you abstain and fight the temptation long enough and maybe even seek help from a therapist or a recovery program. even a 12-step program. you really will rewire your brain just like a computer and you wont have to sit in front of the computer and tug at yourself and desecrate and degrade yourself for a few seconds of pleasure that you fantasize about all day.

 

You're making all sorts of rationalizations that don't really work, and you know they don't work. I don't need to waste time refuting them.

If you truly are convinced that you are at your best when you masturbate often, then keep fapping and be happy! Why did you join this community though? What kind of answers are you expecting?

You need to figure out for yourself: 1) what has masturbation or porn done to you; 2) what man you want to be; 3) how are you going to achieve that goal.

If your answer to 1) is really "has made me a better person" then you don't need to change anything! But we both know that's not true.

You seemed to be going through some unexpected withdrawal symptoms - the "dreaded flatline" as some call it - but know that these are temporary, and that within several months of quitting PMO you will get back to enjoying life normally without the need to watch porn or masturbate. You can get through that if you know what to expect, and you are strong in your resolve.

 

"When you find yourself in the middle of hell, keep going!"

Although I am very new to nofap, I think the greatest strength of this site is not the number of people saying "I did it", or "just toughen up". But rather those who just have the hope that today will be different from yesterday and will keep on fighting together.

I heard a story of an ex-alchoholic, who after being clean for many, many years, simply prayed every day "God, please help me not to touch a drink today". Sometimes the mountain of a week or a month is too much, rather just focus on getting past today.

 

You're gonna quit everytime something gets a little hard in life?

 

Jesus Christ, the guy is just here venting, there's no need to get all self-righteous on him. That's a serious problem here I think, we all get frustrated and lash out in some way, all of the people accusing the OP of not being dedicated are doing just that; lashing out due to their own frustration.

 

Let the dude vent indeed. He is frustrated like hell and i there is a little logic in his reasoning. If you ONLY try to surpress it will pop up some where else. Thats as old as Freud.