How important is physical attraction?

So, this is probably getting some mixed answers, so please only contribute if you have experience dating. (No offense, I myself would not answer here. However, feel free to join with questions yourself!)

So, here's my problem. I am signed up to an online dating site (a serious one) and a woman started talking to me. (she made the first step, which is something)
She lives a bit further away but not too much (about 2 hours by car), but because of that I haven't met her yet.
From character, personality and hobbies she's great. I enjoy writing with her, we share the same hobbies and interests, but,
she's not my type, physically.
She's not ugly but not the kind I would think about approaching to when seeing her somewhere.

Am I too superficial here? How much of a problem could that be?

Vague questions, I know but certainly someone knows or has been in this situation before.

 

This is what I was gonna do anyway. The last time I went on a date it was similar but when I met her in person it would have been fine. Back then it was her that wasn't interesting.
This time, maybe it is the same.

And yeah, I'm not looking for someone to show off with, I want someone to be happy with and enjoy the time spent with.

 

Well I asked her about meeting, so I'll find out. I'll keep you updated.
The distance is a problem for us, though, not sure how people get into long distance relationships in the first place...

 

Did not yet post an update but might as well now.

@Runtilmylegsdropoff - You're right.
I've been on a date with her by now and even though our interests and characters really were a good match, there were also a few things that were not.
Not only in the looks departement.
Nofap taught me to appreciate a lot more women than before but there is a limit to what goes. That might be different for anyone, though.

So, as a generall update for the others, (@PineappleMan ) the date went well but no further dates either are set or will be.
So I'm back to looking. *sigh*

 

Yes, one you pay for. But they only want 10€ for 90 days. I know the big ones and they are insane, demanding 250+ for a year.
10 for 90 days was okay to try. Also no contract or something, one time payment.

 

Read more carefully but thank you for your condern. (And yes you are right as with any site that requires a membership. This one was only for writing first, my first date wrote me first and we were able to have a normal conversation, no restriction.
As is said, there is no membership or anything, they wanted a one time payment of 10€ for 3 months with no follow up.
And since I got 2 dates from there already there are even some humans among there.

Maybe there is also a bit lost in translation, it's not about sex dates or anything like that but rather finding real relationships.
I'm writing this as there are a shit-ton of these sex-dating sites that want a hilarious amount of money and have tons of suxually starved women writing all these messages before you even signed up.
(Yes, I was interessted at some point, but obviously did not pay!)

And to extend, I don't plan on paying it again. It was fun this one time but that's about it. And I gained a lot from nofap (which I started after that) in the socialize department.
Mainly, I have no problem talking to girls anymore. Still no idea what to say but that is simply missing excercise. Also, it's actually a lot of fun talking to the other sex. Maybe that is why it is called "the game". Even if I suck at it.

The two hours were a hindrance but if the date would have went well I was ready to find a way, the distance is quite managable. (Driving this distance in car only comes to around 20€, both ways).

 

Yeah the more I did all that online dating I came to believe this myself.
Meeting someone in real life has the tremendous advantage that you know you'll like her looks (and pictures are always not showing the full image)
Also writing with someone is one thing but talking to them in real life is where the chemistry has to happen. And sometimes something that was there in writing, isn't when meeting in person.

 

I've met both in real life and the second one (the one I started this topic about) was apparently somewhat in love, she took my "not interested" not so well.
Also, she came to spend the night prepared with everything (yes she brought condoms) ^^
Furthermore, because of the distance (she came to me first) I drove her home and now know where she (and her family as she lives with her parents and sister) lives.

I don't know what sites you have in mind, still thinking maybe we're talking about different kind of dating sites.

I am however also seriously thinking about how to implement your advice on socializing. I realize that I do want to and the problem is not me starting a conversation (not anymore) but the flow of conversation itself. My mind kinda goes blank after the initial few sentences and especially if she answers them rather shortly, which might also indicate that my questions were not engaging enough, maybe?