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How can i deal with massive anger ?!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Apothecarist, Mar 25, 2017.

  1. Apothecarist

    Apothecarist Fapstronaut

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    Hello , soldiers

    can any one tell me how to deal with anger ?!
     
  2. HH69

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    This is a broad question but I'm assuming it has to do with your reboot? How far along are you? And how do you get?

    I'm on day 30 and my anger is slowly starting to get better. At the beginning I would get unreal mood swings that would end in me being very angry (at absolutely nothing). I'm usually not very patient but wow this was a whole new level for me.. Way worst than quitting smoking.

    What helped me is exercise and keeping busy. I started a new fitness program and that was a good way to get rid of most of my anger. When I wasn't at the gym or outside doing something I would read, tidy up the house or try to find something productive to do. Don't get me wrong I still have days where I wake up and I'm angry for no reason.. But I'm only at day 30 and it's gotten better so I imagine it will go away as a recover. My goal is 90 days. From what I can tell this is all normal.

    I'm sure there are many other ways but that's what worked for me! Hope this helps.
     
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  3. Apothecarist

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    thanks for your advice , but , i think when i started rebooting i was very smooth and calm and lazy ,, but during rebooting i get mad for no reason , as an example when i am working i become very upset and down ,, i start to make fun of my colleagues and get mad on them for no reason , i can tell you that anger increases when i make effort .
     
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  4. Shooting range. Pew pew pew.
     
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  5. HH69

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    That's normal, it will get better. You said you were lazy before the reboot, make a change try walking or running to burn off some steam. I'm excercising everyday and still get angry but it's not as bad. Your Brain is dealing with a lack of dopamine so it's in withdrawal. As lame as it sounds, breath and walk about instead of reacting in anger. Helped me a lot.
     
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  6. choosingbetter

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    Addictions often cover up things people don't like feeling. So when the addiction is being broken, what it has covered up comes up to be dealt with in a more healthy way.

    Recognizing this is your first point of power. Just like the saying "you don't have to believe every thought you think" the same holds true for feelings. Just bc you feel it doesn't mean you have act on it. One the best things about breaking free from addictive patterns IMHO is remembering that our choices are our own. At the end of the day I'm the one who makes my choices--not the thing in my head that wants to go apesh*t for no particular reason.

    Personally if I feel inappropriately annoyed, I recognize it, I breathe through it, and I try to choose as rationally as possible. Later I then try to give it a healthy outlet. Exercise like he mentioned. Also free-writing helps me get it out. I write and write, by hand, even if it's nonsense raging and bitching, until I feel spent. Usually no less than 15 minutes, but the energy changes before an hour.

    For me beneath the anger is always sadness. I write that out too. When its done--when its spent--i burn the pages without reading them. Then I usually say a prayer to center myself. If I'm really on one I'll do it again for days in a row, as a practice, until I feel clean.

    That works for me, and I offer it for your consideration. Glad you posted and good work making it this far. No matter what you choose, being in the game means you will ultimately win. Good luck.
     
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  7. Apothecarist

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    thanks brother , i will exercise more frequently soon
     
  8. Apothecarist

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    thanks brother , you inspired me !
     
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  9. Krishnam

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    thank you so much gentlemen. Day 14 now and my anger goes off the roof and stays there for at least a day. Going nuts in the gym.
     

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