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Will NoFap help me improve my life???

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by irock, Jun 17, 2014.

  1. irock

    irock Fapstronaut

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    I have heard many benifits of no pmo like good health , energy, better sexual drive but the only reason im recovering from por and masturbation is because I want to be more social, and talk to people , I want to make very fast conversation replies , and I want girlfriend. Im very dumb at making conversation and in social skill and s little bit of social anxious


    So will abstaining from porn and masturbation help me to be more social. All those who have been recovering from this had felt a change in social behaviour ???
     
  2. thepersonathome

    thepersonathome Fapstronaut

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    Well it all depends on what the root of the problem is. Maybe porn is causing your social anxiety or maybe familial issues are causing your social anxiety. So nofap doesn't guarantee you'll improve your social behavior but there is still a good chance. Nofap has helped me find alternatives. For example because I need to avoid pmo I find hanging out with friends makes it easier for me to avoid it. At the same time I am becoming more social not only because of nofap but because I chose too become more social. I honestly suggest you give nofap a try and see what it gives you.
     
  3. perusan

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    In my opinion abstaining from PMO will not MAKE you more social. This is not a life style programme. It is about recognising your addiction and curing yourself of that addiction. If you are habitually, daily seeking out P and M then you are an addict. You have a problem.

    And if you have a problem then there is a good chance that problem will be impacting on other parts of your life. Consider what your life would be like without PMO - the time you would gain, less guilt about what you are doing, less confusion or distortion about sex. What would you do with that time? How would that make you feel? How would your approach to life be different? How would you approach to women be different?

    Abstaining - or to put it a better way - quitting PMO, is not going to change what you do, but it will give you the better chance to change what you do. You may find without PMO clogging up your brain that you will be more confident. Or it may make you more empathic with other people. But all it is really going to do is free you to be yourself.

    So if you are not good at talking to people and you are not a social person then quitting PMO is not going to change that. But it WILL give you the chance/space/clarity to change. Then the next step is to start understanding what you want from people and what you can give in return. And then you have to start practising it. Talking to people is not a magical gift or a biological action like being able to hop on one foot. It is something you have to do over and over again and learn what works, what doesn't and how to handle BOTH situations. And it may take years, but the trick is to start small, join a group with people that have similar interests, learn to deal with embarrassment and awkwardness, learn to be resilient, determined, learn to recognise people's reactions to different things. On and on, learn and learn.

    Remember, you are not going to be more social WITH PMO so quitting PMO has to be the first step. And quitting PMO will teach you to value yourself, to understand yourself, to deal with disappointment, struggle, success so it should set you on your way.

    Nofap will improve your life, but it won't change who you are. Only you, with hard work and determination, can do that.
     
  4. R.C

    R.C Fapstronaut

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    Yes, it will help you. I dont have time to describe it right now, but basically you will feel more in control, more confident, and that will result in a much better social experience. If you're not constantly obsessing on yourself and whatever you think is wrong with you, you can actually focus on the person you're having a conversation with.
     
  5. JohnnyChimpo

    JohnnyChimpo Fapstronaut

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    I have some pretty intense social anxiety and as much as I'd like to believe NoFap will help, I seriously doubt it. It's not a cure-all, it's just one small step in the right direction. I'm also seeing a therapist and trying to get out and be around people more and I think that will help more than NoFap for the social anxiety.

    Of course, if you strongly believe that NoFap will help your anxiety, you may actually gain a little confidence and that couldn't hurt. I think it's more psychological than physical though.
     

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