Your Progress Is My Progress Is Our Progress: Understanding The Underlying Causes Of Addictions

I have not read this thread in full so sorry if it's already been addressed... what are your opinions of gabor mate and his theory of addiction being based in trauma?

I speak as someone near 6 years sober.

 

This thread was an abandoned exercise.

I'll be commandeering it and continuing the drill from here on out. If you read it in full you would understand what I mean by this.

Dr. Gabor is a hero in the field of addiction recovery. Another Doctor I could recommend is Lance Dodes.

 

“I would love to live like a river flows, carried by the surprise of its own unfolding.” ~ John O’Donohue

This quest must flow like water. I'm using essential oils to improve my health but it feels like I'm still wrecked from the last binge and they barely have any noticeable effect. The herbs I'm taking also don't seem to have an effect.

I need to chop screentime way the frig down and see if that helps. As long I stay clean from masturbation and porn we should be good here mates.

 

I mean I didn't actually read anything by Dr. Gabor @Harderthansatan but I know his material is excellent. I read Dr. Lance's books but discovered no Doctor can help the nature of my problem in the end. I do recommend reading Dr. Lance Dodes before figuring out what your own solution may be, it's unique for each person.



Having childhood trauma from being exposed to pornography at a young age which is traumatizing to a developing brain is like having a kind of curse placed on your life in a sense. It's gonna take willpower and long term commitment to break that shit off.



I wasn't abused as a kid but damn was I humping stuffed animals from as early as I can remember. Humping up a storm when it was time to go to my room all alone.



My parents did their very best with me but they suffered, however willingly, from sexual compulsion issues and the behavior was passed to me inadvertently. I don't blame them. It's time to heal that's all. Someone who was abused or neglected would do well to study Dr. Gabor.



It takes courage to approach recovery like this. That's why people avoid stuff like it and look for a quick fix to their problems. There is no quick fix for a broken person. We can heal though, the longer we postpone healing the more broken we can get we don't want that.

 

Self improvement mission of the moment, wild animals in nature.

 

I'll add him to the already long list of things I have to look at! cheers

 

Cheers.

 

"While we cry ourselves to sleep, gratitude waits patiently to console and reassure us; there is a landscape larger than the one we can see."

There are no excuses to fap once you determine it serves no worthy purpose in your life. Autopilot (lack of mindful awareness) leads us to the depths in the space of acting out on a thought we know is actually a LIE. If we could be honest with ourselves we wouldn't act out on those thoughts we know are not what will lead to future satisfaction and happiness.

 

Due to the truthful nature of this thread, genuine self improvement is the only option.

 

Bobo not to be confused with Bilbo. Never seen one I ain't a damn bird watcher lol the last time I went birdwatching was with a friend a couple years older who actually knew the names of birds we saw in the park I mean he was a nerd and a teacher so I can't blame the guy but anyways the memory is like a haze due to being blacked out on a benzo analogue. No more pills absolutely not. Just Truth.

 

Here's a Dickster:

 

Consuming nature videos is therapeutic. Like there really is research though I've delved into it in the past. This is a huge self improvement, where I was once looking at things I'm not even going to begin to talk about here because that would undermine the constructive nature of this thread (with the intention ultimate self improvement as the final destination) now I am consuming things that aid my progress and improve the inside of me. I don't need to document the outside improvement of my life on this forum.

 

That explains my bad grades and lack of concentration but now I'm kind of regaining it.

 

DICKSTER BRO, sorry I couldn't help it that Dickcissel brought my inner child out.



OH MAN THIS MUSIC IS SOOOO AURALLY NAUGHTY FOR ME I HAVE TO STOP LISTENING TO THIS SHIT!

 

Great!