Online Relationships

I've heard @RepentMySins and @Son of a Bitch are making it work right now! I just can't seem to figure out which one is the gigolo...

 

To quote your father, "you really disappoint me sometimes."



@Jae

I don't see a problem with those relationships, especially in this day and age. They can have their ups and downs like any relationship though.

 

That song sucks. ^

 

I have nothing against it. Its cute that people can dedicate themselves like that. But I can't do it I'm too clingy

 

Never were in one. But for me I don't know whether I could pull it off. I guess it depends from my needs at a time. Right now I'm on Hard Mode and planning to stay on it for a year, maybe more. So at this stage I do not have a big need for sexual relationship or even hugs. Communication can be done face to face via Skype. All tho I might end up being in a place where I will feel the need for closer intimacy eventually. And then I might feel need for somebody to be near me, so monogamous long distance relationship would probably not work. I'm not for it or against it. It totally depends from person to person. If it works for them, good for them.

 

Human beings by nature are wired for relationships with a physical aspect.

I mean this is the digital age though.

Do whatever floats your boat sistah.

 

Btw I voted completely against them. I'm against them for myself by voting that way. If a best friend wanted to do this I'd tell her/him why I don't do it and then I'd tell her/him to go for it if it's what she/he really wanted to do, after I made her/him watch dozens of videos on YouTube on this subject.

 

Shit I shared this in another thread,

 

I personally don't view them as a bad thing provided they're kept at a platonic level while communicating over chat/IM/video, and provided there is a genuine intention to meet each other irl.

With the times we live in it's unrealistic to think some couples won't meet and start out in this way.

 

I used to do online dating, long time ago. But to me, it doesn't feel the same as personal dating. I'm not really against it, I just don't really care for it anymore. Just saying.

 

Long distance.... no it's not a good idea as your needs will not be met in reality.

You are 17. Go meet someone near were you live instead of a long distance electronic relationship.

 

Online relationships are the half bothered approach to relationships. A false sense of belonging and attachment.
On top of that both people can slightly tweak elements of their lives to seem more interesting to the recipient, and so it's not 100% fake but fake none the less.
Online relationships encourage social anxiety indirectly because you don't physically meet the person, you only text or Skype or some crap.
You can never truly know someone via online communication.
I'm against online relationships.

 

Physical aspect and communication

 

There was a time, that I fell for someone online.. Maybe because of his openness.. But, I've never been in a relationship online, I never tried online dating as well...

 

I would tend to agree with this post. I think there is a place for them initially and perhaps if the intent is to keep things friendly and platonic. However, if the two people have the intent of things being more than just friends then I think things that start out online would need to move to face-to-face for the exact reasons that are listed above. It's too easy to present a polished "false self" to the other person that just isn't reality. Just like those that build online dating profiles. Folks tend to fudge things a bit to make them seem more desirable. The same is true with online communications and relationships. I think they can be fine to start and get to know someone but it has to move from that pretty quickly if there seems to be an interest. In addition, like was said above, we're wired for connection and intimacy and without having that physical contact, face -to-face connection, etc. things would always be limited to some degree. Or perhaps worse, things would not be truly genuine given the tendency to only present our best selves. That being said, there are certainly aspects of that going on when people meet in person in the beginning too. I guess it might come down to each person whether they are comfortable with it and feel like both are being honest and transparent enough to really get to know their real selves.

 

Long distance relationships are not good. They have a reputation for having bad endings. If there's no possibility of it becoming a close distance relationship within a few months then I wouldn't bother.

I was in a long distance relationship for a year, but the second my significant other met someone in their hometown they dropped me like a bad habit.