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No social contact for several years

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by CleanUpRegister6, Nov 24, 2016.

  1. Nov 24, 2016 #1
    CleanUpRegister6

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    I dropped out of school at a very early age (before secondary school even), and after that, because I was poor and live in the middle of nowhere, I had no ways of meeting or speaking to people. I'm 18 now and I still hardly ever leave my house. I've had no friends since I was a kid and spent my entire adolescence on my computer, playing video games and watching porn.

    As a teenager, I didn't see a problem because I just assumed I would be dead before I reached adulthood. Now I'm older and realize I don't want to die, I want to do the things that I used to think would be cool if they weren't impossible for me. I'm looking to get my license soon and hopefully a job, but there are other issues which I think need to be taken care of.

    Like the place I go when I feel anxious or bored. Pornography. Unfortunately, where I'm at in my life right now, with no vehicle and no real public areas in distance, I'm stuck in my house until I can rectify that. Which means I'm bored and anxious a lot. Which makes it difficult to stay confident in my ability to avoid PMO.

    I haven't PMO'd in 3 days at this point, and while I'm normally not confident enough to post something like this, I feel letting other people know my issues and my problem will help spur on my confidence and help me move forward with my life. I'm ready to abandon my depression. My addiction to pornography. And I'm ready to begin my life. Because as it is now, I think I've been on hold.

    Thank you for reading. A question to finish with; should I try a journal? My life isn't really eventful so I fear it may not be worth reading, but if it could help me and inspire others, then I'm willing to try it.
     
    CleanUpRegister6, Nov 24, 2016
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  2. Nov 24, 2016 #2
    Sunshadow

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    Hey, man! Yes, I think a journal is probably a good idea. Since you're stuck in your house, you'll have to struggle to avoid PMO, and a journal might help you think through the challenges you have, where you fail and where you succeed.
    Personally, I'd have never made it this far without a journal to keep me accountable. :)

    Whatever you choose, good luck with your journey!
     
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  3. Nov 24, 2016 #3
    Headspace

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    Sorry to hear you had such a pessimistic outlook on life... the good thing is that you're still young. If you set a new course now you'll be a whole different person in few years.

    Regarding the PMO stuff, well you already did a step forward and that is coming here. You need to learn that your urges to masturbate come and go. The first weeks are always the hardest, but after that it will get easier. I am experiencing that again right now. If you keep a journal, do it for yourself. You can decide how often and how much you post. If you don't have much to say, then don't write much. Simple as that!

    Wish you a lot of success!
     
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  4. Nov 24, 2016 #4
    WarriorScarr

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    Hey man. I would definitely keep a journal. Keep track of things that are going on with you no matter good or bad. It will help! Take little steps during your journey. You spoke of getting your license and then a job which is awesome. Tackle those one by one and keeping building on that. I wish you all the best!
     
    WarriorScarr, Nov 24, 2016
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  5. Nov 24, 2016 #5
    Casey54

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    Hey cleanupregister6, I would recommend starting a journal, I don't write much of anything in it, I just like having it as a counter for myself. Good luck with your license, it's one of the things I've avoided in life as I've been addicted to porn. I'm now 30 and I'm just getting a license. Good luck with your journey
     
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  6. Nov 25, 2016 #6
    F50C137YZ

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    Journals are just as much about thoughts, feelings, emotions and sussing out the past as they are about your current life. So, yes, try a journal and see what happens.
     
    F50C137YZ, Nov 25, 2016
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  7. Nov 25, 2016 #7
    I Free I

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    I Appreciate you sharing this post with us . First I want to say that you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you, adulthood is starting out now for you . Second, the ball is on your side of the court now meaning your winning since you've already acknowledged your problems and trying to find a solution to fix them... that's the first step into "growth" . I believe in you, anything is possible ! Take Care .
     
    I Free I, Nov 25, 2016
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  8. Nov 25, 2016 #8
    Dziki007

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    Hey man, thanks for sharing you story. Good thing you realized in such young age that porn and masturbation had so bad affect on you. Hold strong brother and fight that addiction.
     
    Dziki007, Nov 25, 2016
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