Suspicious to all men now

I have a thraumatizing history with a porn addict, finished the relationship many months ago, since then for feeling desirable again have had many affairs. With two of those men have exprienced ED towards me, and what a surprise, those guys were for years without sex. Ofcourse right away I blame porn and stop any contact with them.
Now my affair period starting to get over and I am thinking about relationship again. Have had about 5 non physical dates with a man, but I am way too suspicious that I will just experience porn caused problems again. He is around 40, no big experience with women, with low self-esteem and with compulsive eating/gaining weight history, bullying trough all youth and depression. When I heard all this, first thing that poped-up to my mind- he most likely is deep in to porn and he won't enjoy sex with real person-me. He has succesfull career and he is taking care of me very much, and I always have found shy guys cute, but I can't get over this porn barier, which is stoping me to get seriously involved with a men.
I don't know what I really would like to hear, maybe suggestions?

 

I don't have pmo addiction... Have seen maybe 50 videos in my life.

 

I think he doesn't have overeating and depression anymore, now he has lost weight and eats healthy. It was some years ago when he had it. Ofcourse I wouldn't been dating him when he was +40 kg in his not tall body. But low self-esteem is still there due to the fact that he doesn't have a relationship or attention from women in general. So I assume he has been O daily for the last 10 years only to porn. I doubt it hasn't left consequences.
Well, I am on tranquilizators for some months because of my ex bf's addiction and lies, manipulation, aggression he did to hide it. So I have medical help.
But should I speak eith psychologist about seeing signs in all men about pmo addiction?

 

Although I never had problems with guys or finding a sex partners, being in relationship (when i wanted), I also have low self-esteem since I remember myself, that's why I am into plastic surgery and had done operations/procedures just because ''this could be smaller, that could be bigger'', always use make up, taking care of not geting fat etc. So I feel closer emotionally with not so confident, shy guys because our mentality is similar. Ofcourse if they are not into substance addictions, video games and I added now porn to this list.

 

To one of my friend with benefits (almost 20 years older than me) during last months i asked about his porn habit, explaining that my ex had issues with that and I don't want to experience that again. Ofcourse he said he was shocked about my ex behaviour etc and that he is watching it once a month. But although i saw that he is crazy about me, he is shaking while kissing and huging with me, when we had sex he always lost erection in first seconds and i always had to masturbate him. Sometimes even that didn't work. So after me asking and asking about reasons he after two months confessed that he watches porn daily. What I want to say with this- men almost never tell truth about their porn usage, so there is even no point to ask.