wait a second, are problems here really for me?

From the short introduction provided, you sound very much like me. A reboot can actually liberate you from the thought that having O's is somehow necessary (it isn't). If you think about it, after a certain number of days, the physiological changes associated with increasing urges have a point where they don't increase further. From there, it is completely possible for the mind to rewire and accept that point as the new normal. In such a manner, new habits are formed and old habits broken. Like you, reading about many experiences here really was eye-opening and they absolutely seem very severe (they are severe). The knowledge and experience gained from my (admittedly short) 135 days in hardmode was and is incredibly valuable. Porn is rarely a black and white issue and one thing that I have been able to do is tease out what portions of my old behavior were detrimental to my goals and to my life progress. For other ways to take care of sex needs, you might look into the concept of transmuting sexual energy (for the record and for context, my current frequency and usage is almost identical to your habits and is by choice).

 

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

 

Your porn habits are similar to my SOs. Although he did go on binges when he had more time alone than usual but for the most part, he was like you (from what I understand). He therefore did not seem to think this had any impact on our life together. His addiction started before we met. What he didn't realize was that it had a huge impact on our relationship. While single, you may not notice that what you are doing has an impact on anything in your life, but if you were to find a partner, it will have an impact on your relationship.

My sex life with my SO was strained due to his desensitization from porn. He was not interested in having sex very much, and usually it seemed almost a chore he had to do so I wouldn't get upset. He had delayed ejaculation, and when he had binged, he sometimes developed ED as well. He was emotionally distant, self centred, irritable and not able to understand how I or others felt. He never thought there was a problem. He never thought that his porn use was affecting us and therefore he never admitted or tried to stop it. I believe this is because this addiction started while single and before getting involved in a serious relationship.

Yes some people have an extreme addiction here. But that doesn't mean your porn use isn't affecting you. It just may be harder to see the side effects because you don't have to be concerned with anyone else. Getting your addiction under control now, will help you when you do get involved with someone else. For some, viewing porn once in a while isn't a problem for them. But viewing it daily is probably an addiction. If you abstain from porn for a bit, you will start to experience withdrawal symptoms and that will show you that it is more serious of a problem than you thought. Atleast that is what really made my SO realize he actually did have an addiction. Read up on this addiction from the link that was provided on the post above mine. Good luck!

 

Some authors (Gary Wilson, Ben Shapiro, Noah Church, George Collins, Wendy Maltz) have been argued that porn use in any quantity can be dangerous in many aspects, such as relationship (you see your girlfriend less interesting), sexual life (e.g. erection), anxiety, can develop depression and so forth. According to some researchers (see articles on Google Scholar with the keyword 'porn addiction'), PMO activate our brain's reward system and develop in long term these and others problems.