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How important is penis size?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Indignation, Jul 24, 2015.

  1. Jesser

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    Read somewhere majority of the nerve endings that cause pleasure for women are at the opening. Size doesnt matter. Its all about technique.
     
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  2. Honestly I've never felt nervous about my penis size, Im not even sure what size it is and what the standard size is for men, I guess the only comparison I had was male porn star but I heard they inject their genitals with enhancement drugs so thats no real comparison.

    I remember I had an embarrassing experience during my school years when me and bunch of friends visited a neighbourhood in my area where another school friend lived and he was with girls from our school too hanging out. So being the type of dude he was showing off to girls he got behind me while I showing a video to someone on my phone and he pulled down my pants, I mean he really gripped on to my pants and pulled it down forcefully along with my boxers, lol you know that old stupid school boy prank, its gay as hell but nobody cared. There I was with my penis dangling and the girls laughed hard as well as my friends who wrer pointing and laughing, they all had same prank to them done to them some time in the past too but not to this extent, atleast their underwear did't come down too. I wasn't ready for it (luckily it was in a neighbourhood and not the main parts of my area) I had a slight delayed reaction when it happened cause I had no place to put my phone, I dropped it and pulled it up. So the girls got a 3 second glimpse on my penis, I thought the girls were laughing at my penis, but they were laughing at the fact that I got pranked now that I look back because the next week of school, I heard nothing about it, no rumours not teasing no insults its like it never happened, another boy in school has his penis revealed in a different way I believe during a PE changing room and that gossip took a matter of an hour to go around, the girls told everyone he had a baby dick. So based on that knowledge alone I feel that the girls thought I had a respectable size for a 15 year old and probably discussed it amongst themselves, I mean what kind of rumour would that be to spread that I had my pants pulled down when the girls had nothing bad to say about what they saw underneath, but if they thought it was little... believe me they wouldn't hesitate to tell everyone just like they did to that boy with the small penis.

    Apart from that, I recall two chicks telling me during sex that its "too big" but then again that was only asian girls who complained and to be frank their vaginas where too tight anyway so that didn't give me a rough idea of what a females criteria of how big a penis should be, I guess it all depends on the female.
     
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  3. erik44

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    There is a saying that bigger the better. To some extent this saying is correct but to satisfy your girl its not that important to be paid attention. Because to be factual for satisfying a women you just need to have to somewhat around 3 inches of size. And that's something every guy is facilitated with. Therefore most important thing to satisfy a women is the technique you are using, the stamina you have and how best you make use of available size. And hence erection should be extremely hard and firm for superior intercourse performance.
    Thus better pay attention that whether you are getting porpper erection or not. In order to get harder erection you must avoid any sort of alcohol or tobacco habits. For more details: stephanictaylor.wix.c__/get-harder-erection
     
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  4. Kazzy

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    Bro dick size is another porn thought. Men have been mating centuries before introduction to internet pornography. Porn tells you that if you have a small dick your inadequate, thats just Bullsh*t. Average is good and healthy. no need to take dick steroids and kill yourself :D
     
  5. TheIdealMan

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    Interesting discussion. Good to reaffirm that size doesn't really matter.

    What even is the average size? And um... how do you even measure?
     
  6. StewartSays

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    When I was in my teens I used to worry about the size of my perfectly average size, mainly due to the false perception with porn. I'm 6" I'm happy with it. Flacid it looks smallish but I don't care. Iv seen way small in the gym showers and guys Iv dated so I'm not fussed. I genuinly think the cure to not worrying about penis size is firsty stop watching porn and join a gym and take a good look (in a non-perving way) for yourself!
     
  7. Kennen

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    It really depends...
    I've interviewed some, others like longer penis.
    others like thicker.

    No one told me about that they like smaller penis.
    Anyway.. Your penis is average, not small. You'll be fine.

    Just like what they mentioned, technique/s also matters.
     
  8. StewartSays

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    To be honest I care more if it's uncut or cut.
     
  9. overclocked

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    As with testosterone levels... average = ideal. Everyone wants to be above average in everything but when it comes to these things then what is normal is usually the best.

    @ Zen Meister Haha. Got my pants pulled down during a "dance battle".
     
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  10. GentryBentonElevate

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    In my case, I have a pretty small penis. At first, I was not at all confident with the size. But coming to terms with myself and accepting that it’s the only one tool in the bedroom, I compensated on improving in other sexual areas such as foreplay, using my tongue and fingers. Also, I focused on my image because how are you going to get a girl in the first place if you have a problem in self-image.

    I started reading sites about self-improvement, improving my health, fitness, and improving my pickup skills. Some sites i highly recommend are http://www.artofmanliness.com/, http://www.mensaxis.com/ and http://www.mantelligence.com/

    Sure some girls want big penises but most don't really care. You just have to gain confidence and find your own market.
     
  11. The Progressive One

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    My penis is so GARGANTUAN that when I do a 45-degree turn the girl has to duck to avoid getting hit!
     
  12. about a girl

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    In my opinion it's much more about preference .. than importance .. In porn however a well endowed penis is preferred it looks attractive and the sexy look makes money .. It is then of importance that the performer looks his best ..
     
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  13. JustinX

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    [POSSIBLE TRIGGERS WHEN IMAGINING]
    I give you the best answer as you can get to your question using perfect analogy with woman tits (that you and every guy can easily relate to):

    1.Would you be more turned on at beginning if a girl undresses and shows big firm tits? Probably yes.
    Would a girl be more turned on at beginning if you undress and show big fat cock? Probably yes.

    2. Would your sexual satisfaction and actual orgasm be better if she has bigger tits than smaller tits? Probably not.
    Would her sexual satisfaction and actual orgasm be better if you have a big cock? Probably not.

    3. Would you like to have a girlfriend with big firm tits? Probably yes.
    Would a girl like to have a boyfriend with big cock? Probably yes.

    4. Would you dump your girlfriend with amazing personality (who you love) just because she has small tits? Probably not.
    Would a girl dump you if you have amazing personality for her and she love you just because you have small cock? Probably not.

    5. Would a bigger tits add to womens confidence? Probably yes, but it is just one part of confidence.
    Would a bigger penis add to mens confidence? Probably yes, but it is just one part of confidence.

    6. Would you be more turned off because girl has small tits or because she has complexes about her small tits (for example she never want to show them). Probably the second.
    Would a girl be more turned off because you have small cock or because you have complexes about it? Probably the second.

    I could continue like this forever. Basically if you have any question about your cock you can use boobs equivalent and you will know the answer.
    You would be surprised how many girls feel insecure about they boobs and ask on women forums "How important is a boobs size" and answer is exactly what I wrote above.

    Yes it might matter to some people if it is absolute extreme. For example:
    I dumped the girl, because she is flat as an airport runway and I feel like if I am fucking 10 year old little girl, what do not turns me on.
    I dumped the boy, because he has 3 cm erected micropenis and I don't feel it at all, what do not turns me on.

    But if you are under average but not that total extreme previous answers fully apply for majority people. So do not worry, do not have complexes about it, just accept it and try to enjoy the moment. So she will then.
    Sex is not only penis and tits, in relationship sex is much deeper, emotional state, foreplay, technique, endurance, mutual compatibility plays much bigger role then size of cock or tits.
     
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  14. SnowWhite

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    Whatever penis size you have: When you feel insecure about, she will feel it and will lose interest.

    Women like confidence, and they dislike insecurity.

    A man should be strong, determined and caring, that's the winner and super-arouser.
     
  15. SnowWhite

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    Counter question:

    Many women feel insecure about their breast size.

    Now consider these two women:
    • One woman has large breasts, but constantly she is looking insecure into the mirror; also she likes sex, but honestly, she is dull and boring.
    • Another woman has small breasts, but wow, she is so inspired, full of life, confident and super erotic, and you will have exciting hours with her!
    ==> So whom would you prefer?
     
  16. @Indignation

    Hello Mate,

    This topic is quite often discussed in the society.

    I guess that men like to compete and girls like to tease guys out about it.

    (Yep, very sensitive indeed ;-))

    I would say that the preferences definitely differ... As you most likely know, Vagina is "elastic" so it can accommodate various sizes.

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    To your question, I would not bother about it too much about size.

    Reasons:

    1. Sex is not just about penetration.
    (Porn is teaching you that it is, but that's bullshit)

    2. Sex should be about love, appreciation, comfort and cuddling and then obviously about the rest.

    3. Maybe it is time to let go of your insecurities...

    4. I am pretty sure that every girl would prefer a good solid guy over an idiot with a huge penis. (Well, I know what I am talking about, I used to be the second one for majority of my life...)

    5. I would say, you be yourself, you take care and enjoy the time and the love making.

    If you would ever would be self-conscious again, than just try the "missionary position" with the pillow under her butt. (this will give you another 1-2 inches)...
     
  17. nomo

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    For my own ego I would like a big dick, but being average size has not been an issue for the women I've been with. I'm somewhat self centered and as much as I try to please a woman and want to please the women I have sex with, in the end it's my pleasure that matters the most. The size of my dick has nothing to do with the pleasure that I experience or the pleasure that the women I'm with experience. It's the emotional connection that matters and are you having fun with the sex or is it just a boring routine.
     
  18. nomo

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    Excellent, that's a great analogy and so true.
     
  19. Eskorbuto

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    You can have a big tool, but if you don't know use it, then it's like you don't have that tool. Also, the most sensitive part of the vagina is the first 3-4 cm, more or less, because upon this point is the G spot. So, if you know how to use it, then, enjoy it.

    I recommend you to read about Taoism, e.g. Daniel Reid.
     
  20. Ikindaknew

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    Well said. And lets not forget that the big penis thing is driven by porn nowadays. Seeing ladies rolling eyes when they see the big shlong. And see some of them orgasm million times, then the others that are either really hurt or pretendign they are...its almost like violence to the women.

    The piledriving, BBC and the weird angles make you think the women are craving for this.

    But trust me, if you go too far (cervix), you'll know it...the last thing you want to do during sex is to HURT the lady.
     

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