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Found out my dad watches porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by TrueHuman, May 28, 2016.

  1. TrueHuman

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    We were driving to a museum and he asked me to look on his phone for directions to the place. I went on the internet and saw fucking pornhub. I quickly tried to change the browser to a fresh page but it took a while and was awkward. I think he realized I found out. I told him about my porn addiction a while ago. It's sad.

    I hope this hasn't ruined my progress at all. I mean you have to intentionally watch porn to relapse right? This was clearly unintentional but nevertheless I felt effected such as when we were at the museum, there were these two sexy girls. Damn they were both looking at me ( I'm an attractive guy) and they even went up to me clearly trying to talk to me. But I was too nervous to say anything. I haven't intentionally watched porn in 6 months and usually I am the one going up and talking to girls, but this time I just couldn't. The fucking 3 seconds of porn fucked me up already, this is a powerful thing. I came home and just jacked off to those two girl but the orgasm sucked because I had a limp dick.
    Jesus Christ can I ever be a normal horny 20 year old? Did 3 secs on porn fuck up 6 months of rebooting? Now I'll admit i had been doing cocaine recently but still I was fine up until I saw that stupid video.
    Sometimes I just feel like I'll be like this forever, I just wanna be able to go up to women like I use to and talk to them and have an erect dick for them. I'm not a virgin but Jesus Christ porn is unbelievably powerful.
    I just feel like becoming a junkie because I can't stand this life anymore I've tried my best and my dad who I look up to watches porn. Feel like I'm ganna cry.
     
    Last edited: May 28, 2016
  2. DannyCool

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    My Dad does it too and he is 74. Just cause he does it does not mean I have to do it.
     
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  3. TrueHuman

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    Im not ganna ever watch porn again, I don't go backwards. But damn idk it's just sad really
     
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  4. IGY

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    Most dads do
     
  5. Galarian Milo

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    TrueHuman:
    1. Your dad watches porn. You have watched porn in the pass. I struggle with PMO... Rather than stigmatizing the subject or losing hope in people, we need to remember that we can all do better and that there is hope for us. You must be a good guy. I know it because you are trying to improve. Your dad must be a good guy as well: don't focus on the imperfections but rather see the good in him. And in yourself ;)
    2. Yeah it sucks to relapse... But try to see it as a restart rather than a relapse and congratulate yourself ! You were clean of PMO for 6 months... That is roughly 180 days on which you decided to exert self control and being true to your commitment! 180 days! That is so amazing :D
    3. Don't do drugs! ;)
     
  6. TrueHuman

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    Why did I relapse if I saw it by accident?
     
  7. about a girl

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    My dad watched porn while my mom was in hospice at home dying from stage 4 breast cancer .. I went to use his laptop with his permission to look up some medical terms .. The tabs were all porn :( Taking care of my mom was very difficult so I dismissed it .. Years later I meet my ex fiance who is a porn addict .. Strange how life is isn't it ?
     
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  8. TrueHuman

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    It's an epidemic
     
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  9. about a girl

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    Yes it is .. You know we don't even know each other but I can honestly say I am glad you're here .. You may relapse but it's OK it happens :( You are trying give yourself credit :)
     
  10. Yugae

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    Does he know the drawbacks of watching P ? You told him about your addiction a while ago, that's great ! But does he fully understand the consequences of P addiction ? Watching P without knowing them has been the norm for most viewers for years before they found out.
     
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  11. about a girl

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    My ex fiance thinks I'm crazy to be upset about the porn .. "hey its normal for guys " " It has nothing to do with you : yada yada..
     
  12. Yugae

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    "Everything popular is wrong" - Oscar Wilde
    P included.
     
  13. Galarian Milo

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    Addiction is a very interesting thing and sadly not enough research has been done in the field of porn addiction, but with addictions in general, it has been shown that people are more at risk to act on their addiction in moments of high stress, whether this stress is good, which is called eustress (stress experienced when winning the lottery or receiving really good news like becoming a dad for example) or when stress is really bad, which is known as distress (when you lose your job, or someone dies, or you find out your dad is watching porn) Rather than dwelling so much in the why, come up with a game plan; try to identify how you were feeling, identify "thinking traps" and set a gameplan to use when such mind traps appear. Practice your plan daily...even if you don't feel tempted to act in your PMO at the moment (practice this game plan as if it were a fire drill...that works for some people).

    You may be struggling with an addiction, but your addiction is not who you are; you are a child of God with immense potential. :)
     
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  14. immanuel.iitd

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  15. TrueHuman

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    "Cool"...?
    Ummm,....why is that?
     
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  16. Veritech

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    I went to my father's for a family dinner. I wanted to have a conversation with the grown ups, so I put on a DVD for my children in the family room.

    I hit the eject button on the player and inside was a porn DVD with explicit sex on the DVD itself. I hid the DVD and did a secret switchback after the kids watched their show.

    Sex is powerful. Porn transcends generations, races, genders and ages. It affects lonely people and people in relationships.
     
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  17. Dizzy Lotus

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    That must've been rough [​IMG]
    You said you jacked off to the girls, right?
     
  18. TrueHuman

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    Only to imagination, and it was the girls I saw at the museum, not the girls in the porn vid
     
  19. TheStand

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    I would count that as a relapse. It clicked your mind and made you think and do those actions. Just start from the beginning and maybe talk to your dad about it, introduce him to NoFap, and have him start the challenge?
    Good luck.
     
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  20. TrueHuman

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    Fuck that lol. Intentionally watching porn is a relapse, everything else isn't.
     

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