My hard mode life

Hey man! Sounds like things have been rough for you, but I mean, it's gotta be awesome know that you've beat addictions before, even if this one appears to be the hardest one yet. At least you have the confidence of knowing you've already done it.

The social life seems rough, and I've experienced a little bit of that lately (am sure all fapstraunauts have at one point or another). I've realized not having "real" roommates (ideally other guy "friends" your age) makes it a lot harder to meet new people, so I'm moving to a new apartment next week (as I'm a student) in order to start making new friends.

Like I said sounds like things have been rough, but it's a lot easier if you have support from others. If you want/need an accountability partner I'm more than happy to help you out. I'm also short of one, and I'm more than willing to help out however I can. I'm just trying to get that streak going just like you

 

Loneliness is something I've struggled with as well, especially after moving to a new place and not knowing anyone. In my past, I was usually always blessed with one really good friend. That is not so true anymore... being in my twenties, we've all moved on to other things and places. Being rather introverted, I had to really force myself to get out there and attempt to make social contact. I ended up on meetup.com and even OKCupid (it's actually pretty good for looking for friends, too) and have at least met up with some people and go to a community drum circle once in a while. With a lot of those meetups, you can hang on the periphery until you are comfortable enough to introduce yourself.

If you're weary about meeting with physical people right away, the forums are a great start to getting social and fighting against the loneliness many of us Fapstronauts struggle with. We're in this together. We encourage each other. Keep up the good work, man. Two days is a great start.

 

Hey man,

Just wanted to say. You'vre been through a lot of shit. But you kept your head up, and you show volonty to improve yourself. That's just awesome. I'm pretty sure if you stick to NoFap you'll see your mood change drastically. I experienced this.

I also know that loneliness is hard. I had period with lot of friends, and some with just no one to talk. But hey.. what's the point to have so much people with no deep connection ? Why not inviting someone with whom you have good "contact" for a drink or share a workout/running ? let's try ?

Good luck buddy.

 

Yeah, I'm going through huge mood swings and no to little close friends to talk. Living in a foreign country, this place helps.

 

Hey one thing that helped me was meditation. I do 20 minutes before and after sleep. Start with 5 and work your way up to 30.
Good luck!

 

You're right about quitting porn not solving all your problems, but I think you'll be surprised at how much it does change your feelings and moods. Not that you'll suddenly love being around people once you've left work, but your moods will be a little easier to manage. Porn really is like other drugs, and just like smoking or alcohol or any substance, people get antsy and then take a hit to calm down, not realizing how much control it has over them. Low expectations are probably wise, but I would not be surprised to see that you feel way better if you can stay away from PMO (pornography, masturbation, and orgasm) for awhile.

Thanks for sharing your story!