Mark My Words

Hey ChronicTeen, I like your plan and that your 16 your old mind thought up such an ambitious 'scorched earth' method. In my 30s now, I had just came up with the $50 to charity bit in an act of desperation and it did help quite a bit. I really like your monthly success charity idea and think I will incorporate that into my portfolio should I make it to 30 days. When I was 16 the thought that the PMO universe and all it's vastness could be defeated or that it was supposed to be defeated was hard to grasp as the culture surrounding me was saying exactly the opposite. I was weak minded with no strong convictions.

What I would like to add is that a regular charity plan is something I have found helpful and has given me a very healthy relationship with money, at least compared to my pre-charity life. I do a percentage of whatever income I might have. I then adopted this $50 relapse charity on top of that which I figured would be my way of kicking the PMO gods in the teeth as I went down in flames, as at least something positive would be guaranteed to rise from the ashes of my depravity.

Also, I think that going into full lockdown/scorched earth mode on all electronics in your living space, to create a fort knox against porn is important. The internet is a highly dangerous place. Porn, viruses, identity theft, gambling, hacking, witchcraft, drugs, elaborate scams, etc.

I am a mid-level tech person and I think that the following are necessary if you are serious about breaking the legs of internet porn:

1. delete all sexual content
2. install Bluecoat K9 software (free), add what website exemptions you need. Write down a complex password that you can't remember and then throw it away after you set it.
3. set your router to protected DNS servers like familyshield. Do the same password stuff to your router.

This is where I am at right now. I am considering the following steps:

4. Putting the router and cable modem into a steel utility lock box and giving the key to a trusted person or just throwing it away and/or putting super glue on the factory reset button and cables so that I basically need to buy new equipment in order to bypass it.

This stuff is serious, it is either you or PMO and I think no matter what level of addiction you have, drastic measures need to be taken. Come hell or high water! Short of throwing out your computer and stopping your internet service, this is a very reasonable approach that will allow you to make use of the positive aspects of the internet, such as this fine oasis.

In closing, I think that while a serious approach to PMO is needed, a somewhat lighter regard of the PMO universe itself is apt. Consider the language that surrounds this crap: fapping, and I rest my case as to not even draw attention to the idiocy of this plague of stupid.

 

That's a really nice point of view. I like that you highlight the point that we still always come back even after our failures. I've always beaten myself up over relapsing when I told myself it would be the last time. I understand now though that some people do it differently. I also remember the quote "If you scold a fish for not being able to climb a tree, it will spend it's whole life thinking it's stupid." Or at least I think it went something like that. We are all different, some are born or gain will that is harder than steel and some of us don't, we shouldn't fuss over the things we lack and cannot do, we have to look positively into what we can do and accomplishment.

And OP, I admire your confidence and strong resolve.

 

Glad to hear of your success. I have yet to take the more drastic measures I mentioned above because I am finding myself being restrained enough by what I currently have in place. Though I may just do some of the more drastic things just for the heck of it so that I can scream 'YOU SHALL NOT PASS' at my internet connection.

Keep on truckin in that new way of life you got going.