Why I deactivated Facebook. And why you should consider it to

I didn't read the whole thread, but have you guys considered keeping your facebook profile and just turning your feed offline?
Same effect: you don't care what others are doing and have still the option to communicate with everyone

This might help

 

I never had a Facebook and my wife has long since stopped posting on hers. However sometimes she skims through to see what people are posting. It's always the same kinds of things: pictures of a cup of Starbucks and a book, pictures of a child, eight girls standing with one another at a wedding wearing the same dress and the same smile. Whenever I spend time around my cousin and his (very young) wife, it always stands out to me about how much of her attention is focused on what to post next, who to tag, etc. It makes me feel kind of sad for her.

My wife on the other hand makes me so proud. We always joke about posting when something nice or awesome happens to us, but of course she never does. She actually enjoyed not posting a single picture or comment from our recent trip to DC. None of her friends even know we went. They all probably think her life is incredibly boring since she hasn't posted anything in months. I think eventually she will be decide on deleting it altogether, which would be awesome.

 

I see a lot of truly independent thinkers in this thread, what a inspirational place!

 

Cool song, now may I share a song completely unrelated to the topic at hand, or is it completely related?



Completely related....

Strive, strive, surmount the obstacles
Become the essence of your goals
Hereditary dream
Pray that you may attain that destiny
Fall into the coveted line
Where life is but a theme
Of pretense in lustrous guise

Claims and values
Charts of means and status
Plaques to show your strife
Do your neighbour clones approve

Picture perfect illustration
Imitation of life
Where the path is evened out
All obstructions removed

Great viable citizen
Are you happy now?
Then praise your God and bow

Shimmering surface
The gleam of blinding lies
Become the product
The thing you so desire

To what length would you go to reach your goals?
What mantra will you use to justify your means?
Who will you betray to secure your dream?
What sins will you commit to avoid your sins be seen?

Do not look down
Do not look down
Or the abysmal beast of non-conformity
Might stare some unpleasant truth
Into your desensitized mind

Shimmering surface
The gleam of blinding lies
Become the product
The thing you so desire

And I do not have a facebook account because I am not content with my life currently and did not feel like I measured up career and socially-wise to other people, sad what facebook encourages, but also I do see the value in social media when used with mindfulness.

I may open a social media account in the future. But not for a year or more at least, once my life is at a point where I want to share it with the world.

 

I agree Monster as so many on FB its more about being popular or wanting to look good to others or starting debates on things to get attention. People befriend each other that dont even know each other and never get to know each other-its like a contest to see who has the most friends. I find it time wasting to be screwing around on there just to be socially popular. I only have mine to post end time events of prophecies coming true in the Bible that are in the news each week but I dont have any personal stuff on there and dont let others post it on mine as well. Mine is just part of my ministry otherwise I would have deleted it a long time ago..

 

Excellent post @YiboW as what the article said was so true how everyone puts their best foot (or mask) forward on FB so they look happy and successful all the time to everyone else and that never helps anyone but themselves. I have noticed FB is about people being even more self centered then they already are. I like to advance Gods kingdom on this earth so I can have my rewards in heaven but everyone needs to look at their own lives to see what kinds of things are they promoting on fb to others that will advance others lives rather then just their own..

 

HELL YES!! FINALLY!
I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER FIND FELLOW METALHEADS HERE!

\m/
Freaking Meshuggah and Dream Theater man! Legends of Technical/Progressive.

 

thank you for this! this site is so awesome!

 

I think it’s unhealthy to obsess over other peoples’ lives. There’s a kid in my graduating high school class that got into Harvard. He was a real prick and it drove me nuts. I would use Facebook to periodically check up on how he was doing in life. And I don’t mean message him. I mean scroll through his feed anonymously. I did this for probably 3 years and all it really did was depress me. This kid and I worked just as hard in life and somehow he gets laid and has friends. It made me crazy and angry.

You want to compare yourself with people (particularly, successful people). But at some point you have to accept that you're trying your best and sometimes that isn't good enough. When I was younger, I used to get furious with myself for not being smart enough in class or fast enough playing sports. Now at 24, with a little more knowledge about myself I look at the positives in life and embellish upon those things.

This video really helped me become a better learner and a more humble human being:



And of course there are the women. I’ve crept through more profile pics of hot college chicks than I care to mention.

 

YiboW, I've never been a huge fan of facebook. I get tired of the pointless posts about what people had for breakfast or telling me where they are, or the stupid videos that my exes Son would push in my face showing a dog chasing it's tail or something equally banal. But mostly, and most pertinently I hate the mechanism of voyeurism it creates where curiosity about someone else's life drives me in particular to want to know what they are doing/saying. Again, this is in relation to my ex, and while breaking up, she posted fairly regularly to tell the world how '#lifeisgood' or how she could now 'live wild and roam free' given that a 'settled life' had failed, or another post was about how she now had 'people around her who had her back'. All of which, to my mind was designed for me to read an feel pain about, regardless of my depression or other issues.

Clearly she was in pain. Clearly I was the cause of most of that pain and once we had a misunderstanding on FB chat, as I guess is often the case unless you're looking into someone's eyes, and she told me she was seeing someone else, she blocked me...Though we still share a number of common friends, as such it still feels like my only route of communication to her...

But I have stopped using it, I don't want to see anything about her on their feeds either....Having said that, I'm considering placing a status about my impending rehab....

 

I deactivated Facebook and am so glad I did. I think most people post there to induce envy in others... even if it's subconscious. I was tired of seeing all the glossed poses and smiles with a lack of reality and substance and I did not like my reaction to it.

 

Gauld...I don't know which of those two are more irritating.

 

I use fb for sports just to read up on articles posted by sports center etc

 

You are absolu

You are absolutely right bro.....Facebook friends are all fake...you can't share any of the feelings with them....nifap is much much better than that....I deactivated my fb account few hours ago....and I really started feeling the difference..

 

The only way in which I use facebook is to communicate with people I have no other way of talking to in real life, I usually don't add people I see every day for example. Technology has always been a mix of good and bad, with wisdom you can maximize the good and minimize the bad, without it you might end up in a very dark place.

 

Dude, tell me about it man. I unfollowed all of my friends on Facebook and I only follow news articles. I only keep my account unlocked so I can talk to people on messenger every now and then.

Since then, not using Facebook has made me exponentially happier. I stopped comparing myself to others. I stopped looking at past ex girlfriends and I can finally move forward. I'm no longer depressed. And there are no stupid triggers in my newsfeed of some girl from my high school taking ratchet pics.

It's infinitely better man!

 

Here's another reason why should you deactivated Facebook Mark Zuckerberg calls his user Dumbf***kers.
http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2012/may/18/mark-zuckerberg-college-messages