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Is sex a good way to control cravings?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by seth, Feb 26, 2014.

  1. Feb 26, 2014 #1
    seth

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    I had a long autobiographical post earlier, but no one responded so I'll try just asking my questions this time.

    I'm a few days in now and wanted to know if I had an urge, sex is a good way to crave it? I'm in a wonderful relationship, and told my girlfriend about it and she's absolutely supportive and cool with abstaining. But I'm wondering if it would be better to have sex once in a while? Is it okay to MO without P if the chaser effect does exist? My goal is for the most part to stop P, but I'm only focused on slowing down MO in general. Any thoughts?
     
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  2. Feb 26, 2014 #2
    aron

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    Hi seth.

    I also have a girlfriend whom I've told about nofap and she supported me from the beginning. My intention is to quit P for good, and I don't mind if I MO once in a while. So I installed K9 and stopped looking at P. The result was that my desire to MO diminished significantly, and as a result I haven't MO since I stopped watching P. On the other hand I've been having sex with my girlfriend for the whole duration of nofap. My first and only relapse was due to the chaser effect (see this thread for explanation of the chaser effect http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?5219-Chaser-effect-what-and-why&highlight=chaser+effect). But once I learned what it is and became aware of it's effect, I could enjoy having sex without worrying ever again of relapsing due to its effect. Total abstention, aka hard mode, is not really necessary, unless you have a serious case of erectile dysfunction (ED). I had a problem with ED, in the sense that I could get it up, but couldn't orgasm. If your case is that you cannot even get an erection that it's generally recommended that you do nofap on hard mode, otherwise orgasms from sex due not interfere with your recovery. I hope this answers your question. Let me know if you want more explanations.
     
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  3. Feb 26, 2014 #3
    William

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    Hi seth, what aron says. Porn is the problem. I don't MO because I cannot MO without thinking of porn. Porn is the button we push to get a dopamine fix. The chaser effect is real.

    aron's story is almost exactly the same as mine.

    Peace.
     
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  4. Feb 26, 2014 #4
    alexs

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    what do u mean by hardmode...i am doing pmo...does that mean i am doing it in hard mode???????
     
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  5. Feb 26, 2014 #5
    freedomwarrior

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    read more and more and more and look at the terminology section on the home page

    Hard Mode: NoFap without any sexual release (even via a partner)
     
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  6. Feb 26, 2014 #6
    bittenbysnakes

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    alexs, hard mode is abstaining from both PMO AND sexual relations with a partner during the entirety of the challenge.
     
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  7. Feb 26, 2014 #7
    seth

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    Thanks for your reply! I didn't know that hard mode was mostly intended for ED-related issues. I have fortunately not suffered from anything of that sort, so that's good to hear that I shouldn't worry about abstaining from sex all together.

    I haven't looked at P for however many days now(6, I believe) and it really hasn't been that hard to avoid MO all together. I will allow myself to MO if I have a craving, and sex goes right up that ally, but I think I'm going to slow down during this reboot stage. I know you said you didn't MO that much after quitting porn, but did you consciously try to stop it? Or are you slowing down like I am (thus far)? And by relapsing, do you mean you MO'd or PMO'd?

    I appreciate your feedback. Congrats on almost hitting 90 days. Lots of respect!
     
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  8. Feb 26, 2014 #8
    seth

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    I also forgot to mention, I actually ran into this site after installing K9, with the intention of blocking out facebook for periods of time (because of procrastination). When I saw the "pornography" button (to be blocked) I gave it a try. Found out through YBOP that I was addicted and it's been extremely eye opening how few men realize they are addicted. It's not even denial for many, it's lack of awareness that you can be addicted.
     
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